My boyfriend said he needs a break?

Question

About five months ago I found out that my boyfriend had some sexy pics on his computer of many different woman. When I confronted him about it he said he wasn't cheating on me, but just liked to look at other woman. These pics came from either woman texting it to him or emailing the. After we talked he begged me not to leave him, so I decided to stay with him. I have been trying to regain my trust in him. But honestly since this has happened from time to time I get a little bit insecure, it doesn't happen very often. Recently on two occassions I couldn't get in contact with him and sent him numerous text messages and called him. He said that this is starting to bother him and frustrate him that I can no longer trust him. I am working hard at trying to regain my trust BUT he feels like it is all my fault to why he feels frustrated because I don't completely trust him. But I think he should be more understanding and supportive of to why I can't completely trust him. When the problem all stems back to his actions. He saids that he needs a break from this relationship. He said the break means that he is not with me anymore and that we can revisit where things are between us in a month. Help I don't know what to do at this point. I do love him, but I think he is being a little selfish in not trying to work with me to regain my trust back. Now he is totally giving me the cold shoulder and acting like everything is my fault. We are both 35 and are in a long distance relationship. He lives in Maryland and I live in NJ. All of my friends and his friends thought we were going to be married and are so upset about our break up. I don't understand what changed when things were going well between him and I. Help I am broken hearted.

Answer 1

He is not interested in a committed relationship with you. Men who are interested in committed relationships, don't have sexy pictures of other woman on their computer. If you take a month break from him, you will discover that he will tell you that its over between you too and he will blame your lack of trust for the break up. On those days that you couldn't reach him, I guarantee he was with someone else, because otherwise you would have gotten a text saying that he'll call you when he is not busy. Things were not going well, you wanted to believe that they were, but if they were he would not have been acting this way. You aren't posting pictures of sexy men on your computer. I hope that telling you this straight is what you need to see things for what they really are, so that in a month, you wont say, "****, she was right!" Good luck!

Answer 2

girl, at 35 u act insecure??/ men as they get old, they like to look at porn, other chics, get picks...talk game but in the end, they will not cheat on u unless they r chronic cheaters....him lookin at dirty pics shouldnt b a problem, im 24 n my is 37, he asked me to have a threesome n i purposely told him ok lets get a hotel room n i will get a girl, he was nervous n didnt wanna go along with it...men just like to talk game, act young agian n stuff

Answer 3

i know it will be hard but just let him go for good.And do not go back with him because as much as you try you will never forget what he did and you will never be able to start it again from zeroyou won't never be like before,these thoughts will always spin in your head and if he likes to loo at other wemen he always will

Answer 4

Yeah so let him break and you take your own break. Honestly i don't believe i relationship breaks, their stupid and a waste of time. Move on.

Answer 5

He needs a break give him space like he needs. If it's meant to be it will be.

Answer 6

You should offer to break his legs

Answer 7

there is no such thing as a break when it's over it's over