Why do nice guys always finish last?

Question

I'm 17. I'm a nice guy, all my friends say it and coment on my good looks, great dress sense and great sense of humour. I am usually the live and soul of the party and popular, yet i always finish last when it comes to girls :/ it worries me. ive heard the cliche 'nice guys finish last' and im starting to think it comes true, ive never been in a relationship with a girl and im still a virgin :/
everytime i get with a girl e.g make out with them, we talk the days after and arrange to meet up. but after meeting up the girl always suggests that we stay as friends and go no further, it deflates me and makes me feel what is the point anymore. its always the nice guys finishing last im fed up of it. it makes me feel that this is going to happen all my life, no relationships, no love and no sex. it makes me feel like im going to be a virgin ALL my life, every girl i know is JUST a mate, friends to go out with and hang with at college but nothing more. sometimes i think that there is something wrong with me? something girls see wrong and that im not attractive to them? i get compliments for my looks and dress sense regularly but girls never see me as a boyfriend? or boyfriend material?
its depressing and worrying, on my mind always.
guys and girls thanks for your answers, cheers :)

Answer 1

Because it is a survival of the fittest game and those who are mean somehow grab power and those who grab power push out the powerless and take all their talents, belongings, and credit.

Answer 2

First of all just let me say that you should always be yourself, don't change for anyone. Especially not for a girl. It can be very frustrating when you are young, feeling as though you are doing something wrong, or that maybe something is wrong with you. I will tell you not to be in such a hurry to find love. Sometimes putting yourself way out there will get you hurt. When you do find that special someone, it will be great, and she will love you, for YOU.



Enjoy being young while you still are. I think it is great that you are still a virgin, I was until I was 18. Then I felt like I was way behind everyone else. Well guess what, I wish I would have waited, and it wasn't that special.

Answer 3

I would somewhat agree that nice guys finish last, but we also win in the end. I was that nice guy during high school and college and stuff. Yeah I dated and went out, but not like most of the other guys I knew and played sports with. I even envied them a little because they could get any girls they wanted and could do whatever they wanted with them. As I matured I also saw that this created alot of problems and drama between them and other guys and girls. I have never had this drama in my life and I'm thankful for that. Also, I stayed a virgin until marriage, and me and my wife of 2 years couldn't be happier. Nice guys win in the end because you will either find a good girl just like you or you will find a girl thats tired of the lame loosers and wants a real man who can respect her and treat her right. Just keep being yourself and you will come out on top, and remember sex is special and even through your friends are giving it away and focusing on it, you will be able to share something special with that 1 special person you find. Count yourself lucky your not a tool.

Answer 4

During your comments you mentioned that you go out once then they say this. It might be you breath or you acting silly or tying to hard to impress them. You see when I was young once I had the same problems with girls, women and I made some changes. I was very jealous of other guys and it showed which is a turn off for women. Yes a lot of girls do like the bad boy type and usually are attracted to them because of that reason. So in hind sight are you really that bad off? Stop being so possessive and stop hanging out with guys that think they are so cool and you will see your relationship status change. Good luck

Answer 5

Girls do want a nice guy to settle down with. You just haven't met one who's ready to give up the bad boys yet. Bad boys are a challenge. Girls want to tame them, but realize that they get only unhappiness. If you've got a really good female friend, ask her why you can't seem to find a girl to date, tell her to be perfectly honest with you. Not to worry though, the right girl will come along, usually once you quit looking for her;)

Answer 6

just be patient. im a girl that hasnt fallen for the jerk type and am waiting around for a nice guy, but nice guys arent always the best either. Just be patient, and the person that will love you for who you are will come along. besides, if you get all the girls now, you may become a jerk. so let life take its course, and dont believe the stereotype that all girls want a bad boy. cause its not true.

Answer 7

Nice guys don't finish last. Trust me on this. Be patient. Make sure you keep your eyes open. I'll bet there is an attractive shy girl watching you who wants to be with you. I'll bet you are just looking at the wrong girls for relationships.

Answer 8

I have been same boat as you for long time-one of the reasons some say we nice finish last is-we are too nice-I read up on how attraction works-they say-a girl is more attracted to a bad boy-because she sees him more of a challenge to try and change him-whereas a nice guy is no challenge.



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Answer 9

In this case, "last" is usually synonymous with "best". What's the point of being first, if you're just going to lose what you've gotten? I'm reminded of the football halfback, who meets his ex-wife's new fiance for the first time. "Just remember," the halfback smirked, "whatever you do with her, I've already done it."

"I know," said the fiance. "But she got tired of the way you did it, and wanted someone who could do it better. That would be me."

The halfback then beat the living fecal matter out of the fiance, for which the halfback went to jail for criminal assault.

The nice guy finished last...but in the end, he came out the real winner.

Answer 10

Boys are like apples on trees.

The best ones are at the top of the tree.

The girls don't want to reach for the good ones because they're afraid

of falling and getting hurt.

Instead they just get the rotten apples that are on the ground, that

aren't as good, but easy.

So the apples at the top think that there is something wrong with

them, when in reality, they are amazing.

That is why we just have to be a little patient and wait for the right

girl who will come someday..... ..

, the one who has the courage to reach the top.



:)

Answer 11

nice guys dont finish last! in my experience they dont finish at all! im sure that its not true but in my experience it is. Girls like bad boys. I agree with what someone said about seeing them as a challenge. I dont know if girls think that nice guys are boring or what? sad as it is its true. just hang in there son.

Answer 12

Dude. I'm a guy. I'm almost 19. I've never been in a serious relationship. I'm a virgin. I don't care. You can't look for love. It will just turn up. Enjoy your life. Trust me.

Answer 13

when you get to college, the girls will grow up. i think a lot of girls are interested in the "bad boy" kind of guy, but they'll realize that those "bad boys" are not worth their heart/



so, don't worry, girls will realize how awesome nice guys are some day!

Answer 14

yes, nice guys finish last, but dont change. Be a good person and to hell with all those women who cant recognize that you're a great catch

Answer 15

ur still young and IM SURE there is a woman who is waiting out there for u ..there is ALWAYS someone there so dont worry and u will have a relationship and have se and that stuff so no woriiees

Answer 16

girls grow into wanting nice guys just play it cool and don't become too friendly to the point they teat you like you're gay, keep reminding them subtley that they'd get it given half a chance

Answer 17

I wouldn't worry if I were you to be honest, cos they dont know what they are missing.



When things go t*ts up for them, you'll just be happy with someone.



Dont worry about it.