Nice guys do not always finish last. It just appears that way at times.
Women that I have liked or have gone out liked me at the time because I am funny and sweet yet most of them turned out to be the opposite-full of drama, deceitful and shallow.
Looking back, not all of them were very pretty nor were they all in shape.
There are stereotypes that nice guys are "boring," they are not assertive enough, they lack confidence, they are "ugly" or have a lot of other problems like being overweight.
All these stereotypes differ from one girl to the next that likes or goes on a date with a nice guy.
I have been told by girls that I am ugly while other girls have called me "cute."
To me, everybody has issues not just nice guys as the women I have liked or gone on dates with have had issues.
To me, it is unfair to expect a guy to always lead things.
When it comes to having interesting conversations on a date for example, it takes two people to have interesting things to say so both people on a date do not feel awkward around each other.
When things go wrong on a date, then blame should not fall entirely on the other person especially if that person is a nice guy.
Nice guys like me are more thoughtful.
On Valentine’s Day nine years ago, I gave this girl, Rachel who was my debate partner in high school, a heart-shaped lollipop with a cupid striking an arrow on it.
I also made her a heart out of wires and beads.
This past Valentine's, I gave one of my female coworkers a box of $60 worth of raspberry truffles.
Although she does let me hold her hands, run my fingers through her back and play with her hair, we do not have a crush on each other.
I was just being sweet when I gave her a box of raspberry truffles as I did not hint that I was going to give her a Valentine.
Not all women want nice guys to fall for them.
When some women do find a nice guy, they either have not been with one yet or they rejected or dumped that nice guy.
There are nice guys that approach women yet they are rejected even if they are not saying something corny or rude.
I remember something that one of my college debate teammates told me.
Not many women are flattered when men that do not come off like a jerks asks them politely for their phone numbers.
I was with my last girlfriend for close to a year until she dumped me through text messages on my old cell phone last year.
She told me about guys in her past and pretty much all of them were horrible towards her.
Out of all her ex boyfriends, she would talk at times about her ex boyfriend before me who she claimed hurt her so badly that she turned to drinking alcohol and eating a lot (she told me that gained a lot of weight before I had met her).
The whole time that I was her boyfriend, she never said, "I love you."
She was verbally abusive towards me as she made cruel jokes to me, criticized me often and usually got mad at me over small things.
She also did messed up things to me and lied about things like being happy that she met me because I was that sweet boyfriend she wished for weeks before we met.
Women that are treated well by nice guys no not know how to handle being treated by them.
In my cases, I have liked and have gone out with the wrong women.
Whether a guy is a "bad" boy or a "good" guy, if that guy is not trustworthy and respectful to a girl then that guy is a loser.
If you meet a guy that happens to be nice then hold onto him.
Be appreciative that he honestly does not want to say or do to make you cry and angry.
People that want a long lasting romantic relationship ought to find others that they can identify with that have gone through similar experiences like them whom they can also share their failures and successes.
I hope that this helps and take care of yourself. I mean that.
Hopefully, your summer has been good so far and happens to end on good note.
~ Alan