Where have all the REAL men gone?

Question

I am in my 30's and I am a single, good looking woman. I am independent, have no kids and I'm a happy, positive person. I have been going on a date every week for about a year. I am really shocked at the quality of guys out there. They all seem to expect sex from me which I would be willing to give but honestly most of my dates are such a disaster, they don't even end with a kiss!

I've had guys break promises, lie and ask me to pay for a whole dinner. There are very few guys that have a car, a job and even an apartment of their own. Many guys even in their 40's have roommates or are living with family. Whenever I have found someone with a job a car and their own place, they turn out to be whiny, clingy drama queens.

My question is: WHERE HAVE ALL THE REAL MEN GONE? The men who keep their word? The men who can take care of themselves? The men who don't dump all their ex wife/girlfriend problems and stories on me on the first date? The men who will treat me like a lady? Most men I go out with make me feel like I should just be dating a girl...Seriously, is it just me, or are men a bunch of weak, wussy, whiny pathetic drama queens who can't take care of themselves? And HOW is it women put up with this crap?

Answer 1

I know right!?



They complain about us being whiney drama queens but obviously they don't own a mirror to look at themselves and see how they've been acting.



I think they have gotten too caught up in society today. They think that THEY'RE the ones in charge of everything and THEY decide how and if the relationship will work.



I think you should quit going on dates - just be happy with yourself and if there is a real man you'll find him just by doing what you do everyday - going on walks, to the grocery store, etc. Just live life, be happy, and maybe someday he'll come along but if not just get all your friends and hang out! I don't think you need to be in a relationship to be happy. Especially when all the men you know are total dipsh!ts.



:)

Answer 2

I enjoyed the response the guys gave. For starters, I'm single, late 30's, own my own house, very good job that I really enjoy and I like to think I know how to treat a lady. I'm fairly good looking (Body is not like Arnold Schwarzenegger but is not like Arnold the pig either) I take pretty good care of myself and think I'm a very decent guy. However; I've been stood up, lied to, cheated on (numerous times), dated women who do a drastic change after 3 or 4 dates (and NOT for the better) and find out they only "want to be friends" after they've dated a guy for 3 weeks before we stopped seeing each other. To give you a straight and honest answer, the good guys are out there but they are VERY FEW and FAR BETWEEN. A lot of guys don't want to date because their females counterparts don't want to date but they want a f.w.b. type of thing. Also guys became jerks have the "Bad Boy" image that some (maybe most) women want. Most good guys don't date because they just are tired of getting hurt when they put their heart out there. You read it all the time on the YAHOO Answers to see all the guys on here who treat the women like crap because the women wanted a bad boy in their life, have a baby with them only to find out he's now sleeping with someone else and now the women are looking for "Mr. Know how to treat a lady".

Answer 3

I'd love to ask you the same question. Where have all the REAL women gone? I went out with 4 different women last month and they all turned out to be duds. I work 40+ hours a week at a job I've had for 8 years. I live by myself, I take good care of my self, I'm half-way attractive, I'm in school to better myself, and I'd like to think I am half-way interesting to talk to.



I get feedback later that they've never been treated so well, yet I don't get a call back. I've been with women that would complain that they've been cheated it on, abused, taken for granted, ect and I have an excellent track record with my ex's to verify I'm a great catch...I'm even celibate!



Here's a hint. I gave up finally. I have learned to live with the fact Ms. Good-Enough is not out there. That women don't want a good man that'll treat them right that doesn't want sex or want to go get drunk and act like a baboon. I'm not weak. I'm emotional but I am not weak.



I've chosen not to put up with a woman who'll just throw me in a stable with other guys they can mooch a free dinner and a movie from. Excuse me for wanting a relationship, I know now that women like you don't want that. I'm happier now that I don't care and I won't date any more. Your loss.

Answer 4

Women killed the majority with their own lying, cheating, whoreish, thieving and mind f*cking attitudes.

There aren't too many of us left now, congratulations.



As for why you've had guys break promises, most likely retaliation for every woman who's done that to him

Lie and ask you to pay for a whole dinner, probably got fed up shelling out for hookers.

Car and apartment, well that's probably because a wh*re got it in a divorce.

Job, well either they've had it rough with the economy or they are just lazy shites, which is your fault for having bad taste.

Which also explains the clingy drama queens.

Answer 5

Actually the first two paragraphs made me feel pretty good about myself.I fit your discription of a real man.I'm taken and old enough to be your dad.Your in a rut.Change your routine.You wont find many girly men at the gym.You wont find many unemployed men at the gym or mama's boys.Good Luck.There are pleanty of real men out there.Perhaps a dating service since you couldn't do any worse.

Answer 6

There is a reason many of these guys are still single after 20 years of dating. There are a lot of idiots out there. Good luck!

Answer 7

There are real men out there but women see them as nerds. The women have low standards and actually chase the losers

because they like the bad boys for some reason.

Answer 8

they joined Il Divo :(

Answer 9

well when facebook and myspace were created, real men just went away. they hide behind facebook and myspace to get girls. i completely agree with you, guys are so dumb