To hang or not to hang with my girlfriend before she goes to her party?

Question

My girlfriend is having a Halloween party in which she is having two couples over to celebrate the holiday by drinking (maybe smoking) and hanging out. Unfortunately, I am not able to make it 'cause I have to be up at 6 am for school tomorrow. I am mad because when planning this party it was coordinated around her friends rather than my schedule. When I told her how I was not able to attend because of school she was sad; however, she did not call off her party or reschedule.

She wants to hang out beforehand so I can help her pick out a costume. Honestly, I am in no mood to go with her for a short hour and let her go to the party, while she has fun and I am stuck in my house studying. The question that has been looming in my mind is: Should I hang out with her before the party?

Note: my girlfriend is also missing my birthday because her mom scheduled her to visit on Thanksgiving. When I told my girlfriend she will be missing my birthday, all she did was say how she will try and make it up to me when she gets back from visiting her mom. I don't even know if i should be angry or not...

Answer 1

I think you should hang out with her. you know she want to hang with you, its just that the timing can be bad. just give her a chance, she has to go visit her mom, thats family! don't make her choose beccause it will most likely not be in your favor,

Answer 2

I wouldn't overanalyze these scheduling conflicts or it will drive you crazy! The conflicts that you two have are not personality based or emotional based they are just scheduling conflicts. I wouldn't worry about it, but I would go hang out with her before the party to make an effort. If you make an effort, she will make an effort later!

Answer 3

I would just hang out with her, do what you feel like. BUT warning: do NOT get mad at her because she had family plans. Everyone gets busy. Just be careful about that :)

Answer 4

This is so incredibly petty. Don't you have better things to worry about? My suggestion is to stop being so whinny. Be a man, suck it up and tell her to have fun. She isn't obligated to plan her whole life around you. If you are secure enough in yourself to accept that, she will respect you.

Answer 5

FIRST THE PARTY, IF YOUR NOT IN THE MOOD DON'T HANG OUT, YOU CAN ALWAYS DO SOMETHING AND SEE HER 2MORROW. NOW HER MOM'S, DON'T BE UPSET WITH HER FOR SPENDING TG WITH FAMILY, YOUR BD CAN BE CELEBRATING ANY-DAY OF NOV. I CELEBRATE FOR A WEEK R TWO FOR MY BD OK. AT LEAST SHE SAID SHE'LL MAKE IT UP 2 YOU.

Answer 6

if you really dont want to hang out with her then don't i dont think thats fair that she hasnt tried to stay for your birthday maybe this could secretly be your revenge for missing your birthday

Answer 7

of course hang with her! ur both missing inportant things

Answer 8

don't be angry, ilifes too short<3