Does my teacher like me?

Question

I have this really flirty Theology teacher, he is only 23. It's his first year teaching, but I've, in a way, known him for a while because he graduated from the school I attend, and my mom was his teacher. Since December, my teacher's attitude has changed with me, it seems as though he is more comfortable with me and does some hasty things. I've created a list- I am not stalking him and I am not a creep- because I wanted to see the patterns in his behavior towards me. This is what I have collected so far:

My evidence thus far is:


1) I told him on Monday that I like his taste in bowties and then on Tuesday he ends up wearing one instead of a tie
2) He defended me when my friend insulted me in front of him. “Well, she actually read her test, Mrs. Candelaria. You are very much in the wrong.”
3)He overheard me in the hallway tell one of my friends “Git it shawty, git it” and he greets me by saying that.
4) We slipped notes under his door with our insider and he kept them rather than throwing them away.
5)My teacher also remembered my midterm grade an no one else’s out of his 126 students
6) He always smirks at me and my friends when he passes by us in the hallways too
7) Oh, one day he asked me for help and only me
8) He asked me if I would be returning to school on a teacher work day
9) He asked my friends and I what we were planning on wearing to homecoming, he wanted to match his tie with our dresses
10) He asked us to get him food, and we did, and you should’ve seen the excitement over the corndog we got him.
11) He constantly calls me out in class
12) He has insiders with my friends and I… Inside Jokes…
13) He is like bffs with my mother, who was his teacher, and now is his co-worker..
14) He came looking for me one day as if I was his best friend, then he realized what he was doing, walked away only to return later and try to play it cool
15) Always asks if I need anything without me asking, takes care of my needs; attentive
16) Long- term eye contact
17) High fived me. Twice.
18) Playful with my friends and I.. We played ding-dong-ditch with him and he did not get angry.
19) Makes special references, sometimes in regards to love, and looks at me or uses me as an example
20) Told me I smell nice
21) My two friends and I sent him emails and only replied to me and one other friend, and in my email he responded LOL, and the other one he rejected in an email.
22) Only showed my two friends and I his Mickey Mouse impression
23) One time I asked him for a paper that he was supposed to give to me and he lost it and I told him to forget about it and he said, "No, I will find this for you. I'm determined."
24) He saw that my bookmark was out of place in my textbook, grabbed my book, fixed it and said, "I'm gonna set you up.. I'm going to set you up!!"
25) I asked him if I look like my mom, and he said no and then he winked at me and walked away.
26) I have caught/ felt him looking at me for long periods of time and he looks away when I notice.
27) Just so happens that he delivers coffee to my math teacher in the same period I have math... Not on his other free period..
28) He always claims that he is not a man of favorites when everyone asks him what is his favorite class and who is his favorite student, so when my friends and I asked him, "Who are your favorite students?" he smiled and looked at me and I said "Us, right?" he nodded and then he said, "Hey, do not tell anyone that! Ok, now go to class!"
29) He calls my best friends (Andrea, Sabrina) and I "Team Omnipresent" and loves to call us that every chance he gets.
30) When I attended on of our School's softball games, he was there and every time I looked over my shoulder he was looking at me or in my direction and I have photo evidence.
31) He always encourages my friends and I to stay after school to do the Stations of the Cross with him for extra credit, even though he knows we all 3 have A+'s...

I'm slowly accumulating these encounters. What do they seem to mean? Do you think my teacher likes me, in a platonic way or what? What numbers in this list stand out to you the most?

**** Please don't tell me that a relationship with my teacher would be inappropriate. I am well aware, and I'm not trying for one in the first place, I just simply want to clarify what this behavior might mean. Thank you

Answer 1

He i just being nice.. he can get fired and will never be able to teach again, think about it he worked hard all his life probably to be where he is at, you think he will risk it to get some with one of his students for one night? nope. Its also illegal so no trust me, it might look like it but NOO dont even provoke him hes just a friend

Answer 2

Most of it sounds normal. I think a few of the things you listed do sound weird, like commenting on how you smell, and constantly looking at you, IF that's really true...no offense but I notice that a lot of girls who like their teachers and want them to like them back are convinced that their teacher stares at them all the time and it sounds like they are imagining it. But, you actually don't seem to really like him that way so maybe you aren't just imagining it. Well, it sounds like he has never touched you inappropriately or asked you to meet up with him outside of school- those obviously would be major red flags, and if he ever does do that, you need to tell the principal. But for now, I think you should just be cautious. You also didn't mention how old you are...I assume you are a high school student, but that means you could potentially be anywhere from 13 or 14 to 18 or 19. If you are only a freshman, that would be really creepy and wrong if he was attracted to you. But if you are an 18 year old senior, you are a legal adult, so it wouldn't make him a pedophile and it would be more normal for him to like you...but obviously he still needs to be professional while he's your teacher. If he really liked you and you two had a connection you would both need to wait until after you've graduated to take your relationship any further than friends/student-teacher.

Answer 3

I think it sound pretty normal, but some circumstances like # 3, 8, 9, 18, 20, & 25 are the only one that are standing out to me. Continue recording your experiences, if anything gets too personal do not hesitate to contact an administrator.

Answer 4

Some of the things he is doing isn't very good and should really be reported but other things are normal... He might like you but it's more likely he is just... Trying to be friendly because he likes you as a mate and taking a bit over board

Answer 5

Honestly, it sounds as if you are making much more than what he is implying. He is a teacher; it is his job to see to the needs of his students. I would encourage you to stop slipping notes under the door. He may be obligated to show them to a superior.

Answer 6

Men are attracted to women. Boom. There's your answer.