What does it mean if a guy asks a girl "What are your plans for the weekend?"?

Question

I always heard that was something people do when they're interested, but this one has me stumped...

There is a guy that I see a lot at work. We don't work for the same company, but we do work in the same building and we see each other at least a few times a week. This actually started about 4 years ago when he started saying "Goodnight" or "Have a nice evening" as he was leaving the building. Over the last 6 months we have been on a similar shift, and we have lunch at the same time, so we often run into each at lunch. He started with the general greetings again, and I asked him for his name, and it has slowly worked up to general pleasantries.

He will ask how my day is going, or how my weekend was, and that sort of thing, but has never really asked me anything personal or done anything that seemed to show actual interest in me as a person. About 3 weeks ago, we had a longer conversation and found out that we're pretty close in age (I thought he was a lot younger than he is, and he obviously thought I was a lot younger than I am) and since then he's been talking to me a bit more, but nothing has changed a great deal.

I gave him my name 6 months ago when I found out his, but he doesn't appear to have retained that information, and sometimes calls me "Sunshine". Last Friday, he made a point of asking me what my plans for the weekend were, and that caught me off guard as he's never done anything like that before. I told him I didn't have anything major going on, and asked what his plans were and he told me "I was thinking about going to this festival" and started telling me about the festival and the sorts of entertainment that would be there, etc. This all took me by surprise, and I wasn't sure how to respond at the time, so I would just nod or say "okay" or "uh huh" or something similar as he was talking about it... and then he would add more information... and pause and wait for me to respond, etc, and then eventually I got distracted by my phone and he ended up walking off.

If any other guy had done this, I might have thought they were trying to ask me out, but this guy has never really shown any interest. Is this something that guy could do just to "make conversation" or is there something more going on? I am so confused. If he wanted to ask me out, why didn't he ask if I wanted to go or something similar? Please help.

Answer 1

Yeah he was asking you out without trying to put you on the spot.

its most comfortable to ask without asking than to flat out ask.

Maybe he's just a little shy.



If i was talking to a girl and telling her about my weekend plans. and then she answers the phone in the middle of the conversation. I would take a it a no.



and by not showing interest do mean by flirting? well he could be shy.

theirs different stages of shyness. he could be the type who can strike up coversations, but can't flirt for the life of themselves.

Answer 2

My guess is he's kinda shy and was planning on you replying about the festival as " that sounds like fun " to where he would reply " would you like to go " then you didn't reply right, and he's to shy to think fast on his feet that he just left it alone. Really if a guy goes out on a limb and does something out of the ordinary then he's probably interested, this guy just was afraid to go any further out on the limb than he already had.

Answer 3

he does want to ask you out just scared or i guess shy

Answer 4

prob wants to know if yer taken, or hes bored