Sending a somewhat naughty pic...need some more input please...?

Question

My closest guy friend whom i've been good friends with for over 4 yrs has been asking me for a particular naughty pic of me in my bra/panties. Couple months ago he found out I've had feelings for him for a long time, and couple weeks ago he admitted he had started liking me a while back as well. And yes, this sounds like a fairy tale and lovely...except he has a girlfriend whom he started dating close to a year ago. Its a really odd situation...cause we both know we like each other and did even before he started dating her, but since he was going to move away to another state for over a year we didn't pursue anything. And his current gf lives in the state he's in now. Him and I talk a lot still but are strictly platonic. I was an idiot though, and made a deal with him that if the day comes that he admits to me a particular thing, I'd send the pic. And well...he admit it by saying he has feelings for me...so now i feel like a jerk for not sending the pic of me but at the same time I feel its wrong to send it when he has a gf and also, he doesn't deserve it in a sense for picking her over me..HELP.

Answer 1

no dont send it..wait til he's with you or else its like hes using you

Answer 2

No! No, no, no, no.



Hun, don't do this. It will make me sad.



First off, he has a girlfriend. And, well, that automatically means, you should back off. While he is still with her, he's hers. What do you think would happen if she found it? I don't think that be too good.



Second of all, all of this sounds a bit skeptical to me. No offense. You may want to make sure of things. I don't think he's being totally honest with you, I think he may just want a naughty picture from you and decided he should lie and say he's had feelings for you. Like I said, no offense, and I'm not saying this is true, I am simply stating that this may be the case, and that would basically . . . suck.



Third of all, if you are a minor, or he is, then it's against the law to send really naughty pictures. But from what I can see, I can't really tell if you're a minor, I don't think you are . . . but if you are, remember that, because if you're a minor and he gets caught with that picture, I know that you will be registered as a sex offender, and he probably will, too. Same, if he's a minor and you're an adult, same deal.



So, what I think you should do, is . . . before you do anything rational, see if he will dump his girlfriend for you. If he's really had these feelings for such a long time and still feels for you in that way, then he will! And if this happens--and neither of you are minors--uh, sure, send as many naughty pictures as you want! (:.



If he doesn't dump her, then, well, ya know that he's a liar, and if he doesn't dump her, you'll also be glad you didn't fall for his trap and let him deem you his hoe or *****.



Good luck with this, sweetie. I hope it turns out great.



(:.

Answer 3

This guy is a rotten cheat, he may not have cheated on his girlfriend already, but he will. Don't be daft and send him a picture of yourself unless you want it publically shown amongst people you both know. They in turn are going to say your a ' slapper'. Bra and panties are one thing, yet the briefest of bikini's on a beach would not have the same effect if others saw that.



If your a decent girl, don't go off and get a picture of you in a bikini - think about this :-



Say you were really in love with a guy, how the hell would you feel if you found some other girls picture half naked on his mobile phone ? Come on be fair - girls should stick together and be true genuine sisters to each other. Its time you younger ones gave a bit more loyalty to each others. This guy is immature and he is a looser - do you want to be one too ?



Last but not least, do you honestly believe he is not a liar, look how he conveniently said he had feelings for you once you gave him a little bit of hope that you might send him a picture if he declared his love for you. He don't love you, he just wants to show your picture around so he sounds like a man - which he is not, he has the mind and actions of a very immature boy. Let this other girls heart get broken instead of yours, he is going to cheat on her sooner or later, he is too up his own ****.

Answer 4

how do you know he did'nt admit to his feelings just because you tempted him with a naughty pic? that's something to think about...and no, if he liked you and had feelings for you then he should not have started anything with anyone else. The fact that he is doing this behind her back says something about his moral character...always remember something in the back of your mind...no matter how long or how many years you know someone..you will never truly know someone....the neighbors of serial killers always say " he was a really nice guy!"



But personally it's ok to be a little naughty without going too far...just go by these two rules...never send a naughty pic that shows your face...neck down only!!! And never ever send a pic that you wouldn't someonelse to see....cause once it's out there it's out there!!!



Additional note: I have sprint and just recently looked into my sprint.com account and found out....THAT EVERY SINGLE NAUGHTY PIC I EVER SENT IS RIGHT THERE ONLINE FOR ANYONE TO SEE WHO CAN ACCESS MY ACCOUNT...so when i was setting up my account my mom ( i'm 27 but still) was standing over my shoulder learning how to do this so watching me...and when i clicked on pic mail account...BAMM!!!! there i was...how embarrassing! So if your account goes under your mom's account like most teenagers....she can see what you do....

Answer 5

Don't send it! This isn't something that sounds like a fairy tale come true. It actually happens quite frequently and rarely ends well. If he cares enough about you he will end it with his girlfriend and start a relationship with you. Distance isn't that big of a deal. Also, you should really put yourself in the girlfriends shoes. I'm sure that she would be so hurt if you sent the picture and she's done nothing to deserve the heartbreak. You shouldn't settle for second best and as the saying goes "he can't have his cake and eat it too".

Answer 6

Don't do it. A girl I know was in a relationship with a guy and sent him some pics. Everything was fine until they broke up. He sent them to everyone anonymously and outside of their job or school so there were no repercussions for him but he even sent them to her boss and people she went to church with. They even got forwarded into the schools where her daughter is a student. Once it is digital it never dies. There are copies of her all over the United States. Someone even said they were on YouTube. Not sure if that is true, but very plausible.

Never send pics to anyone via the computer or phone. If they care enough about you and are committed to you or married they will see the goods in person. No need for pics. lol

Answer 7

i belive u shouldnt send him a pic just because he has a girlfriend, other than that u couldve sent it. You dont want his gf digging thru his fone or emails or w.e and finding a picture liek that because its obvious shes going to call u names and sen u emails and harass you to get away from him. I understand that shes in a different state but it saves a whoel lot more drama. Maybe you should wait until he moves where u guys are closer and then he can hang around you more b4 u do something stupid. By then if he doesnt have the courage to break up with his recent gf then maybe he wants to stay with her and not you. Personally i wouldnt send it, even though u have feelings and vice versa, if those feelings are strong theyll last forever.

Answer 8

u kno there was a senerio like this on a show called tyra banks show, where kids are "sexting" - which it naughty texting or sending Inappropriate pictures through phone



don't send him the picck, this coulds ruin your reputation, u might trust the guy, but what if he also sends the pic to his firends, then they send it to other pplz, and then eventualli your whole school sees you, not smart, don't trust anyone!!!!!!!!!!



but further more, this guy as a gf, that already shows he is a douch bag!, if he really cares about you, he would stay away from you, he is using you for pleasure, ands lets jsut put it out there, u sending the pic, it very close to him cheating..what an A>S>S

Answer 9

Probably should not send the pic. Yes you made a "deal" with him, but your deal could end up hurting someone else. I say you call the deal off, and get over this guy who has a g/f.

Answer 10

I'm not really a fan of sending pictures like those. They will resurface and bite you in the a s s at the most inopportune moment...like when you're running for public office or about to walk down the aisle with someone else, so don't do it.

Answer 11

I don't like the idea of sending anybody naughty pics. You never know where they might end up, especially if someday you guys have a fight and separate, he could try to get revenge by posting your pics somewhere.

Answer 12

He doesn't deserve anything from you. So what, you don't wanna send him a naugghty picture? If he becomes upset, that tells you something right there. Don't be like most girls and do it. Don't let that ruin a potentially friendly relationship.

Answer 13

gosh how soft you are!...hes living in another state giving his love to another girl and your pining for him while hes playing games with you behind his girlfriends back! not a genuine catch for anybody, you need a loyal loving boyfriend theres two things thats struck him off...maybe hes leading you on to get a pic, glad you didnt send one! you deserve BETTER!

Answer 14

I wouldn't give even someone I thought I would be with forever a picture like that. It can come back and bite you in the ****.

Answer 15

Depending on your age and location, you may also want to check this out before sending anything



http://www.theregister.co.uk/2008/10/08/teen_charged_for_cell_phone_pics/

Answer 16

Pics or it didn't happen.