All the girls out there, please help!!?

Question

This question is in reference to my previous one as described below:

I'm in love with a girl... Then I told her how I felt about her... She said we'd be good as only friends... Since then she's been avoiding me and not answering phone calls etc.. We spent around 2 months together... and even hugged and held hands and spent a lot of time talking to each other every single day... Now we both are in differernt cities...
So girls when a guy tells you that he's in love with you, and you think of him only as a friend, why do you avoid them or what do you do? It really broke my heart when she started avoiding me and my phone calls.... I'm almost in tears as I'm writing this question :( :(.. Its almost been a month and I've forced myself to forget her, but I'm not able to.. She won't even remain my friend after all the nice times we had together... Pls explain to me what to do!! I want a girls perspective on this topic thats why I asked so...Pls help me, I think about her every single moment.

Girls please tell me how you would have reacted if you were present in my girl's situation? Also suggest me some ways in which I can be friends with her... I don't want to lose her completely since I have never felt this way(so much in love) with any girl ever before.

Answer 1

She's just put you in the friendsone and didn't know how to let you out. When you said that I mean I think most girls would be thrilled to have a guy feel that way about her but it seems like it really surprised her and maybe because you feel so strong about her she doesn't think you guys can just be friends. I think you should keep trying either as her friend or more but I dont think you should give up unless she completely shuts you out and if she does thent she's not the right girl for you

Answer 2

Well girls usually do that because they don't want to hurt you. Maybe she thinks it's awkward now... But give her some space for a while don't call as much and stuff. Then eventually start talking more, go out (as friends) to the movies and stufff and be like "i hope this isn't awkward for you" "i still wanna be friends ya know" and then kinda be flirty like give her compliments and maybe she'll like you or at least talk to you again.!

Answer 3

when a guy your not interested in expresses feelings for you it makes you uncomfortable to be around them the next time.. I went through this with a friend and he just began to creep me out with his constant comments.. I felt that I could no longer be myself around him.. now I didn't ignore him but I was very blunt and told him not to speak to me that way or we would no longer be able to hang out as friends.. he was the one who didn't contact me for almost a month but now we talk occasionally and things are fine between us..

Give her some time and don't pressure her.. she just might feel that continuing the friendship in the same manner would be leading you on and she doesn't want to do that.. in the meantime you need to learn how to control your emotions better.. there is a difference between a crush and love.. it takes 2 to love..

Answer 4

She wasn't being honest. If she was then she won't be avoiding you. She feels awkward around you so she is avoiding you right now.

Answer 5

friend,Sometimes women need time, if you love her to much, love continues to give her attention, one day she will fall into your arms,trust me :)

Answer 6

i completely agree with kendall ovr there ^^ if ur meant to be.. believe me theres no way ud be apart :)