What am I supposed to do in a date!?

Question

I bet this must sound so ridiculous to some of you but I'm new to this relationship thing:

I'm 15 and there's this girl in my school who I really, really, really like. Like no other girl ever before, I think about her like 24/7. We've made a band with me being the pianist, she the singer and another mutual friend as guitarist. I am painfully shy and I'm afraid that if I don't make a move with this girl, another guy will take her. There is in fact another boy in our year who CONSTANTLY flirts with her.

This girl has admitted I'm one of her best guy friends but I'm not too sure. She acts interested in me a lot and is really impressed by my piano playing skills when other people are around, but shy whenever it's just the two of us. She's super-popular too.

So if I want to be more than friends, what am I supposed to do? I guess you guys will say, "Ask her out". But the problem is that I'm a little unsocial (since I'm dead shy) and I prefer MSN to talking on phone - unlike her. I've never had a girlfriend so I don't know what the hell a date is supposed to be. My parents don't know about her, but they say that I'll have plenty of time later in my life for relationships - focus on my studies for now.

Thanks for reading, I know I don't really have a specific question -but if you were kind enough to read all of the above, then if you could give me your input. :)

Answer 1

1 start talking to her more

2 don't act creepy about it and stalk her 24/7

3 do not and i reapeat do not stalk her 24/7 to explain dnt msn her all the time comment her face book all the time etc etc

4 once u get to talking to her more other than online and stuff even though u r friends try not to be a best friend cuz once that happens u r in the friend zone no going back from that

5 ask her out to chill at the park such as going for a walk which opens things up cuz than if she had a good time she will remember the nice evening for hte park and outdoors is not a pressuring date.

6 go to a public place with her once again not a pressuring date.

7 if u go out wit her a few times if ure lucky. than ask her out on a real date such as dinner movies or over ure place.

-and most of all act confident like the Clearasil commercial no need to b worried.

so there you go. first date is always somewhere public for u never know if she is totally in to you unless u chill at nice places. best of luck and if things fail than just move on furst gf or date is usualy the one u learn ure mistakes. which they shouldn't if u act cool and not worried good luck

Answer 2

Ok I'm 17 and I am also really really shy, and I also like this amazing girl that could get any guy she wanted. I know you don't want me to say it......but ASK HER OUT! You have to. That's all you can do. If you hate being shy like me then the only way you are going to get over your shyness is by ASKING HER OUT.



Asking her out is the easy part. Especially since you are already really good friends with her. I'm sure she'll say yes because she sounds interested in you and you are friends.



Once you ask her out, then the difficulties begin. I finally built the confidence to ask out this amazing girl and then once I went on the date I felt painfully shy and akward. But let me tell you something: MOST OF IT IS IN YOUR HEAD! I asked her if I was as painfully shy and akward after we went (it was our Junior Prom), and she said no and she said she had fun.



Now, here's another thing: Most girls find it cute if you're shy and nervous around them for the first couple of dates! So you don't have to worry that much. After the first couple of dates you should start feeling more comfortable around them and you should start feeling relaxed and just have fun.



So YOU GOTTA ASK HER OUT whether you are scared or not. If you like her that much, then you have to. Or, like you said, some other idiot will ask her before you do! So try to act confident, even though you're not! I have the same problem, but since I finally built the confidence to ask this amazing girl out, I've slowly but surely felt more and more confident and less and less akward and shy. Like I said, this girl could get any guy she wanted. She's a perfect 10. And for some reason she sticks with an unconfident shy guy like me! So just give it a try! She probably wants you to ask her out! Or she will at least say yes and then you can go out with her and be happy and have fun.



Good luck! I know asking her out will be nerve-wracking but just give it a try!

Answer 3

Take it slow. Don't panic. Remember that you are the best guy for this girl and play it cool. Be nice to her and flirt with her on occasion.

I understand that you're painfully shy.. .and you don't have to become Mr. Popular to get her to notice you. Be a friend to her (make her laugh and make her feel comfortable around you). Try talking to her outside of school -- on msn if it makes you comfortable

. The most important thing to remember is to be confident. You have a lot going for you and she's obviously impressed with your skills on piano. So just go with the flow. Be your best self and she's likely to develop a crush on you. When she likes you you'll know because she'll find excuses to be around you and talk to you alone... then ask her out.

Answer 4

Don't ask her out until you know she's into you because she might just consider you as a friend...but as of right now keep being her friend and do simple things... like playing with her hair..(girls like that)..You can also say "so hows your love life" but make sure it's seems like a random question..she'll most likely laugh and answer your question..things like that will get you more closer to her in a boyfriend-ish way..not saying your her boyfriend..but just showing her you can be a good boyfriend...& being a good boyfriend consists 1.being yourself..2.listening to whatever she has to say..and 3.respecting her feelings....oh yea a date is just like hanging out..but instead it's the two of you...normally on a date you'll hold hands etc..like the movies would be perfect because the movie theater is cold ..which means she'll love to be warm =)..So it opens the door 4 you to put your jacket and arm around her...IM A GIRL SO I KNOW THESE THINGS..JUST BE YOURSELF.

Answer 5

aaaaah, you remind me of how i was last year. right, you two seem to be y'know quite close, but you need to open up abit more. i have the same problem usually, and i should probably tak some of my own advice. but 2 weeks ago, i grew a pair and asked this girl out, we have been preeeetty much inseperable ever since. the thing i've learnt from this is that she liked me even though i was shy, the 1st time i met her like 1-on-1 I was terrible, but in time, 3 more meets, i was as confident as anything. just be yourself, talk to her, make her laugh etc. and see how it goes. best of luck to you x

Answer 6

Well what you could do is ask her to go to the movies or something like that. Just be together alone. I know you said you're shy when alone, but she may like that. Do your best, and she will see you are shy and work around that until you are more comfortable together.

I hope this helped, good luck.

Answer 7

Get to know her more,

if you are personable outside your shell, try to come out of it.

Make sure she knows you are interested in her by trying to get closer. If she doesn't have feelings for you yet, she will after getting to know you more. You just need to not be too afraid. Once you get that close to someone, its easy to make the switch to being "together". Just make sure that if anything happens while you are dating, she will still be one of your best friends and nothing will change that. Hope this helped!

Answer 8

Relax. Get to know her better and the conversation will be easier.

If you decide to ask her out, try taking her to a movie. It's not awkward and after if you guys run out of things to talk about you can reference back to the movie



good luck

Answer 9

hey, people who say ask her out or summit like that are fake.



Ok it aint easy at your point of view, but i say the first step is to get closer to her, socially that is. but dont get too close because when the time is right to ask her out she'd just say better off be friends.



when the time is right and youve built your confidence right up ask her out in a jokingly flirty way.



If the answer is a yes, take her out, maybe for a walk or summit? an ice cream? cinema aint a gd idea.. trust me. then its just the easy part..

Answer 10

first of, that is really cute,



ask her out :P

on msn if you would like, then



since its the first date,

take her for a nice walk, ice cream, maybe movies,

there are so many things out there to do hun,

if she enjoys music, take her for a walk and go window shop at a music store, or go out for food and listen to her while she talks,

whenever shes talking to you, look into her eyes (girls love that)



i hope that helped you hun,

btw: shes shy alone with you cause she likes you hun!



Ashley<3

Answer 11

well thats a big one. just try to be really nice and maybe say lets go see a movie or go to lunch casually then kinda go from there and try to hold her hand like at a movie. and always compliment her. if she is nice to you and shy when you two are alone i think you have a great chance. i hope everything goes well.

Answer 12

Hello,

My name is Muriel, a grandmother like your own. I think you should just go for it. It sounds like both of you are a little shy around each other. Do what the heart says.

I hope this helps,

Muriel Depthin, a grandmother like your own

Answer 13

Just be a good boy and listen to her talk - don't talk too much about yourself unless she wants to hear it.

she probably feels the same way.

Answer 14

I think you shud let her know that ur interested. Ask one of ur frnds to hint that u like her and see how she reacts.

Answer 15

just ask her out it cant do any harm and the worst she can say is no. and if you are realy good friends then you will still be friends after

Answer 16

eat drunk and sleep deeply

Answer 17

just relax.





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