I'm nearly 21 and still a virgin. How do I get over this mental barrier?

Question

Above average looking. QUIET. Sporty. Clever. Insecure as a result of being a virgin. Not looking to get laid but to have a girlfriend. I feel I could have had girlfriends I'm not attracted to but I don't want that. Too scared to ask girls out who I fancy. I don't like clubbing, and can't just walk up to some random girl and ask them out! Can talk fine to girls but only on a friendly level. How do you casually transition from the friendly level to the "I fancy u" level? Should I just go out with someone I don't fancy?

Answer 1

First of all.. for me theres nothing wrong with being a "virgin". its your choice anyway. (Some might disagree with me)

Second.. why dont you try going out sometimes with your friends, theres a huge world out there waiting for you. you not need forcing yourself to go out with someone you dont fancy. i believe you can find someone you really like, who will love you and vise versa

Answer 2

Do what you want and when you want. Losing your virginity is not something to sweat. It sounds like its a lack of confidence holding you back from doing what you want and its good common sense to avoid doing what you don't want just for the sake of doing it. Calm down and let life happen. Answers will present themselves in due time. 21 is not that old!

Answer 3

I think you are doing just fine.Just be yourself and enjoy every day and when it's your time you will know.You have the rest of your life to get involved.You won't believe me but you are better off than most people who are involved

Answer 4

go to a reputable dating site (not a sex site) and admit you are a virgin on your profile. you might want to say "virgin seeking virgin" and that would be hot wouldn't it to do it first time with someone like you? just a thought.

Answer 5

try a dating site, or have some friends fix you up with someone.

Answer 6

mastrubation is better