should i continue this love or not???pls help its urgent?

Question

i got a new friend 6 months back.v became very close ..i went with him for a film and shopping..then he told me he has a crush on a girl ..i dint bother abt that v continued to b gud frends.suddenly a day he proposed the girl and she said no..then aftr some days he proposed me...i liked him and so i accepted...v r in love and v r very close....v even kissed each other...nw i feel he still has an interest in that girl...i cant continue my love with suspiciousness....so what to do???plssssssss help....

Answer 1

Sometimes an alliance is very sucessful even if one or both parties have opted for the second best choice.

Now that u have liked him and accepted his proposal, be thankful to the girl who said 'no' or u would not have got this boy

Next, be tactful, appear less possessive and less jealous, though it may hurt, try to keep him away from the girl, but do not appear nervous or fearful. Give him love, give him understanding, trust him and slowly u can change his feelings for u. Sometimes u have to work to get love.

Answer 2

Well, if he loves you and you love him by all means you should continue the relationship. I dont know this guy but maybe he still has some feelings for this girl as it has only been a few days since he proposed to her. Eventually he should get over it, you probably just need to give him some time. If giving him time to get over her doesnt work try talking to him. If this doesnt work and you still feel how you do now it would probably be best to end the relationship.

Good luck i hope it all works out for you :)

Answer 3

NO!



NO!



NO!



Just stop from there.



This relation is not safe.



He is using you.



He is malicious.



He is just a girl seeker.



He is just desperate to make girl friend.



He would ruin you.



He can't love you.



He is the worst guy.



So, START WITH A NEW GUY, ALL YOUR RELATIONS. AND ENJOY!!!



These kind of guys are easy to find, easy available for all season. hahahaaaa....



so, my dear friend, enjoy!!!



LOVE IS A PROCESS FOR YOU, WHICH YOU WANT TO CONTINUE OR DISCONTINUE, THEN WHY YOU BLAME THAT GUY.



IF YOU WERE SUSPICIOUS, YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE ACCEPTED THAT GUY EVER.



WHY THAT QUESTION NOW???



YOU MUST HAVE ACCOMPLISHED ALL YOUR PHYSICAL NEEDS, THEN WANT TO CHANGE THE FLAVOUR.



THE GUY WOULD HAVE BEEN THROUGH THE BAD TIMES MUST BE.



well, you don't care, just leave him any where, life is yours dear....



make or break relations, you should not be hurted, no matter what other one feels!!!



you are great.



HERE MAJORITY OF PEOPLE SAY, DON'T CONTOINUE!!!



SO?? DON'T CONTINUE.



THE GUY WOULD ALSO NOT LIKE THAT, HE WAS LOVED BY A GIRL, WHO DINT BEIVE HIM.



YOU ARE GREAT. The guy must be a fool, the most silly one.



make a new boy friend and enjoy!!!

Answer 4

If you are suspicious of him my friend then you'll have to make it clear and ask him. It's just a one-sided love if he doesn't feel the same way and still has interest in that girl.



If you don't ask him about he might dump you and still go for the other girl. That will just hurt you emotionally wouldn't it?



Be brave and ask him, if he doesn't like you the way you like him then i don't think you should carry on this relationship if its just an empty shell with no real feelings.



Good luck my friend.

Answer 5

The best thing you can do is talk to him about it. I'm sorry to say but to me it seems like your a rebound to him and it shouldn't be that way because it will ruin your friendship.



Just ask him if he generally has feelings for you, or is he just doing it to get back at the other person.



You will either feel better or worse after, but i would want the truth if i were you, and times a good healer! Believe me.



Good luck x

Answer 6

You've known him for only 6 months, he proposes to her and days later proposes to you? Are you serious? Why would you even think of accepting? You need to drop him like the loser that he is, and then you need to grow up.

Answer 7

souds like both of you girls are young and he may be quite older considering his desperation just move on where is your family in this matter this is marriage we are talking dont let him use you because when he finds someone he thinks is better than you he will throw you out of your matrimonial home take heed and find someone who has a good heart and a brain obviously he thinks you are dumb because he actually told you you were second I sure hope you are not giving him your money.

Answer 8

don't go through with suspicions for both your sakes. It'll build up and you'll take it out on him even when he does nothing wrong or he'll turn around and leave because he can't stand you not trusting him. If you really love him, talk to him, sort your issues out and then go ahead with anything once you know where you both stand

Answer 9

If he is interested in other girl, that would be clear in his behavior.

I believe that you can understand if someone trully loves you or if he wants to have an sex affair only.

Furthermore, you can let time pass.

As the time passing, you will find the truth.

Answer 10

he is still hung up on that other girl as you said, but that doesnt mean he loves her. it might be jealusy too if the girl is dating someone else. from what you have saud, it sounds like he is using you as a shield. few days after a proposel rejection he proposes to you. you dont love him but as you said you like him. he is protecting him self from pain maybe. but you should not let him use you. not in anyway. dont be taken for a fool. confront him. tell him if one day he wanted to marry as he asked in the proposel, you want to have him all. you dont want to share him. if he wants you then he does. and if he doesnt, he should then go find someone else to mess up with. have standers. put them on the table and let him know what you are all about. make him understand that you wont be his shoulder to cry on and the be left heart broken. and as i usualy say, DONT WASTE YOUR TIME ON SOMEONE WHO YOU DONT LOVE AND DONT TRUST. HE WILL JUST KEEP YOU FROM MEETING THE REIGHT GUY.at the same time, if you like him/love him. confront him, find out what is going on. find out the the truth and take it from there. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 11

I think it's bad that he proposed to one girl, she sid no, and then only days later asked you. He seems insecure. I would talk to him about this, and ask him if he still likes the other girl.

Answer 12

I think you should just be friends cause he just proposed to this other girl then jumps to you that fast and he still has feelings for her...what if he is trying to make her jealous...u never know so I guess just be friends.

Answer 13

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Answer 14

what about asking him if he still has a crush on that girl.? i mean u said u're very close..that not even a question in a close relationship

Answer 15

you should be honest to him

ask him about this other girl and if he still has feelings

after the talk if you still have speculations about him then hold off the marriage for a while and see how he reacts around you

Answer 16

Kick his a-- to the curb, Love. You deserve better than that little sh9t can give you. Don't ask yourself one more night........he doesn't deserve another thought.

Answer 17

this is a real life but not a movie.i advice to leave him.u hav love on him but he has only attraction on u. now choice is yours.good luck.

Answer 18

sounds like he's desperate...few days after he got rejected from the other girl, he proposed to you?....



i'd stop this relationship if i were you.

Answer 19

you should not marry him if he liked you he would have only asked you your just a back up plan honey sorry but there are other fish in the sea

Answer 20

He probably still likes her..but that will go away everntually.It's just liking. Be careful yours not to be for sex only.

Answer 21

i think he is using you for a rebound girl he asked her she shot him down then asks you sounds like to me if she would of said yes he would of choose her over you dont go for it girl.

Answer 22

Dont. Bail out on all and start fresh with new people.

Answer 23

what the hell? he is such a jerk propose to a girl then a short time later to you? what?!?! drop that crap it's only gonna get harder,

Answer 24

If you are both in a love that is true then there would be no questions.

Answer 25

uve nown him 6 months and he proposed to u?? uhm DONT!!

Answer 26

ask him i dont think he is over her imean how quickly he asked u...u could have been a back of so he wouldnt b lonely

Answer 27

just simply dump him before it is too late.His love for you is not genuine.he is looking for a sex love and you are just his substitute

Answer 28

Yeah you were second choice... that's not good.

Answer 29

talk to him and say ...listen do u love that girl or not?...just be real with him...tell him how u feel and wat u are thinking..u need to get this off ur chest.

Answer 30

you confront him. tell him how you feel.

Answer 31

dont