Why won't this guy make the move? I have given him plenty of signals???

Question

Simplest answer to this question probably is "he's not that into me," I guess. But I know that he does not dislike me at least. He and I went out on dates and cuddled with each other several times. But no matter how many signals I give him -- such as giving him kisses on the cheek, forehead and even neck -- he doesn't kiss me back. I am not perverted - it's just that when I am close to someone -- especially in such a warm, intimate way -- I do sometimes want to receive some sorts of response in return.

By the way, we are more close to "cuddle buddy" state than boy/girlfriends...sadly...

Answer 1

honey... I didn't get a chance to read your whole question but you know..

maybe this guy is like me..

maybe he got BURNED in the past..



and now, although he sees the signs that you like him right in front of his face.. he's afraid that it might happen again..

idk.. or maybe he doesn't like you..



try thinking about it like that



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Here's another thing that came to my mind..

men don't really like agressive women..

just think about it..

let's say that you are dating this guy..

you're going to the movies..

and you order the tickets while he's just standing there..

you do all the moves.. not him..

then.. you go to like a private spot

and you are about to have sex.. or make out.. or whatever..

honestly, that's a turn off..



if he's just some pervert.. he wouldn't care..

but if he's an honest man..

he would get turned off..



just remember this..

if he's not that interested..

don't even bother..

just move on to another guy..



and if he is..

then just tell him.. "You had your chance"

Answer 2

Men are different, women too.

Men can't read the signals of a woman, they need a straight foreward signal. Men are not able to read between the lines.

Read the book 'Why Men Don't Listen And Women Can't Read Maps' by Allan and Barbara Pease and you will understand a lot more about men.

Answer 3

It could be that you are coming on too strong and he is feeling a little bit insecure. It is more common for a man to be more insecure than a woman. So maybe slow it down and go at his pace. If he keeps coming back for more than its a good sign. If all else fails ask him to be more than just cuddle buddies, but keep in mind, give it some time.

Answer 4

oh my god... GET IT IN YOUR HEAD ALREADY!



Men are not smart! The majority of use do not pick up on this signals unless they want to get into you panties or are experienced at flirting! This goes for all of you women out there. All of the more honest men can't pick up on your stupid "hints" Unless it's just short of a hammer to the knee cap. Try some actual... oh i don't know... saying something... for friggin once! No man is a mind reader and you "kissing" sound like something my sister would do. GET ACTIVE! kiss him on the lips, say you like him, give him and old school "check yes or no" letter, something.

Answer 5

Some men just cannot read the signals. You may have to draw him a picture. But I would look around some more, he is not likely to change.

Answer 6

um...smack him in the face w/ a frying pan?....no not literally! give him the verbal equivalent.....or you could take my approach which i admit hasn't had much success but i no longer need it so it doesn't really matter....strap them to a chair and interrogate them ok ok so its not really that extreme but sit him down and ask him honest truth what's going on is he blind deaf and dumb to all the signals you've been sending.....but then there is the possibility that you are being too subtle thus my smack him w/ a frying pan idea. and though i hate to admit it and stroke the boy's ego Vikeif is right ((happy now B i admitted it!! luf ju!)) men are slow....very very slow and half blind to women oh sure they see us but they half the time don't see beneath the outside and they can't read signals to save their lives...be blunt....be obvious......Smack him w/ a frying pan!

Answer 7

many relationship goes into the bin because lack of communication skills



some people are not dumb just because he/she does not response as the way we want to.



hoping won't change anything. start by telling what you want in this relationship. for eg. tell him you like it when you kiss him and he kisses you back



he might as well appreciate you more by doing this

Answer 8

He's maybe into fast food now, stop signaling for a while & see if he'll be interested in home made meal.

Answer 9

why dont you make the move on him?



maybe he is scared of being hurt. maybe he thinks you just want sex. make the move. if he kisses back go for it. if not, talk to him about it and if that doesnt resolve anything, than i spose thats it.

Answer 10

Hmm....three possiblities: 1) He wants to have sex with you and nothing more, and he knows if you do it then he may not be able to get rid of you. 2) He is young and petrified of women. 3) Gay and does not know it yet.

Answer 11

You have to show you want to be wanted by the words you use. Tell him how you feel. You like to be with him. He makes you feel good. You would rather be with him/play golf with him/travel with him more than/better than/you wouldn't want anyone else to .....etc.

Answer 12

if u love him,n if ur love is sincere,just dnt wait fr his signal be bold n ask him whether this is only friendship r smthing more,coz as time will pass ur emotions will grow more so its better t ask him ?

Answer 13

wow, i dont get hints, but if a girl were to kiss me it would be painfully obvious that she wants me, if he isn't returning the affection, put him in the "friend" catagory and move on.

Answer 14

Stop hinting. Make the move yourself.

Answer 15

He's gay, not that there is anything wrong with that.

Answer 16

he's not THAT in to you....trust me