Boyfriend Wants to Be w Me But Wants to Sleep Around?

Question

I'm 27 years old and my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. I live in GA while he is in the Navy in Norfolk, VA. I told him that I couldn't move there because I work in the Biotech industry and there is NO jobs there for me. I told him when he was done with his duty in VA in one year that I'd move to be w him (we were trying to see if he can get orders in a place where I can work ). We're high school sweethearts and we've broken up once since high school. We love each other dearly and we both see a future with one another. We started experiencing problems in our relationship when he wanted to have sex more. We were having sex max 2 times a day (however most of the time it was just once). He feels that since he was only seeing me every 4-6 weeks he needs to have sex every time he asked for it. So with the combination of me not moving to VA and not having the sex he wanted he said he wasn't happy so he broke up w me. He is now sleeping around with another woman. He claims he isn't dating her that they are just hooking up. He says he still wants to see me and hang out with me (basically the same stuff we were doing when we were dating) but he wants to be able to sleep around. He says he still wants to be with me (kids, marriage). But he feels it would be easier on us if he can get sex whenever he wants. I don't understand. Why would he feel this is best? It feels like he's just pushing me to the back burner and when he moves out of VA then we can be together.

Answer 1

Open relationships only work if BOTH parties are willing. You're obviously not ready to do that so you have to decide if he's worth it.



I don't condone cheating but at the same time, having sex a couple of times a month is not fair either. I know it's not only about sex but it does play a huge role in a relationship. This is something that should have been agreed upon BEFORE he left. But now that option isn't there since he's already sleeping with someone else.



I don't think I would make it that long either. I need sex to function normally and so do most guys. But if that's not your thing, you're probably better off with someone who is a better fit than this one.



good oluck

Answer 2

I say start looking for a new guy. What he is doing is disrespectful to you and hurtful. If he broke up with you once, and sees that you're still there, he will lose respect for you, and think he can do it again in the future. You don't deserve this. Best of luck to you. I know it's hard.

Answer 3

I think you're confused. When you're boyfriend says "this is what's best," what he really means is "this is what's best for me." He's not thinking of what's best for you or for your relationship because he's only thinking of himself. In other words, you're dating a selfish asshole. It's not your fault or anything- some people just turn out that way. Do yourself a favor and end things before you reach the kids and marriage part. If your boyfriend likes to screw around now, he's going to screw around on you when you're married. Think about it. What happens when you're recovering from childbirth and you can't "give him sex every time he asks for it?" He's going to step out on you. What happens when you're busy taking care of the kids and your husband is too busy worrying about his precious penis to help you out? Not worth it.

Answer 4

Long distant relationships are difficult at best. In this case his actions state very loudly that he doesn't want to be with you. Personally, at your age I wouldn't have put up with him being unfaithful. MOVE ON to someone who will love and respect you and not just play this stupid game. You deserve to be treated better.

Answer 5

he sounds like a jerk. you are better off writing him out of your life and getting on with yours with someone who cares more for you than just a convenient person to have sex with.

Answer 6

One or the other he cant have BOTH

Answer 7

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