is being a virgin a turn off to guys?

Question

im 19 and i feel like the fact that im a virgin is a turn off to guys. Its not that im a prude, im not even a needy girl looking for an intense relationship. I just want to give it away to a guy who i really like and wont be a jerk about it. There was this guy i was seeing and he said he wanted to be my first when I'm ready, i agreed. 3 more times of us hanging out and he expected me to put out, i said i just want to get to know him more and very soon i'll be ready, but i didnt hear from him after that night. Is being a virgin a turn off to guys? Does it scare them away? Or does it make me seem like a tease? Because i'll do everything else but then last minute i chicken out and say not yet.

Answer 1

Dear 19 year old,

I don,t think its a turn off it sometimes becomes more of a challenge to men and others its more that they can,t be bothered to be in relationship that perhaps does,nt offer them or have the potential for quick sex.

I remember a while back that a young girl around your age offered to sell her virginity on ebay and eventually did so much to the disgust of others however one women did reply and said tell you what at least she got something out of it rather than me who lost it to some spotty faced student in a bedsit who I never saw again.

So a couple of cases of different situations as for you your feelings are spot on when you say I,d like to get to know you a little better first I,d go further and say it will be just when I,m ready and not until!

If you loose some boyfriends because of the way you feel then so be it. Don,t give in under pressure

I can,t tell you when you should loose your virginity but I can tell you that you,ll never forget when you did.

Hold on to your reasons why, they are right

bon chance

Answer 2

Being a virgin is certainly NOT a turnoff. However, being "needy", and wanting a relationship to be "intense" prematurely can be.



Think of it this way... Are YOU attracted to a guy who is always trying to please you, calls you all the time, and has no life of his own, outside of you? Such a guy is "needy", and this is not an attractive trait.



There is a natural progression in relationships... Interest, Infatuation, Comfort, then Mature Love. Although Infatuation can be considered intense, most guys need to get to the comfort stage before they can handle anything too "intense".



Being a virgin is a plus, not a minus, but there are other issues that can turn guys off.

Answer 3

No, dear. Being a virgin, I can assure you, is a turn ON for guys. Think about - how would you feel if you realized that the guy of your dreams had been saving himself for the perfect girl who happens to be you? It adds to the psychological experience of sex, knowing that the other person was pure and is yours and only yours. However, at the same time, some guys aren't willing to work towards that. They give up after a few rebuffs from the girl. They aren't willing to work hard for you. So in that case, do you really think they're worth your virginity? Your virginity is a gift - a very beautiful gift that you give to the man you love. Never have sex under pressure - have it because you want to give yourself to your partner. And if your partner doesn't understand that, then it's clear that he doesn't love you - only your body.

Answer 4

No longer for me. It does not even enter into it. Let me explain: activate is the enchantment. In that stage of finding you cute & humorous & what not, you most of the time would not be sharing about your virginity yet, right? By the time we bought to the dialog about intercourse where I discover your a virgin, i'm already became on with the aid of you. Finding out i might be your first could be slightly extra strain, but would without a doubt make it variety of hotter for me. But, this is only a subject of opinion & shall be different for exclusive guys. They proper man for you will recognize the actual fact you're a virgin.

Answer 5

Turn On For Guys

Answer 6

Happened to my sister too. She's 20, saving her virginity for the right guy. That guy probably didn't care about your well being... definitely not the guy to give something so valuable away. I doubt the jerks are intimidated, they probably felt rejected. Which is normal from guys to run away from, they felt their pride take a hit.

I'm 15, and I'm surrounded by pressure to have sex but I'm going in the direction you are, which I know one day I'll be happy I did. (:

Answer 7

Honestly, don't put out if you don't want to. Never let anyone pressure you into losing your virginity.



I don't think it's a big turn off. Just wait for the right guy. If he likes you enough he'll wait.

Answer 8

Being a virgin, in and of itself, itself.

Most men just expect only one thing from a relationship. They'd love to take your virginity. But the guys you are with seem to only be with you for that one reason.



There's some guy out there who will wait, and be there for you. Until then, don't feel pressured by it.

Answer 9

No it isn't but some think its easy to get it from virgins and when they dont get it they run because they want to get it from someone else.



My advice be yourself, stay the way you are because its not as if you told him you were celibate. The right guy will come just be patient.

Answer 10

I don't know about him...........

but i would love a virgin for me.............and i know there are a lot of guys who want virgins for marriage and relations......................

I mean hey...........'' Who needs leftovers of other's..................when you actually can have a full meal?''

I am not being rude but..............thats the fact

Go for a boy who would like you to be a virgin..............

thanks for reading

and best of luck with your life

Answer 11

its a huge turn on. sure inexperience is a bit crappy, but he will be able to proudly say he was the best you ever had.