Question:
Got her # why is she not contacting me?
Blasto
2011-04-10 22:46:53 UTC
So I got this girls number about a week ago and she has not been blowing up my phone. The reason I am confused is because

1) she was WAY flirty with me and even being a bit slutty around me before I got her #
2) usually when a girl first gets my number she is blowing up my phone

We have only texted once (the first day I got the #) and I don`t usually initiate conversation so neither of us have contacted eachother for almost a week.

Do you think she is trying to play hard to get now that I have shown interest?
Six answers:
?
2011-04-10 22:57:22 UTC
She's probably waiting for you to text her because she doesn't want to look desperate texting you first. It's not always up to one person to start conversation! You have her number, go text her!
?
2011-04-11 05:55:16 UTC
Uhh mabey shes busy? Or mabey she wants the MAN to step up to the plate and be a big boy and phone call her and talk to her with those things called words? Not the instant message words either you know those sounds you make with your voice? I swear if we could submit audio submissions i would do it every time just to get my point across and exemplify my tone. You have no clue what my voice sounds like do you? exactly
anonymous
2011-04-11 05:57:37 UTC
shes not interested..

if you said she was being slutty around you then

odds are she was being slutty around a million different guys.

just forget about her and delete her number. plus why would you

want to get with a slutty girl? go find your self a nice girl(;
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2011-04-12 02:31:17 UTC
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concerned citizen
2011-04-11 06:04:54 UTC
Girls like that NEVER want a guy who shows interest after getting the number.



First off, lets start with the core idea of women here: They are social beings. When they go out, they look to expand their influence and align themselves with more popular, more successful, HIGHER VALUE people who are better than them in every way.



So, when meeting a girl who is either drunk or a litte sl*tty, you need to realize the chance of actually seeing her again isnt that good- she will QUESTION herself in the morning, and any guys numbers she got she will either not remember completely, OR she will tell herself that she was a sl*t and wont want to talk to the guy. Girls are afraid of the SOCIAL BACKLASH from being deemed a sl*t by their peers; so you have to REALLY make them want you BAD, and you have to also get to KNOW THEM as a PERSON after they want you, if you want them to hit you up the next day. (unless they really are a sl*t. in that case, you still have to play hard to get and not hit them up first. cuz if you do, you show you are low value and dont have alot of girls on your d*ck. girls WANT guys who have lots of other girls. that shows the guy is high value, and worth chasing.)



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so here are some tips on what to do:



1- be really confident, fun, outgoing, NOT nervous, funny, playful, smiling and enjoying yourself, etc at all times.



2- DONT NEED to talk to people. Be so comfortable and confident in your own skin, and have such power and influence when you speak (cuz your so funny and engaging and charismatic) that people are clamoring to speak to YOU.



3- But yes, you need to initiate a few conversations before the people in the room get the hint that your the sh*t. be chill when you do tho. and dont derail other peoples convos. remember: if ppl are standing there awkward or bored in a circle, JUMP IN with a preplanned opener or story that TIME AND TIME AGAIN has proven to get everybody laughing. then go from there! its THAT EASY. Then your automatically the man, you save the day in that circle of people. for the next few minutes at least, most likely that night at least, they will like you a little bit instead of either not know you, or dislike you. then just keep improving it with everybody.



4- whiten your teeth (whitening strips) and work out and get buff. thats all i can tell you. those 2 things make a HUGE f*cking difference and SO many guys neglect to do them for whatever reason. laziness is all i can think of. as a salesman who relies on positive social feedback for my JOB, i can PROMISE YOU that this is very important. its VITAL. white teeth equates to clean mouth and well groomed and high social status. great body equates to great health and good genetics and long life. girls get wet over sh*t like that. thats why 80% of my door to door sales are women.



5- get to know her once shes into you! once shes clearly into you, and youve qualified her to you (example, if shes like "i went snowboarding in ohio a few weeks ago" be like "oh no way, ive been going since i was a kid!" in a chill "oh thats pretty cool!" type of way. Seem GENUINE, dont seem like your FORCING a connection, dont seem like you WANT a connection to be there, instead seem REAL. Seem like you could care less if you guys have something in common, but at the same time, seem a TEENY bit impressed that there is.



here are some tips on what not to do:



1- dont ASK for her number. she will GIVE IT TO YOU if she intends on seeing you again. or she will ask you for YOURS.



2- dont show interest in her before she shows it in you. (the girl you really want, or are aiming for) you should talk to her yeah, but talk to her friends FIRST and win over everyone ELSE in the room BEFORE you talk to her. Then once your clearly THE MAN, thennn you can talk to her- but tease her and dont seem interested. be funny and make her laugh, but be brief and dont seem to care. once shes clearly trying to win your approval, THEN you can LET HER "win you over" and you slowly start to "show more interest". Get the idea? She feels like your a super high value guy, who she is LUCKY enough to get to talk to her!



Make her feel LUCKY to be in your presence. Thats the number one thing.



Imagine brad pitt walking into a room. How would he react? He would be ultra confident, EXPECT attention from everybody, his vibe would then make people open up to him, and he would NOT be thirsty for any girl in the room, cuz hes ABOVE all them.
Paul
2011-04-11 05:52:38 UTC
Text her, stupid!


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