He Cares For Me((so he says)) and tells me he is going to call...but doesnt?

Question

if you spill your feelings to a guy and he tells you that he will call you and talk about it...but never does...what does that say...especially the day after when you ask him does he care about you and he says he does ((but not directly i had to be like "do u?" and he replies "wat u think" i say "no" and he replies , thats a negative))
so he tells you he is goin to call you after that..and he doesnt again. so you tell him "im gone. finished. ur not gonna change. i have waited and waited for u , delete my # out ur phone" ((we have been on n off since march)). i thought that would give him a hint to call me and talk about why i was feelin that way...but he didnt...so i called him and he hung up on me after i said "this is K____"
time for me to give up huh...but how.. plus the fact that the last time this happened...i begin to talk to someone else..and he wanted to fight the boy cuz he was with me.....help?

Answer 1

He doesn't he probably just doesnt want to hurt your feelings.....

and just because he wanted to beat someone up doesnt man nothing he probably doesnt want another guy treading on his toes...



This is a case of he doesnt want you but he doesnt want no one else to have you!!!



move on!!!!

Answer 2

I know it is wrong. But both boys and men, often just say what they think you want to hear. They say what is convenient or will keep you from getting mad at the moment.

The promise or saying it is the easy part; any one can say or promise anything; it is the follow through and doing it that matters.

This guy either doesn't care or he just isn't in touch enough with his own emotions or anyone Else's that he just can't be there the way you want and need him to be.

I wouldn't tell any other guy about all the drama. There is no point in it and most guys don't want to listen to you grip about what the ex did any way.

Just remember all the warning signs that this wasn't the right guy for you and don't let it happen to you again.

Answer 3

OK, you pour your heart out to this boy; and he shows categorically that he doesn't give a ****. And when you tried to move on the last time, he got possessive (not because he really wants you - it's a control thing) and tries to pick a fight with this boy. Why are you still standing there? walk away...the only person in his life right now isn't you - it's himself. add to that that it's been on and off since march - and there you go - it was going to end at some point anyway.

Answer 4

You need to just break off contact with this guy. He will tell you what he knows you want to hear because he likes to have that kind of control over you. It has to do with control rather than the way he feels about you.

Answer 5

I feel that you should find something that will grab your attention and make you feel better. Show up smiling one day and he's going to want a piece of the good action.... don't let him in. He's gotta be there from the getty-up to whats great with this Darling Damzel.

Answer 6

Cut him off completely. He wants his cake and eat it too. He wants to be able to not call you on a regular but to be there when he wants you to. He does not want a relationship with you because that would have happened already. He wants to see who ever he wants but does not want to loose you in the process. He has no right to want to fight who ever you choose to talk to and you need to let him know that. Its done, dont let him walk over. Confidence is sexy and he will see that once you move on once and for all. :)

Answer 7

Sounds like he's playing games with you. If he really cared he would be more considerate of your feelings, and you wouldn't have to force him to call and talk to you. Stop calling him, end any contact and don't allow him to continue to creep in and out of your life.

Answer 8

I'm with Cecilia on this one.

He does not like you as you like him. A little time away from him might do you a world of good and give you some perspective.

Answer 9

Let him go, find some self esteem ot at least self respect and love yourself before you start dealing with anyone else. because this will definitely happen again. I wish I could get all of you young girls into one room and teach ya'll about loving yourselves.



I have cut and pastet this on to so many pages and I am adding it to yours to because your need it.



When you are done go get Iyanla Vanzants book Don't Give It Away!: A Workbook of Self-Awareness and Self-Affirmations for Young Women





You are it! There is nothing in this world more important, more precious, more perfect than you. You are all that you will ever need. You have within you the ability to create all that you desire to be, to have, and to experience. You are the power! You have the power! You are powerful! (GV)



Your parents, your friends, lovers, and loved ones may not be with you forever, but God is always there with you, for you. Others may not be able to answer your questions, soothe your pain, put a smile on your face, or bring peace to your heart, but God can and will. (AW)



Since you will always be with you, because you are so very important to you, you must know how to take care of yourself, how to honor yourself, and how to affirm yourself. My prayer for you is that you know how brilliant and special you are. My prayer is that you realize the world is waiting for you to bring forth all that you are, in the way only you can. (MBD)



Never feel that you have to explain who you are, or defend who you are, or act in ways that please other people if you must dishonor your Self to do so. Just be who you are. You lack nothing. You connect the heavens to the earth in a most sacred way. Your body is the temple. Your heart is the key. Always celebrate the joy that lies within the temple of your heart. (EA)



There will be days, sometimes months or years, when life does not make sense to you. There may be times when you feel terribly afraid, awfully confused, or downright disgusted with yourself and/or your life. This is perfectly normal! All of us who are now "big girls" have been there and done that! (IV) There will also be times when youfeel misunderstood and alone. Never dwell on these things. Take time to listen to your heart, spend time with your Self. Avoid at all costs the temptation to place yourself in unhealthy, unproductive, and dishonorable situations just to avoid being alone with the depth of what you feel. (YS) The key is to know that no matter what else is going on in your life, you come first. You know what you need. If you have a good relationship with yourself, you will have all that you need to rise to any and every occasion. (IV)



As the days unfold on your life's journey, people, situations, and obstacles may stand in your way. Let your faith be your landmark. At each corner, in every alley, on every path of life, there will be a lamplight, a house light, or a headlight to illuminate your path. Don't try to figure out where the light is leading you, just follow the light! (DS)



No matter what the world or people tell you about yourself, always remember that you are a delicate yet hardy flower. Your true essence will grow, develop, and unfold as the bright blue petals open on a sun-drenched morning glory. Always know that the best is yet to come and that your satisfaction is guaranteed. (JH)



You are God's special gift to the world. You are a bright and shining star. When you look into your eyes in the mirror each morning, tell yourself, "I am hope! I am joy! I am free! I am happy! I am love! More important, I am me!" (LG)



You have been loved from the very beginning of your existence. That love is within you. Allow the divine presence of the love within you to shape you, mold you, and direct your life. Listen to your inner voice. Think, act, and speak the truth of who you are, for that truth is always in alignment with the love that is imbedded in your soul. This is the truth that will guide you to abundant fulfillment.



Have fun with life. Keep your life simple. Remember that the little girl in you loves to play. Play, laugh, and always have at least one good friend you can take to lunch. (VB) Work for the joy of it, not just for the money. Always love for the sake of it, not fearing the pain. Give your best! Do your best! Be your best! And, if there is ever a day or time when you cannot figure out what to do, throw your hands in the air and dance! God's angels are your partners. (IV)

Answer 10

obviously he likes you but dont want to show it. ill bet if you start ignoring him he will change his tune quick.

Answer 11

forget him...

if he wants u he will comeback...

if not whatever at this point i would think its not worth it.