How can I start trusting guys again?

Question

I know, one of those cliche posts. I was hurt by a guy I loved, who would go and sleep with other girls and still tell me he cared, and then he ditched me. Now, to make him jealous, I added a ton of guys from around the area on Facebook and they always comment on my status. Now, a ton of guys message me all the time. I'm losing my pride, even though I don't hang out with most of them. I did it because I wanted a relationship or a fling, anything to get me to forget him. He came back in my life recently. Lately, I've just lost my trust in all guys. I'm not going to lie, I'm pretty. So I feel like that's all guys want me for is my looks. That's what I usually find out. I've come to hate guys and think they want nothing else but sex. I see people in cute relationships, which I want, but I feel like I can't trust a guy ever again. What should I do? Can I do anything?

Answer 1

You should just keep things in perspective. Adding all those guys may have been a mistake because it will give other guys the wrong impression of you, but that only matters if they are very observant on facebook and what not. You are a pretty girl, you should have no reason to go out of your way to meet guys. Just move on to the next guy and be patient with him. Make him wait for any physical signs of affection. Only get there when you feel confident that you can trust the next guy. If you are having real trouble trusting guys, then why don't you just trust yourself. What I mean by that is, why don't you trust your judgement and approach a guy that has not approached you. That can also work if you are confident enough to put "yourself out there," but most women are very guarded about that kind of thing. Personally, I find it refreshing when a woman makes the first move, but hey, to each their own. Don't worry about things too much, you'll be fine once you get over your ex.

Answer 2

You shouldn't punish all guys for the way that one treated you. I understand that you are having trouble trusting again, I would too, but you have to learn to move on and give someone else a chance. Try making friends with some of these guys first, and not jumping into a relationship right away. This way, you get to know the guy and how he really treats girls.

Answer 3

maybe you're running after the wrong type of guys. i say i want a cute relationship but i always end up liking the jerks. so maybe you should hang out with more shy, sensitive guys who might not start the conversation with you, u may have to initiate it. also not all guys are like that, so you're gonna find a guys who really cares about you. meeting guys on facebook isnt a good idea...trust me they like you for your profile picture and that's about it.

Answer 4

You REALLY remind me of this manga "Boku wa Ookami" I highly recommend it. You would be shocked by how similar you are to the female lead. And as for your trust issue with guys.. You don't have to mind them fawning over your looks. Wait for the right guy; someone who will care for you despite being a bishoujo. I know I don't really make sense right now. But you will soon realize that not all men are the same.

Answer 5

By putting your past behind you, all guys aren't the same. you change the way you think i gurantee you attract better guys. Trust humans to be humans baby, thats what i do we all make mistakes. so trust that you'll be okay and that you live and you learn and NEVER Tell guys you have a trust issue. just slowly change your past into a non existence and focus on positive futures

Answer 6

You hang around with me, you'll feel appreciated for who you are. As I care less about looks.. I just don't care bout anything really.



Only way to regain trust is to be proven wrong.