girls want nice guys, right? then please answer this...?

Question

girl's usually say that they want a nice guy, right? i'm not saying all girls do this, but it seems like it's usually the girls who "screw over" the nice guys, and thus making nice guys not wanting to be nice anymore. i know there are a lot of jerks out there to begin with, but when girls do end up with genuinely nice guy, why is it that they aren't satisfied, and end up going to the jerks? in many ways, i really do believe in the saying "nice guys finish last". girls, please give me your take on this.

Answer 1

yo bro, I want to address this real quick. As a guy I personally don't think there's a such thing as what you define as a "nice guy" because when someone says that saying "nice guys finish last" they usually mean those guys are not only nice but "too nice." There's a big difference between being nice and being too nice. Basically, be yourself dude; girls like it when you're yourself. Yes that means all the good and all the bad. Nobody is an angel and "nice guys" come off as being angels. You can still be nice and disagree with a girl. Something to think about. Are you "too nice" to your dad or your family, or your guy friends? No. So don't be "too nice" to girls you like. Just be yourself. My opinion.

Answer 2

Well I can say this your right! Usually girls, particularly young girls end up with the jerks because the girls want the rebels but most of the rebels are really nice at the beginning so they think they are getting a really nice tough guy until about the bedroom romp and then nice guy goes bye bye and Mr. Rebel stays. However when we grow up some in our 20's some in the 30's and sometimes not until the 40's we finally realize we really want that nice guy all the time not just behind close doors or at the beginning of the relationship. so yes we do want the nice guys, we are just dumb about it. Kind of like how in our view these great guys end up with a complete Bit*h. So since us women and men continue to think on different terms unfortunatly we can't seem to get it together the first time around.

Answer 3

The reality is that girls really do want a nice guy who will take care of them. But what most 'nice guys' don't realize is that being nice isn't enough. Girls also want a guy who will 'take their breath away'.



Just watch a jerk pick up a girl. He's all arrogant and cocky, but the girl seems to ignore it. In fact, I say that they're fooled. Can you blame them? They see this handsome man who's all confident and shining attention on them. They're like con men working a mark, and that's just what's going on! They work so well, they get the girl blaming herself for their bad behavior!



However, you can learn something from this. If you become as cool and confident as some of these jerks are arrogant and cocky, you'll do just fine. The key is finding your own style of romancing a girl, and use it to sweep a girl off her feet. Eventually, you'll find someone who won't 'screw you over'.

Answer 4

I think it's partly about age. People in their teens and early twenties tend to say they want one thing, but really want another. I think those girls say they want a nice boy - hell, they WISH that they'd want a nice by. But in reality they are attracted to bad boys. Part of this attraction to bad boys is the belief that a good woman can reform them. Eventually, women learn that if a guy is a jerk, he won't change. And that is when women really start to like nice guys.

Answer 5

I'm even not sure if nice guy really exists in the world. My ex-bf used to be very nice to me in the first few mths of our relationship and I thought he's the one. Then everything just went downhill. He became a jerk.



Well...It really depends on the gal. If the gal is still young (below 25), they will tend to want more drama in relationships afterwhich they will want stable and peaceful relationships. That's when they will start to look for nice guys.

Answer 6

No nice guys don't finish last. My ex use to say that when me and him broke up. Yeah I did that once to my ex and I regret it so bad. I mean he would literally do anything to be your everything. And like an idiot I went to someone who could be here for me now. I wish more than anything I could take that action back. Yeah now he won't even talk to me and I am really worried about him. I want to tell him how I feel about him but he won't answer my calls or e-mails. We should really talk. e-mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 7

i agree with bob, there's such a thing as being a too nice guy. just be yourself because if you 'act' too nice in the first place, then your gf will keep expecting that of you till you 'shred your true colours'. then they'll say you're a jerk. and overly nice guys (particularly those who will do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING for the girl) are like worshippers looking for a god to worship. all in all, be you and don't be TOO nice.

Answer 8

Nice guys are nice. I like nice guys but they have a wild, bad boy side to them also. I want them to respect me, my familly, and my friends. That is the only thing i need to have. Nice guys dont bring enough adventure to the table. WELL at least this is how I feel about it. Mabe it is just me, Bad guys are pretty kool.

Answer 9

some girls take advantage of nice guys to get what they want, but all girls aren't like that and the ones that take advantage of nice guys are screwing it up for girls who really do like geniunely nice guys. My boyfriend is nice ,but not to nice he's aggresive and not stupid nice

Answer 10

personally i want a nice guy. I'll never screw over the guy I'm dating just because how a guy treats me. i prefer a guy to be nice to me.

Answer 11

Maybe it's because the nice guys always fall for the bad girls. Like they say.........opposites attract.

Answer 12

Just a guy not answering your question but...

I wish I thought of this question :)

VERY GOOD QUESTION...

A Girl would promise a nice guy that their is someone out there..yet not good enough for her...

Answer 13

i like nice guys.



nice guys are nice when you are with them.



when they dump u, they arent nice guys anymore are they?!





Theyre...."JERKS!" :(



hahahahh lolz =)

Answer 14

its good u said not ALL girls!!