Allow me to explain. We have dated since September 1st. I got deployed in October and I'm still deployed. Being separated I learned what type of person she really is. When we were together we never fought or anything. It was perfect. But being separated I learned that she is a very rude person. She's stubborn, she gets offended easily, and when she gets upset she is very disrespectful. I get upset, everyone does, but you shouldn't yell and be rude just because you are unhappy. She is 22 and still learning how to be independent. She gets offended when I give her better options on most things. Mostly it's spending unnecessary money when she doesn't have to or things that will help her out. I also get on her about her academics and she told me "I'm not required to give you a plan for what I want to do with my life so stay out of the planning part of it." How this affects me is because I do have a plan and I don't want to be with someone who doesn't share the same academic values as I do. What really bothers me is she is stubborn. She wants to do things "her" way. Even if there is a better way to do things she will do it just because she wants to make "her"own decisions. I thought being a couple meant making decisions together. If we cant agree then compromising should be the next step and she doesn't do that until after she rages. She can be a good girlfriend but I want someone who knows how to deal with their frustrations, who shares the same values as me, and someone who isn't so tough to deal with. She is really tough to deal with you guys. I make her seem like a snob but the bad certainly outweighs the good in her. She wanted to move in together and I said it wasn't a good idea. She's about to get kicked out the military and when I said we should live separately she was like "no because we agreed on it and you're stuck with me. I don't make plans often and I'm not changing it." Who in their right mind says something like that? I don't love her anymore. But I do like having someone there for me so I deal with it. Should I leave her now or leave her once I find someone else? If we live together she isn't going to be anymore than just someone who is helping with bills and who has a vag. Screw it. Ill just break up with her when I get home. I don't want to use her. I'm a better man than that.