Question:
Online Dating: So Hated in Many Ways?
butterflycovergirl
2009-03-28 21:11:24 UTC
I am so astonished that the people that have the most dysfunctional relationships are deathly afraid of online dating. It amazes me that people think it is safer to date a stranger that approaches u or you approach on the street. I realized that it is a numbers game. I had the best date of my life today with someone I have been talking on the internet for about 2 weeks now. It is almost creepy how much the two of us have in common. What is your view point? Why do people still have the perception that meeting random strangers via in person is somehow safer than screening potentials online? What are some of the pros and cons dating in person and or online?
Fourteen answers:
quince
2009-03-28 21:17:24 UTC
Online dating, you meet strangers.



In person, you meet strangers.



The problem is that these people you mention get FOOLISH with online dating! I'm not really sure why they trust someone so quickly, but they do.



There's nothing any more dangerous about online dating than meeting people in any other way, as long as you keep your wits and your senses about you. Don't trust someone you've ONLY met online any more than anyone else you haven't really "met" in real life. Insist on a real-life meeting in a public place for the first time and go from there.



These people are online demonizing online dating because they are approaching it foolishly (which apparently they do in real life, too)



EDIT - comments like bluebell's are disappointing and suggest the kind of predjudice that faces online dating. "ONE" experience put her off? How many conventional meetings go just the same way?



Once again, it comes down to how smart the people are about meeting. Sure, it's easier to lie online. That's why you have to go into the first meeting without expectations and without trust. Building it from there.
abbeycoolit
2009-03-29 17:50:30 UTC
It is a matter of fact and perception.There is no doubt that when you meet someone in person,you are able to base your conclusions on several factors that you can see or notice such as how they speak, dress, how they approached you, if there is attraction, and if you would like to see or speak to them again. On the internet, all of that is missing and you are just groping in the dark. While in both cases people can lie to you or engage in hyperbole, you are more likely to pick up on it when you are looking at that person eye-to-eye. Put another way, the odds are in your favor when it is in person than on the line. This does not mean or infer that you can not find good people on line(as I consider myself a very good person) but that it might be much easier to make that determination in person than on line. You were fortunate to have had the best date of your life with a man you met on line two weeks ago. However, I have a question for you:while I do not want to cast aspersions on this guy how well do you know him? Would you have had a better idea if you had met him in person? Think long and hard about that.
Just a girl
2009-03-28 21:16:47 UTC
I think it is a lot safer to meet someone online. Because you get to know them a lot better before you actually have to see them. If you meet someone on the street and you go on a date with them you don't know anything about them. Your biggest concern should be whether or not the person is lying to you or not. But if you meet him and he lied then he's a loser. But I don't think people are that against it. I think most people have realized by now that it's the best way to meet people. Good luck in finding someone that rocks! :)
leslie k
2009-03-28 21:17:24 UTC
I did the online dating... it is not what it once was and more people are being honest than before. Like anywhere there is good and bad. You learn to meet soon after taking and see how it ts face to face. I was on over 7 sites in 9 months... all was worth all the one time dates I had to find the man who loves me like he does. Yes I am now married to a man I met on line 16 months ago, we never lied from the dating site until now and never will... I am so happy with my new husband.
2009-03-28 21:15:54 UTC
The biggest con to dating a guy from online is that by the time he meets you in person, he's tested you out and knows exactly what you wanna hear and what to avoid. Therefore, he can act like the greatest guy ever until he gets what he wants from you. Then he's gone.



however, I'm totally not against online dating. I've made a lot of awesome female friends and girlfriends online.
bluebell
2009-03-28 21:34:16 UTC
I met in real life just once, a person I encountered first online, and it was enough to put me off the process forever. Suffice it to say that he only wanted inappropriate behaviour for a first meeting with a stranger. The online persona was interesting and chatty, of a suitable age, and apparently with many shared interests. The real life version wasn't.
2009-03-28 21:16:50 UTC
Because people my age 30 and up find it pathetic, but we are old and were not raised with the nternet, it is the new thing-youngsters should embrace it. I met my husband in a bar but these days, -I really don't think that is very smart.
2016-09-28 07:18:19 UTC
for my area, i could under no circumstances date somebody who I met on line, and that i gets into it why, yet i do no longer likely care if individuals decide for to accomplish that. I won't "hate on them" for it. i assume i glance at it from a arguable attitude. it sort of appears like technologies is everywhere in our lives, and that i'm commencing to think of its somewhat too lots. each and every time I cling out with my acquaintances, they examine their telephones almost each minute texting returned and fourth, zoning out the worldwide around them. there is song in each bus and save I walk into...just to music ideas. you are able to survive with out ever leaving your place. you are able to order your groceries on line and the different needs. you are able to lease a movie on netflix and have each little thing introduced with a press of a fingertip. And now we are doing this with looking love? I do basically no longer desire eharmony to locate somebody completable for me in accordance with what a working laptop or computing device says. i could lots extremely refer to a million human beings and locate one guy or woman who I also have a good reference to. you're able to have a verbal exchange with somebody, share laughs and hobbies...its no longer some thing craigslist will ever have the skill to do.
2014-05-20 06:57:24 UTC
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Milliy
2009-03-28 21:15:10 UTC
Me & my boyfriend met on a dating web site we been together now for 6 months and we plan on moving in together april 17th!
?
2009-03-28 21:14:55 UTC
Lets be real here ok. Online dating is a freakn joke. You have to be with someone to be on a date. Not typing or talking. This is just a really stupid thing to do. 2 people lying to each other about who they are and what they do.
joe goodz
2009-03-28 21:16:40 UTC
Lying online is a lot easier than lying in person.
Confused
2009-03-28 21:17:20 UTC
I'd much rather date girls I meet in person just so there aren't any surprises.
sunflower
2009-03-28 21:15:32 UTC
Only the online daters who've had real relationships know why it's so terrible.


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