Why do nice guys always finish last?

Question

I have been seeing this girl for about 6 months. She was getting over an ex for a while and I understood what she was going through. Eventually she told me she was done with him and that he was being a complete asshole to her. Today, she told me she saw her ex again and realized she still wasn't over him and that we were better off friends. She told me how nice of a guy I was and that I deserved better. I am so down and depressed now because I really liked her a lot and I hate things to be like this. Why do nice guys always finish last?

Answer 1

they dont always finish last.. my fiance finished last in my race and 1st in his own. i am his first everything. but i'm not stupid. I realized what i had in front of me and won't let him go. one day, you will find that girl. she wont let you go and will appreciate you for all you are.

Answer 2

I am a nice guy who finishes last. You are talking about dating, right? The reason women wait for nice guys is because nice guys actually care about them and don't want to seem overbearing. Guys that are your type are probably the type who go for the girl no matter what as soon as they get the urge. Girls respond to that and don't wait for the nice guy to come around. Sometimes they even feel bad about it afterwards, but the sad part is that they never do anything about it. This is why nice guys seem to get less dates than "your type".

Answer 3

I'm actually currently going through a situation very similar to yours. Good guys will always finish last, no matter what. The bigger problem when it comes to Good guys like us is that there is nothing we can do about it. No matter how much we want to change, and try to be the Bad guy, we can't change who we really are. We just have to deal with what life gives us. No one can say that one for us will ever come. We just have to know how to get over it, and continue on with our lives.

Answer 4

Most of these women are in their early 20's to mid 20's and then they usually grow out of this wanting the asshole/douchebag guys. Being last in this scenario is not a bad thing at all because nice guys get to marry these women that have been with the assholes/douchebags and the asshole/douchebags usually are the ones that later in life are the lonely, pathetic, miserable guys at the end of the bar by himself constantly drunk complaining about life. the nice guys on the other hand get married to these women later in life and start the family. Assholes/douchebags are typically a "thing" nothing long term just a quick fling if it even lasts long enough for a fling.



Go pick out a younger lady and get to know her and you'll see that every few days or every week she will have a new asshole/douchebag boyfriend and she will constantly complain about him etc etc etc... But you'll start seeing a pattern that these assholes/douchebags are a real quick fling and nothing serious. See when most women grow out of the asshole/douchebag stage and are ready for a serious relationship and done with the every few days or every week different asshole/douchebag then the nice guys come into play. The nice guys get the ladies that are done and ready for serious relationships and starting to think about marriage, family etc.



But yet again it still baffles me why some women always like the assholes/douchebags and sometimes even marry them. I mean assholes are miserable people to be around and usually miserable themselves. Assholes/douchebags constantly like to make other people around them miserable and think they are all "that". But what these assholes/douchebags don't see is that a lot of people don't like being around them and leave to get away from them. The assholes/douchebags never grows up.



Also women constantly get confused that all "nice guys" are wussies. Thats so far from the truth. The wussies are the assholes/douchebags. Why do you think assholes/douchebags act the way they do? Because they are always hiding inside themselves always insecure and are such wussies. By being an asshole/douchebag they think that they are liked, strong etc. But that's far from the truth. Most people don't like them, they are weak, pathetic and by being weak and pathetic they think they must be an asshole/douchebag and then everyone will like them. Uh no. The nice guys are totally secure with themselves, they like themselves, completely confident with themselves and confident with life in general.

Answer 5

awwh.

man i really know how you feel (im a female).. but dont you worry because your happy ending will come and it will be with a chick who is absolutely right. leave this girl behind.. she will soon find out what she lost and realise that losing you was the biggest mistake.. but there are plenty of fish in the sea and you dont want to go wasting time waiting for a girl who doesnt know how good she has it with you, trust me ive been

there and once i let go of my azzhole of an ex bf i met the most perfect guy.. and.. hes a nice guy like you. let her go, shes not worth it.

oh and please dont change either, please dont try to become a bad guy. Good guys may finish last, but good things come to those who wait, slow and steady wins the race. you are more closer to finding true love than what she is.

there are plenty of lovely women out there, so go and get em and be yourself =]



oh and dont listen to what that mia chick says (down below)

she is very wrong!! you are not a whimp.. being who you are actually shows your strength, being a "bad boy" shows your weak!!

Answer 6

Nice guys dont always finish last.

But women always put themself first.

It is called being selfish.

Since she is playing with two guys, who is the problem in this story?

When she breaks up with him again, she will suddenly be back with you.

I suggest finding somebody who acts a little more like an adult.

Answer 7

Shame you poor man.

Why would you want to hang out with this woman if she rejects you?

My view is "STUFF HER".



What will you do if she comes back after a month saying she made a mistake (yet again)?

Will you go through this rigmarole again?

Answer 8

Some good gurls like rude guys

Answer 9

Because you are a nice guy. that means you are a wimp. girls like her dont want wimps. ok?

do not listen to women who say they want a nice guy! girls like her and like me want a guy who gives us butterflies everytime we see them. nice guys never give me butterflies. But nice guys do end up with girls who are over the guys who give butterflies. because they wont last forever or make you feel comfortable all the time.

you want her? dont be nice. nice guys finish last with girls like her.

My advice, forget her. SO MANY women want a nice guy like you!!

Answer 10

idk man...but you just gotta be yourself and keep your head up...I was the nice guy no girl gave a chance...so i started acting like a jerk to this girl who I really liked...thinkig she would like me more...i really regret it and I was mean to her, and hurt her to the point where she would cry...looking back i feel terrible and wish i would have just been myself "the nice guy" and she would still be with me

Answer 11

some girls like those douche bag guys.... they like to be the girly girl with a guy who is a douche...

its the way it is







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Answer 12

cuz were used

Answer 13

i don't know i just don't ******* know man T__T

it sucks balls though