I think my NEW boyfriend of 6 weeks has a porn addiction?

Question

My boyfriend is CONSTANLY viewing porn on MY computer.

We've only been seeing each other for 6 weeks. I have 2 computers. One is my laptop (I use for business) and the other is for storing graphics (I use for storage space/graphical design/photographs).

My BF was using my laptop all the time to check fantasy football. It was getting hard for me to use my laptop so I decided to let him use my other pc. (Of note, my BF doesn't live with me but he stays over all the time.)

First let me say that I don't mind he looks at porn. What bothers me is that whenever I come downstairs (where my 2 pcs are located), he quickly closes it out but he knows that I know he's viewing it. The bigger issue is that he sometimes spends up to 12 hours at a time doing it! Our sex life is fantastic and he always wants more.

Another BIG issue is that all the porn sites he's viewed are teenage and young girls. This bothers me the most. Lastly, we've only been seeing each other for 6 weeks. What type of guy would come over to his GF's house to view porn when our relationship is so new and on a computer that isn't his???

Another thing to note is that he's put a bunch of anti-spyware and cleaners on it so he can thouroughly delete his history. This is telling me that he's hiding something. (The only reason I knew he did this was because I needed to upload photographs from my camera to the pc.) I also have a ton of viruses on there now.

Again, he knows that I know he looks at porn and I usually don't care but now I'm starting to worry because of the ages of the girls and that he's gone to GREAT lengths to get rid of the evidence after he's done.

Does anyone know of a software program to monitor is browsing habits without him knowing? And if so, will any of is programs (anti-spyware and cleaners) turn it off?

We're both 41 and I don't want to be involved with a possible lunatic.

Answer 1

theres nothing wrong with looking at porn, men are visually stimulated species, however 12 hours at a time is more than a little obsessive, i can understand why you worry... although you make it clear you dont object to porn he shouldnt be spending the whole time hes at your place viewing it.. thats really disrespectfull to you and what about YOUR time together, when does that happen.

im a bit concerened about the teenage thing, if i were you id discuss this with him in a non confrontational way, ie ask him about his fantasies, school girls etc, and then see what you make of it, also get rid of the soft ware that deletes or erases his history, because if theres anything illegal on there, as its your pc you will be held responsible.

i really hope its all above board but if its not at least youll know sooner rather than later, i really hope you sort it out and you find something that eases your mind, but if not im sure you'll find the strength to cope with this... all the best

Answer 2

Yeah so, us guys love porn, but we typically do not put it on our girlfriends computers. Esp new gfs. Ever. We keep it stashed away for no one to ever see ever.



Thats... strange. Porn is typically something we do when you ARENT around. Also, ALL porn if of teenage-looking girls. Seriously, no one wants to pay for porn of old ppl. However, if the material actually IS of teenage \ younger than 18 girls, THIS CONSTITUTES A SERIOUS, SERIOUS PROBLEM



--Make sure your sex life really is as fantastic as you think it is.



--For sheer sexual gratification, solo is the way to go. Parteners are all about the REST of the fun things about sex, not just the gratification part. Why is he jerking it downstairs in your house?



Strange behavior.



BUT





If you are more apt to spy on your boyfriend than talk to him, however, it is you who needs to reevaluate things. At the age of 41, the fact that you have still not learned to communicate honestly with a partner is somewhat disconcerting, and is probably a reason you have a new boyfriend at this age. Sorry.



Talk to people. it seriously helps.



Ask him seriously why he needs the pr0n, right, it could be that he has trouble sleeping without freshly staining a tissue, etc. If its a problem, an ACTUAL addiction, then its an issue you'll need to work out together.

Answer 3

First off the spy ware protects you from phising web sites. As for the viruses, most viruses enter through porn sites. I would take my pc to the FBI on the pretext that you were getting the viruses fixed and have them check it for child porn. Second dump this loser and I mean fast. You obviously deserve a lot better. Good Luck

Answer 4

WOAH ok that is scary but yes theres programs just type in screen recording in google and it will give you alot of options to download from and the programs downloads whats going on the screen and yu can view it later....

Answer 5

Maybe he wants you to enjoy the sex more.. thats why he watches when ur around.. or thats the only way he gets turned on

Answer 6

ask him about it. Ask why he would go to such great lengths to stop you finding out what he looks at.

Or if you're uncomfortable with him doing it on your computor, tell him to get his own for his porn habits.

Answer 7

I think he is doing it, because, you are depriving him of such things.

Why can't you help him in getting everything personally.

Then he may stop viewing that dash dash dash dash.

Answer 8

Ok, why are you with this creep again? Dump him!



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Answer 9

if your that worried then leave him



there nothing wrong



don't give him your pc

Answer 10

he sounds like a plonker!!!

dump him =}

why would he want to look at porn in YOUR house when he has you there!!!!?

Answer 11

too long.