My bf wants me to meet an ex-gf of his, i don't want to meet her.. but instead?

Question

My boyfriend wanted me to meet his ex - lets call her Marian - (the most recent one), cause she was a good friend.

I said definitely NO.


But i know he has another ex they were together a long time (let's say 3 years, and lets call her... Susan), and they end to have a fight and they don't talk from years.
He never told me exactly the reason why they broke up or the fight. And he has 3 female friends (who are his best friends), and they were close friend's of Susan a long time ago, but they don't talk anymore since their relation broke up. Recently, Susan tried to contact her friends, saying she was missing them... they just treat her like a cow.

The thing is.. i dont' trust his female friends cause they are always sitcking on him and they don't respect us as a couple. And of course, he won't step them back, cause HE LOVES attention -.- And for other obvious reasons, they have shown they are jealous of me.

So, the point of the question is: Me and my bf, we have issues and we can't resolve them by talking about it, cause he can't understand.
i'm not interested about meeting Marian cause they were only together for 2 months. I'm interested to meet the one he can't bare, Susan, and once they were together for 3 years, i'm sure she can tell me more about him than Marian.

And after all... i'd to know what didn't worked in their relation. Because i smell Susan felt like i am feeling with him atm. That he is a total jerk!

Answer 1

its better for you not to many ANY of the exs.. that ruins a relationsihp! focus on your relationship.. but if u want to be sneaky go for it just dont let him know or birnq him (; and idmeet the 3 yr one..

Answer 2

Well no offense but this sounds like a bunch of mess. If you are secure in your relationship with him then there should be no reason why you cant meet any of these women. At the end of the day your his girlfriend and the others are has beens.



I also think he should be open to meeting any of your ex's since you guys are playing meet my ex.

Answer 3

If he's a jerk ... let him go.

There is NOOOO reason for you to have to meet and sit and talk with any boyfriend's ex-girlfriend! That's completely poisonous and unhealthy!

If he really respects you and your relationship you can just say, "You can see your girl friends on your own time, but I have no interest in spending time with any of them and you at the same time." Even if he doesn't understand that his girl friends like him, he SHOULDN'T wanna hang out with them that much, because then he can't see you as much/at the same time. If it doesn't phase him and he ends up spending more time with them than with you ...move on my friend.

Answer 4

ohhh no dont go and meet the ex 3 years is a long time.it sounds like he needs to grow up a little if he lets them be all over him with u right there not right at all.let him know u aint going to do it...I wouldent put up with that

Answer 5

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Answer 6

i dont think that you should be forced to meet himex. that is just kinda weird. but i think that he wants you to feel comfortable with him talking to them. and if he is going to possiblby hang out with them, he wants you to approve.



but if you really dont wanna meet them, tell him that you arent comfortable with it.



good luckk