Is there an appropriate way to answer people or am I wrong?

Question

I am 23 (with a toddler) and my boyfriend is 34. We are both individuals with an education and hold good carreers. We have been dating for 2 1/2 years but I still get those looks and questions from people on our age difference. Is there a right way to respond or is the age thing really that bad? It bothred us in the beginning but we quickly overcame the situation. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

I don't believe it is anyone else's business when it comes to the age difference. Yes, some people may have issues with it, but if you're both happy & in love, that's all that matters. I've dated older guys (10+ years older) since I was 19. Yes, sometimes we ran into the "generation gap," but it didn't phase either of us at the time. I'm what some call "an old soul" and have always been mature for my age as I had to grow up quickly. Dating older men just made sense because the boys my age were immature and I didn't have the patience to deal with immaturity.

I truly believe age shouldn't be an issue as long as you receive the love, respect, loyalty, and honesty you deserve. Someone once questioned my relationship with my current boyfriend (15+ years older). He was concerned that age difference might leave any future children without a father because there is a greater chance of my boyfriend dying well before I do. I simply told him that, while his concern is valid, I could marry someone my exact age, have kids, and he could be killed in a car wreck or other tragedy. God leads us where we are meant to go & won't give us anything we can't handle. Keep this in mind- what matters most is the happiness of you & your child.

Answer 2

That education couldn't have been too good as the words are spelled CAREERS and BOTHERED.



Now that that's out of the way, since you and your bf are both consenting adults, who cares what others think? Live your lives to the fullest and enjoy.

Answer 3

It's your life and what other people think don't matter none.



If they get huffy with their questioning then answer that it's not their life so why are they worryin.



If they are polite, then explain nicely that u are in love and that's what matters most in a relationship.

Answer 4

well if i had to answer that particular question, i would say age is just a number , and go on with my business, if they were rude i would just ask them how old they are and what age difference is between them and their person

Answer 5

when i was 18 a 25 year old girl taught me that AGE DOES NOT MATTER AT ALL



thanks for that rae.