How do I deal with a Girlfriend Cheater?

Question

Randolph, Massachusetts



I have a dilemma..., my girlfriend was till married when I met her, we fell in love right away. She was in Randolph Massachusetts, and I was in Louiville, Kentucky. We spent a lot of hours on the phone, in June 2006 we went to vacation together in the Dominican Republic We had a lot of fun; while there, she went to visit her family and friends in Haiti and has take time to contact her ex-boyfriend who dumped her for his wife (he was married).



Fast forward



In September of 2006, her husband moved out liver her with their three years old girl. After few months I moved with her in Massachusetts, I have noticed she still have contact with her ex-boyfriend in Haiti. they call each other quite often. In 2008, she gave birth to my beautiful baby girl. Two weeks ago, she went to Haiti, I called her house at about 10:15PM, I was told by her nephew she was with her ex-boyfriend in the living room.I have found an e-mail she wrote in 2005, trying to meet with him in the Dominican Republic, I was not in the picture at this time but she was married to her husband. Now that I have a baby that i love dearly and her daughter that call me dad and I love like my two eyes, how do I deal with this? I can't live without my daughters, and I Still love her.







Randolph MA.

Answer 1

How can you trust a women who cheated on her husband, she is a back stabber in all the relationships. You will never be able to hold her unless time will teach her everything. Ask yourself are you a good person, who started a relationship with a married women.

Answer 2

If she has a kid with the guy then the contact could be because of that. However since that meeting you are talking about was 4 years ago it doesn't sound like you have much to worry about. If they have a child together they will stay in some form of contact the rest of there lives. You have given know real reason for any of us to think cheating is involved here, so love her and accept that the ex is in a totally different country and therefore not a threat to you.

Answer 3

You are prosecuting her before the crime. Communicate with her. You're never going to know for sure what happened until you ask her. Her nephew said they were in the livingroom, not the bedroom. And there were other people present (the nephew). When out of town company visit, people stay up and talk and catch up on each others lives all night. And all they do is talk. It may be years until they visit again. If she wanted to be with this other man, I'm sure she would be. But talk to her about it. Don't judge her yet. When you are done talking with her, all that stuff from the past, leave it in the past. People are innocent until proven guilty. There is no proof, yet, and there may not be at all. Ask her, she's the one with the answers.

Answer 4

To be honest, your not sure if she is cheating and you can only assume. First off she should be honest with you and shouldnt be in the room with her ex and your not there. I would ask her why was he there and should i worry about anything? Tell her how much you really love her and how much she and your daughters mean to you. if she loves you she wont cheat or leave. And the next time she goes up there make it known that you want to go with her.

Answer 5

if it was my gf, id sufficate her, chop her into lil pieces and put the scrag in a blender, mix it with potato and peas and salad and feed her to a pig! for my daughters id pack them into the car and move away telling them there mother left and wont come back.



the htought of cheating is disgusting, you should never ever get a gf or bf if you think or are willing to cheat, the hurt it puts on the other is just disgracefull. slap the ***** n throw her in ya boot, teach her a lesson for all cheatin fuc-kers

Answer 6

She was with u when she have a husband.. Now her husband dead. Now u with her. But she likes her ex..



She doing the same thing that she did to her dead husband while been with u right ??



Never trust womens like that.. get a decision before its too late..

Answer 7

Get rid of her and do not look back. Once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve better than this. Not all women do things like this.Find a good woman and get on with your life. She is only using you.

Answer 8

Add details. I didn't see any cheating proven. Have you confronted her? How do you know she has cheated on you? For starters, confront her about the purpose of contacting her ex-boyfriend.

Answer 9

Paybacks a ***** ain't it? Why do people fall for cheaters and then think their not going to cheat on them? Guess you learned the hard way.

Answer 10

Seek therapy

Answer 11

its said that you never know how much you love something until you loss it. how about filling a divorce claiming full custody of the children. she will of course she will panic.

Answer 12

sounds like you met her when she was a mess and was with someone else.



of course she's going to leave you for someone else as well.

Answer 13

if she cheated on him she will cheat on you....you knew she was a cheater when you cheated with her so now.....live with it or let her go you will never be able to stop her she has to do that on her own.

Answer 14

hahahahhahahahahhahaha





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Answer 15

what a hot mess of a couple

Answer 16

nice story

Answer 17

break up with her

Answer 18

are you even sure that's your kid?