i like this guy at work?

Question

i am married and really love my husband. Before you become judgemental realize my husband travels alot for his work. When he is here i cant get enough of him because ilove him so much. However, in the past 6 months his work has demanded more of him and because of that i go months without seeing him . I do talk on the phone but its always for 5 or 10 mins a day. I tell him constantly that i am lonely and need him around more. Finacially theres nothing he can but quit his job. I know he wants to be with me more but his work prevents that. The loneliness is really getting me. I am constantly hit on by guys but never had any mutual feelings becuase i am truely inlove with my husband. However lately one particular guy at work draws my attention. We flirt alot and i feel that given the oppertunity i would return the feelingsl However I also think there is no way i could do that. I know if i did my conscience would eat me alive and i would tell my husband what I have done. I dont want to but i am lonely. At work I try to avoid him but something always draws me to him. I wish this feeling away but i know its the attention that he gives me and my husband doesnt. This guys is also married so i have no intention of leaving my husband and neither does he want to leave his wife. He has cheated before and left his wife for 6 months and then went back to his wife. Trust me i know he is not ideal . However, I cant make this F******* feeling go away. My husband wont listen to me . I have considered telling him About this guy to get his attention for my feelings but my husband is really jealous and it would turn bad for me .

Answer 1

I think that you should just really be point blank and honest with your husband about this other guy that you may have feelings for. I understand that you didn't sign up to be married and not have your husband around but you knew what his work was like and you decided to marry him anyway. Also you can't really fault your husband for being dedicated to his job and I'm sure he would like to be home with you just as much as you wish for him to be there with you. Try to but yourself in your husband shoes and look at things from his perspective. Also think about what your feelings for this other guy would do to your husband. Best of luck!

Answer 2

Let me start off telling you. I can related to your answer. My husband is gone all the time. I see him on the weekends. Sometimes I get very lonely. I recently started a new job. I had the same crush on this guy at work. It was just a crush. A lot of men were hitting on me. It makes you feel good to get some attention from the opposite sex. It's like you are alive. You know it's normal to have crush and being married. The problem comes in when you start having affairs. I have never cheated on my husband.You know what I started doing. I would knit or read books. I would talk to my husband 6 or 7 times a day. That started getting old. So, I would let him call me. Then he would start coming home more. Then he would start taking a day off. That crush will pass. My crush pass. PLus the most important thing is do not loose your soul. It's just lust. I hope my answer help you

Answer 3

First of all, you are a married woman and your thought patterns are falling off the chart. If you love your husband and he is financially stable enough to sustain your lifestyle, you should quit your job if you truly wish to be with him while his job does not permit the time to do so.



If the stated issue is all that is involved, I will be judgemental here. You made an oath to love for eternity. Do you remember the words for richer or for poorer? Well, at the moment your life is poor of physical touch. Your husband loves you and is doing his duty to provide for you. I don't understand how you say you love your husband; yet, you are not content to hear his dear voice daily. Although only for 5 or 10 minutes, you should feel extremely blessed. Hey, if you truly loved that man, all he'd have to do is whisper in your ear for a second, and you'd be gone. Lady, are you sure you love your husband?



Who are you trying to kid? Stop flirting, are you stupid? You've already stated you feel lonely. How is it that you, knowing your vulnerable state, can even entertain flirting with another man. I don't care who the other man is or what his marital status is. You know you are married and are contemplating adultery. Chances are you are seeking just one person to agree with you so you will feel justified for what you plan to do. Well lady, you are way out of line and will not get any sympathy from me.



Your marriage covenant should never be compromised, no matter what. If it takes your leaving a job to keep your emotions in check, then so be it. Better yet, why don't you tell your husband what you are telling us and see where it leads. I thought so. Do the wise thing. Get yourself to a marriage counselor before you destroy something you and your husband worked hard to build.



Go to church. Seek marriage counseling. Do something constructive with your life until your husband returns. Visit him over the weekends, if possible. If you truly love him and are desperate to be with him, you will find a way other than pursuing adultery. Be a wife. If a jealous women can sneak up on her man, certainly you can be a loving supportive wife and go to your own man!

Answer 4

I'm not going to say one way or the other whether you should have a fling or not. I will ask if your husband couldn't find another job that wouldn't take him away so much. Maybe you should tell him that you really need him at home even if it means some sacrifice.(if you can say that truthfully)



I would advise against an affair with the guy at work. "You don't sh!t where you eat." There are just too many opportunities for an office affair to go wrong and then make work unpleasant or even threaten your job.

Answer 5

hello, im sorry to hear your condition now. and yeah i can imagine how is your feeling because i have long distance relationship too. well, to be honest there will always temptation when your love is far away with u. but here, u said u love your husband so much. and if u let that guy in your work always flirt at u, u ll tempt to have affair with him in consideration of u r lonely, or maybe u think your hubby doesnt know about it. but hey, your hubby is far away because of u, he trying to earn more money also for YOU. thats true, if he can, he wouldnt go far away and leave u alone. if u lonely and u have time, open your photo album when u r with him, in your wedding day and all. it will remind u to be faithful with him.

and surely if u tell him about that guy in your work, he will be jealous. now, IF u r on his position, far away from your wife, and when he comes back he knew that his wife is flirt with other guy, how would your feeling will be?



im sure u CAN make that feeling go away. remember he loves u, and u love him, remember your commitment to remind faithful, remember he is far away there to work and give u more money to fulfill your family needs. so, STOP your flirt with that guy. he is not honest because he married and flirt at u. stop day dreaming and keep your hubby in your mind.

Answer 6

I know it is hard when your hubby isn't around all the time, but you really should just ignore these feelings the best you can and try to stay away from this other guy. Every time you see him, just think of your hubby and how much you are in love with your hubby and how you want to stay with him.

Answer 7

do tell hi m about the guy and well one day just not be there wen he comes home andwen u cme bac say i was with someone who cared dont day a guy leave it at tht and if he flips say a girl who is ur friend and tell him ur never around so when u r around i wont be so u will feel the whole in ur heart tht i feel

Answer 8

and you have a husband i don't think so Missy get back in your room this time you get a time out

Answer 9

Tell him. Sh!t will be so cash.