He's called me since but I don't know what he's playing at, help?

Question

I met a guy out the other wee who asked for my number, seemed really keen and when he went onto another club, he asked me to meet him there. When I did go I couldn't find him anywhere and felt rejected and just as I was leaving he texted me and said he was at his hotel bar and invited me there. I didn't know the guy well enough to nag him about why he disappeared even though it bothered me.
We ended up going back to my house and he kept saying how much he really wants to see me again, and when he found out I was working near him after the new year he said we'd meet up then (I live quite far from him).
He didn't have any credit on his phone to text me but he did borrow a phone to say he had a really good time - he was still keen. He eventually got credit and texted to tell me- that was the last I heard from him by phone - he's not replied since even tho he's got credit!
He emailed me once, 4 days after I emailed him even though he's been online daily.
What's he playing at?!

Answer 1

ok if u want honest advice, i would just stop and let him make the moves now. if u seem too eager he may loose intrest. just stop trying to contact him first and see if he really does want to see u. if he dosnt talk to u either then u know he wasnt really intrested and thats that.

Answer 2

Lisa is absolutely right, Lola. Step back politely and calm down. Women know intuitively when to stop chasing. You are dangerously close to chasing. You are smart enough, capable enough, "with it" enough and tactful enough to know how to step back from this whole thing quietly and gracefully, and just not be quite so available, period.



My mother used to say, "When _____________ comes calling, you be busy doing something else."



Harsh? Not at all. If the right chemistry were present, Lola, this issue would be - a non-issue. Step back while the stepping back is good. You do not need this hot and cold run around the block, now or - ever.

Answer 3

Quit bothering him. He obviously not that "keen" on you. Focus on someone who'll be responsive to you.