I'm getting lonely...?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for a couple of years now. He works alot, and is usually with friends. We are together about 1 day out of the week. I told him that i was getting lonely, but he ttok it as a joke. How can i tell him without him getting mad? And what can i do to get him to spend time with me?

Answer 1

Welcome to the real world ppl work and still have a good relationship and by the way is he a honest good guy! I love how women say I am lonely then how about any of your girl friends you have! Go shopping do something if the guy is working hard to make a good life then live with it or get out!

I am so amased with the I need kids here I do see a few very good posts a bout working and trying to make a life.You need to grow up and so do a few other posters because maby when a man works so much he is trying hard so later down the road you will both have time for each other!Heck why is he with you do you work?I work 6 and 7 days a week to make a good living for my girl but she found someone that was glad to spend time with her! He does not work and they have 2 kids together and she saw me not to long ago and told me we should go out sometime so I told her no you wont have enough time for me know!

It is a give and give world not give and only take!

Answer 2

Hey Megan, well sweetie...There are only things you can do to make this better. It is not him having the issue. So try to sit back and figure out why this bothers you now? Are you going out and enjoying yourself too?

Why not join the boys, it is always fun too. If you have to worry about getting him mad, then you have answered your own question. You can try showing interest in whatever he is interested in, cars, sports, pool, whatever.... If you don't know anything about it, ask him to teach you. Men love to teach women about things as long as they listen, and don't analyze it. That is what I did when I was younger, and now I am a happy woman with many of my own interests aside from that of my mates. So maybe this could also be an answer for you.



It sounds like you may be insecure about leaving him alone. This is okay, as we all go through this stage. But try to find out why inside of yourself, and if it is him...you know what to do. Women need to be more independent in relationships, or men feel claustrophobic. It is just that we are built so differently, most anyway.

Find yourself some gal pals and have fun, don't worry about what he does, and then he may come chasing you. If you don't try you will never know.

Good Luck

Blessings

Answer 3

You seriously need to put a stop to it. I know in all honesty what ur feeling at that's the truth. Here's my long story cut short, my fiance and I have a 2 & 1 year old together, he works overnights and I'm a full time college student, he sleeps during the day once I get home from school, I wake him up to go to work (this is from Mon. night thru Sat morn. when gets off). He has the weekend off but he's in a car club and they want to demand so much out of him so he spend Sat. night at the race track w/them and Sun. is our "family time" So yeah, I know exactly what u feel, except we have kids together (I d/k if u do) but u really need to put ur foot down and tell him enough is enough. I did w/my fiance, I basically told him that he isn't a single guy anymore(which he isn't) and that he really needed to stop pushing us aside for people that really don't matter(carclub). Guess what ever since then, he goes out maybe once a month w/them which is fine w/me and the rest of his time is for us (his family). Just tell him how you honestly feel. By the way I'm 22 and he's 25.

Answer 4

He leaves you alone 6 days a week??? when you say "been with" do you mean dating or living together? If you are dating and he allows you to be lonely, it must be for some reason... are you no longer fun to be with? has the relationship soured so that he no longer wants to be with you?? If he is out with his friends and thinks this is a joke, why not go out with your friends? the words "How can i tell him without him getting mad" tells me something of your relationship...

You sound a little "clingy" and not the independent person you should be. Get up, quit crying and be the person he used to love, or get out of the relationship and find yourself someone else.

Answer 5

ive gone through this same thing.

you need to use that one day a week to sit down with him face to face somewhere quite and with no distractions and tell him how you feel. its hard but you have to do it.

tell him that this isnt a middle school or high school relationship and that you expect more out of it.

tell him that this isnt a real relationship and that you are in it 100% and that if his friends and work are more important then he needs to rethink his priorites or he doesnt need this relationship.

tell him how if he really cared about you he would make time for you and he would care about how you feel.

tell him your tired of this and if nothing changes he will soon be single.

[even if its not true ... it gives him something to think about]

then yall need to go to different rooms or areas of the house with no distractions and think about what yall just talked about.

set a time to meet back in the living room/dinning room or where ever yall originally talked to make a deision.



i promise you it works.

good luck

Answer 6

You need to sit down and make him understand that this is not a joke. If he's like this now, he'll be like this after you marry. Don't marry him until things improve. Start hanging out with your friends more and see how he likes that.

Answer 7

He's trying to make a future for himself.

Maybe he's not right for you?

He'll only hafta work harder after you get married.

I say leave the poor guy alone and either enjoy him when you have him or move on.

Answer 8

tell him to get on he's p's and q's. If he work all the time he can stop hanging out with friends and spend a little bit more time with you. Let him no direct r just do what i did find someone who keeps you happy.

Answer 9

GET A NEW MAN! or BETTER YET, NEW MEN! Why would you waste your time? Are you married? Don't convince him to do anything. He is doing what...and WHO..he wants. If you believe that he is is always at work and with his friends, you need your head checked.

Answer 10

If he works alot, then there's not alot you can do about it. I also work alot.....I basically spend a month home a year. My wife could sure tell you about lonliness, but then, so could I. Best of luck to you.

Answer 11

tell him you mis the good old days when you two could just hang out all day ^^ and ask him if he could spend more time with you

if he gets mad.. hes mental. srsly

Answer 12

I'm in the same spot as you , my guy thinks that whenever i say i miss him , its just saying i want to talk longer . Well whenever he calls me i would tell him that I'm bored to death and there is no one to entertain me . he would chuckle and then i would tell him i mean it and that i miss him dearly . it works for me , he would meet me after work . its a weekly effort you would have to put in .

Answer 13

You can cheat on him then he'll get the message.

Answer 14

you would probably see more of him if you started dating someone else.

Answer 15

just go out too and find yourself someone who will give you the time you need.

Answer 16

cheat i guess