is this guy being an asshole?

Question

kso, i was almost dating this guy, and then he started talking sexual and i wasn't ready for that with him yet, so i told him and we stopped talking for like 3 weeks ? then tonight i texted him saying

"if it really annoys you that i talk you, i can stop..."
"why would it annoy me to talk to you"
"well you never get online anymore :/ "
"thats cause im always working or chillin with my friends, does it upset you that much that i don't talk to you very much"
"yea i understand that, but i just wish you had time to talk to me more then every 2 weeks!"
"i know i understand that but im always working so it's not my fault"
"i know its not your fault"
"yea well i got to go, im hanging with some chick tonight, but i'll message you tomorrow i promise"

..do i have a right be upset in this situation ? i mean the chick he's hanging with tonight already f*cked 2 guys in one night. what should i do ? and when he "messages" me tomorrow, what should i say to him ? should i try and get our relationship good again or will i end up hurt again ? (im 15, hes 17)

Answer 1

Youre 15! seriously you need to tell this guy to f*ck off! he is just using you. he is not worth your time! think about this. you are 15. you will hopefully live to be 90. which means you have 75 years ahead of you to find a decent guy who will not hurt you or use you or try to pressure you into things. why is it that young girls feel they need to rush into everything?

and from the sounds of things, you have never met this guy in person and only talk to him online which again says a lot. he is not worth it. if he really wanted you, he would be talking to you everyday or give you his number or try to meet you or show you some sign that he is interested in something other than sex with you.

Answer 2

The only way this guy wants a 'relationship' with you or any woman is to get laid. He is saying you are not really worth his time, cuz he's got some booty already next to him and you aren't even on the booty call list; which puts the stress on you.

Now before you decide this wonderful miracle of a man is worth you giving it away for, consider this: he has done NOTHING for you. Not one thing. Not visited you, or called you, or brought you flowers or asked what your favorite colors are or ANYTHING. And he is teasing you right now....( if you want me, you know what i waaaaaa annnnt! ) And many girls give in, thinking he will then get 'closer' to them. Nope, he'll just lead you on a new merry game called, " You're just not that great" or " Im just not that interested in YOU" while he says this to all the other girls he is getting laid by, and now you will be just like them- being lead around by the nose. This guy doesn't care about you at all. That is the truth. And YOU deserve WAAAAYYYY better than this guy. Wait for the one . He is NOT the one, he is a no one. He just wants to tease you, break you down, and make you beg for him. Screw that!

You are MORE important than that! And who cares who is screwing him today or yesterday or anything? It doesn't matter. Its not even anyone else's business. So find a true guy friend, cuter, and sweeter, and real. Lose this lying sack of ball crap.

The end!

Answer 3

Ditch him. Maybe talk to him again and see what happens because it's hard to read subtext. But if he says, "Yeah, I'm hanging with some chick tonight" and you've been almost dating, not cool. That's what he should be saying to his buddies. It doesn't matter who that girl has had sex with and in what period of time. That could even be a total lie. Even if it's not, this is about him, not her. There's no way you should be putting up with this bullshit at 15. Admittedly, I have very little knowledge of your situation, but it sounds like he's trying to score with a younger girl because girls his age won't put up with him. I don't know how far back your relationship goes, so why don't you at least just be just friends for awhile. Please do this all in person, it's not as easy, but in the end in less confusing for everyone.

Answer 4

Yes, you do have a right to be annoyed. Tomorrow, I would wait and see if he messages you at all first. If he does, like he promised he would, tell him what bothered you about the other day, and why you feel hurt that you two haven't talked much recently. The best thing in my opinion is to just try to be as open with him as possible. If he has a problem with that, he shouldn't have pushed you to take things farther so soon, and it's his loss. Good luck :)

Answer 5

You have no right to be upset. You said you were “almost” dating - in other words, NOT dating. If and when you start dating, then you can say a little something about with whom he can spend his time, but not until then. In the meantime, stop complaining that he’s not texting you or spending time online if you know he’s working. When he messages you tomorrow, if he does, just write what you would say if you were hanging out together. Don’t make that big a deal over it.



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Answer 6

Maybe he was just joking. just have a talk with him when he talks to you tonight and tell him how you feel and how u dont like it when he does this. ask him if he still want to be with you or if he actually likes you or not. If he acts or talks to you like tat again then yoou should really break up with him. Also if your going to talk to him about this problem dont start with " i think we need to talk" or " i want to talk to you about something" he will try to advoid the talk so the best way is to talk about something else tat relates to what you want to talk about then u start telling him how you feel. good luck! i hope you and him would work things out and if you guys dont then its okay you can always find someone who can treat you right (: lets hope for the best.

Answer 7

What the heck, he's obviously MORE than an asshole, find a better man, someone who will find time for you and I mean really, since when was chilling with friends not spare time, he couldn't even send one text?

It's no good love, my friend had a similar relationship and she didn't want to keep getting hurt so she finished it.

Answer 8

Say goodbye and find someone new. You start a convo complaining to him about contacting you. If he was interested, he'd contacting you instead of the girl he's going to be with tonight. And, from the sounds of it, he's with her for one reason. Is that what you want? There's better guys out there.