Will doing this make my BF feel bad?

Question

I heard he wants to break up with me, so would getting my friends to text/call him and tell him not to and what a great person I am help? and acting all depressed....and telling him I love him with all my heart? I did somthing real real real real wrong and he doesnt want to see me or hear my vioce so ME talking to him is not an option. but I cant just sit hear and let it happen. :(
OH, AND DONT EVEN TRY SAYING THAT WHOLE " MOVE ON AND GET OVER HIM" BULL SH IT CAUSE WHEN YOU SPEND EVERY HOUR OF EVERYDAY WITH THE PERSON U LOST YOUR V CARD TO, FOR A FEW MONTHS, "MOVING ON OR LETTING THINGS GO IS NOT AN OPTION" .......there has to be somthing i can do/say :/

Answer 1

Well, you already know the answer, just because you don't want to hear it doesn't mean it isn't true. You need to grow up and not do any of those real bad things, otherwise you won't get far in any relationship. And no, none of those things will help, this guy seems to have made up his mind, all those things you mentioned would be manipulative and annoying to him. You sound as though you are too dependent on those around you, try becoming a little more independent and self reliant. It's not healthy to spend "every hour of everyday" with anyone. This guy has made up his mind and it is only going to be torture to you to try and dwell on getting him back, and the harder you try the farther away you will push him. Take some time to focus on maturing and figuring out who you are before you get into another relationship, it will be very beneficial to you and whomever you start a relationship with.



ADD - writing a letter isn't nearly as effective with guys as it is with girls. A guy won't associate a letter with putting in hard work or lots of thought, just doesn't work like that. You have to give him time and space, anything else will make him feel like your are smothering him and make him push farther away. You made a mistake, now you will have to wait and see what the consequences of that mistake are, and then show some responsibility for you actions and accept the consequences.

Answer 2

Put everything in a letter, that way he can take everything in at his own pace. To be totally honest, his friends are probably the ones trying to get him to dump you...(Just as girl friends would do if someone BF hurt them, they say move on they can do better blah blah) But the fact is, if he didn't do it on the spot, he's second guessing it and may not be ready to fully let you go! Writing a letter is on his terms, he can read it however he wants to, without getting his or your friends involved. He probably wants to hear from you, but hearing your voice is too hard for him right now. In the letter, let him know how much you have learned from your mistake(s) and the threat of losing him is a feeling you will never forget and just really reinforce how much you truly love him! Tell him you will wait for him whenever he is ready to talk to you again, and you will be anxiously awaiting his call for when he is ready...

Answer 3

If you did make a mistake let some time pass for things to cool down and then try to apologize. If too much time has passed or your apology isn't accepted I'm afraid moving on is inevitable. I know how bad it feels not to be able to make things right but these things happen to everybody at some point in life. Were just people doomed to make mistakes and no one is perfect. Don't let what he thinks shatter your sense of self. Forgive yourself for whatever you did and learn from your mistake so your next relationship will be better.

Answer 4

Well what did you do so wrong? It's kind of hard to help. Have you tried sending him a letter. I know that is highly "Old fashioned" but really, it shows that you took time and actually care. Sure, anyone can go and type an email or text, but it takes time to go and hand write an apology. In the letter tell him how sorry you are for what you did and how much you love him. Make it very sincere. I hope I help.

Answer 5

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