When is it time to move on?

Question

Well around a month ago I broke up with my gf of 9 months and 6 of those months we were living together (family problems) I know it was a little fast. I still can't stop thinking about her and I still want her back. She moved out awhile ago and its lonely sleeping by myself and without her pushing me off the bed or giving me just enough room to lie sideways, lol. Anyways I mean there was a point in the relationship were we both thought we each were the one for each other and then just emotions died (I'm still tiring to figure out how).
But now there's this girl at work who has started checking me out and I'm not gonna lie I mean I do feel a little attraction. But there's a bigger attraction for my ex still for me. And this new girl at work does turn me on and she seems really sweet, but I think about going for her then I think am I ready yet. I don't want to be thinking with my dick with this girl or I just don't want her to be the rebound. Am I ready like I'm still friends with my ex and I don't want to hurt her, is she ready. Can I look at any girl the same way as I did the last. Idk.
Well my question is when is it time to move on or give up hope, or idk just even look at a girl again?

Answer 1

You have to try for her man, theres no point being gloomy over whats happened. It is alot harder for guys to get over the ex partners than girls. So do yourself a favour and go for the new girl, if your feeling a little attraction to her now, then once you get to know her and spend more time with her imagine what that little attraction will blossom into. The more you start spending time with this new girl the easier it will be to move on from your x gf. Its hard, i know especially when you thought they would be the 'one' for you. It really sucks but you got no choice but to move on and if it doesnt work out then by all means try to mend what you had with your ex gf, let her know how much you missed her and what a mistake it was to let your emotions flow away like that

Answer 2

Your ex is your ex so why wouldn't you go out with this other girl at work? If you are concerned with hurting your ex's feelings she should of been concerned with hurting yours! Was she concerned about hurting your feelings when she broke up with you? Obviously not, otherwise she would of tried to work it out! I would not use this new girl as a rebound, but take it slow with her, first become friends with her and then start a slow relationship with her and work on it! Your main focus though shouldn't be worrying about hurting your ex's feelings, but about what you want in life, and what your heart wants! If your heart feels crushed, bruised, and broken because of this break up I wouldn't get into anything serious for a while. I wish you the best of luck in your dilemma.....



PS: That guy on the last question who didn't want to support his kid was

an assho*e....Thanks for answer my question!!!!!

Answer 3

only you can tell when it is time. you'll feel something inside you telling you that you're ready to take on a new relationship. as of now, i dont think you're ready to start a new relationship with this girl at your work. attraction is normal. it can happen when you're ready and even when you're not. just don't rush things. take time to fully get over your ex. otherwise, you'll just end up looking in your new girlfriend the things your ex have.

good luck!

Answer 4

listen to me when i say this, you have to move on, because i gurantee you that your ex gf has or will very soon find someone else. so what if your afraid if your following your dick, most initial attraction is going to be led by your dick because you just going off of looks since you dont even know her yet, trust me, if the new girl is hot and worth it then ask her out before its too late, BEWARE THE FRIEND ZONE !

Answer 5

Just think of it this way (to help you move on) :

If it didn't work out, it wasn't meant to be.

The one for you is out there somewhere, looking for you too.

But your ex wasn't the one. And that's okay but you have to get over her by thinking this.

After your feelings for your new crush is bigger than your ex, then ask her out or something.

But if you still aren't over your ex, take things slow and don't flirt so obviously.

Don't jump in so fast, just wait a while.

I hoped that helps :)



And I meant ask your not crush out, not your ex!

Answer 6

Just go out and 'pork' anything that moves. Get some notches on your headboard! Put that smile back on your face... You may meet the girls of your dreams... You know, the one that can suck a golf ball through a hosepipe!

Answer 7

OK dude well I'm only 15 and I'm not really experienced that much but i think you should try for your ex one more time. just tell her your true feelings. say like " i love you and your the only one for me" or something like that. just show her that you mean it and she will always have you.



Thanks for answering my question bro.

Good Luck :D

Answer 8

u have only ONE choice and that is to follow ur heart,,,and if that means dumping someone then please b gentle. no-one likes to be in a one sided love. b real, b honest and b kind...who knows u may find that when she looks u in the eyes u melt and change ur mind ! or maybe ur dick will change it for u LOL