i need help on handling a break up?

Question

im a freshman in high school

im so depressed, we had only been going out for 3 days. then she dumped me for no visible reason.

you see, this girl was my friend for some time. eventually i grew to like her, love her even. one day i was at a friends house. "who do you like?" the message she sent me said. i was frustrated, so i asked "well who do you like?"

the results were me asking her out the next day. i was so happy. she made me feel like a completely different person. the girl of my dreams said yes.

i had never been self confident, but she changed that. she always complimented me, when i asked her why she said yes, she replied "your fun to be around, cute, funny, and i always kinda liked you"
i told her the same, when she would say something bad about how she looked today, i would reply "well i think your beautiful"

the point is, we were , or seemed to be close. its not like i treated her bad, or didnt talk to her.
i was sitting in my 4th period class our 4th day, and i got a text that read:

"hey, i dont think we should go out, im sorry"

it happened just today, i was devistated. i couldnt help but cry. how could she be so cruel, to lie to me like that? she was a good friend for a year, its hard for me to just let go. i cant go to my dad for advice, he and i have a terrible relationship, he told me never to call him again. mom isnt much help either, she tried but.. it wasnt good advice.

some of my friends have never had a girlfriend, so they have no idea what im going through. even though they try... im glad they tried... it still didnt help.

as i dont see how i can just get her back. if i knew how to, believe me i would. i need help handling this. i feel like a loser, because all of those nice things she said about me were lies. to make things worse, she rides my bus. and the teacher sat us next to each other in our seccond period. how can i just forget, when im going to have to see her face every day. i did nothing wrong, i actually cried today, for the first time in a long time. i tried listening to music, yesterday- by the beatles came on and i couldnt stop crying. can anyone help me,

should i just let it be? should i forget? or should i try to get her back?
if so, i need to know how

Answer 1

okay i know how you are feeling.

she prolly broke up with you because you all have been friends for a while and she just felt weird.

or she could have liked someone eles.



well as for right now i think that you should try to let her go

and if she wants you back then she will come back.

but just try to build your friendship back up and then

try to go back into a relationship with her.

i hope this helps. GOOD LUCKK. (:

Answer 2

Well man, look at it this way, she never did tell you she stopped feeling for you the way she was or is, so shes not actually lying. Maybe she got excited and said yes, but the change from friends to an actual relationship could have scared her. Don't quit man, follow what you feel, but don't pressure her or push her to get back together cause you will scare her off. I myself am dating a girl that was my friend for 5 years, we've spoken about these things so i understand this whole issue and if it doesn't work, well remember your a freshman in high school, your relationships are just beginning.

Answer 3

First I would get an ice mint ice cream between two chocolate cookies, because I'm a girl. After eating that, let yourself cry and listen to sad music. You can run from you feelings, just make them worse by trying to avoid them. she did mean all those things she said about you, she wasn't lying. she wouldn't have said stuff that makes you like her more is didn't want you to like her. she's really young, I bet the relationship got too serious for her, so she broke it off. Most girls her age only date a guy for about three months then move on. I bet she feels bad too. I've made boys cry and I never forgot them, but they don't know that. Try to keep your self esteem, remember you did nothing wrong and think about the things you like about yourself. Like I like how I'm always honest and compassionate.

Answer 4

Let it be, don't talk to her, try to stay happy. She'll come back if you do this. Just make sure you act like you don't care. Girls hate that. Then she will feel like she made a huge mistake.

Answer 5

wow ive been there before man whatever you do keep your head up and dont get down on yourself, it will hurt but time heals all wounds, try to be happy, even in front of you you get let her see how it is hurting you! she's cruel for doing that but thats what some girls do she will realize what she lost dont get down on this your still young you will have plenty of relationships but i know its hard