Question:
I think I like a new girl more than my GF!?
anonymous
2008-03-09 13:32:36 UTC
I've been w/ the same girl for almost two years, which is forever in high school. I love her, and would never ever hurt her, I've done so much for her, but this new girl did a number on me.
I was introduced to her through a mutual friend, and we all went snowboarding together, so we were around each other in the same house for three days straight.
That night, when I saw her, I was stunned. It wasn't even a "omfg you so hot i wanna bang you" she is the most beautiful girl I've ever seen. Like every feature I like on a girl, she has. So we talked, while Daniel and his girlfriend were smoking on the back deck, and the other friend had already passed out. she is really amazing, and I could tell I was falling for her.
27 answers:
Jess
2008-03-09 13:37:15 UTC
I hate guys like you!



What do you want us to say? We cannot validate your decision to leave your current girlfriend.

Reading what you wrote, I'm sure you'll end up with the 'perfect-for-me' girl, so what should we tell you? Nothing will change your mind!



And don't gimme that crap about falling for her in 3 days, when you've been with your girl for 2 years!



You should tell your girlfriend I feel for her!
Belle
2008-03-09 13:52:42 UTC
You have to follow your heart. Are you planning on staying with your girlfriend forever just because you don't want to hurt her? What if you dump your GF and pick up with this new girl and find out she's not all that? These are questions you're probably asking yourself. My advice, though, is to jump in with both feet or you'll never know what will happen. You won't be able to avoid hurting your GF. That's a given. Two years in high school may seem like a long long time, but when you get older and get married you'll see that it really wasn't that long. You don't want to stay with someone out of pity. Your GF wouldn't want that either.



You have no ties when you're not married. So you can make choices. My gut instinct tells me that your GF is no longer the only one in your heart, and there is only room for one. Take the plunge. Good luck!
anonymous
2008-03-09 13:42:45 UTC
Wow... It's normal for things like that to happen, I think you are not alone. That happens to everyone once in a while.... Do you even remember how you and your g/f first met and why you guys hooked up???? Maybe that girl reminded you of that. Some people do trigger memories like that.



Being with your g/f for two years, maybe mentally you were looking for something new but didn't even know it. But if it only happen once don't worry, if it happens more then once then talk to an adult that you can trust.



That is the best advice I can give you... I'm always bad at advices though.
JUrsaMaj
2008-03-09 13:50:29 UTC
Ouch, that's a tough one.



You didn't say much about your current GF, and that kind of says a lot. Are you only still with her because you don't want to hurt her? Because you're afraid to give up what you have and risk being alone? How does she really feel about you?



Is this new girl actually interested in you? Or was she looking for a fun night? (Yes, girls do that too) Are you willing to give up what you have for what you think she's offering? And is she going to want to be with you if you dump another girl for her? You know she shares snowboarding with you, but what else? Do you and GF share much?



You're going to have to really think about your current relationship and the possibilities of a new one. Nobody can do that for you. And you'll have to be brutally honest with yourself. After you've figured that out, be honest with the girls.



Either way you decide, somebody could get hurt. But remember: you're a teenager. This is a time of experimenting and finding out who you are and who those girls are. Odds are pretty low that you'll end up married to either one, but that's life.
anonymous
2008-03-09 13:41:30 UTC
this happens all the time to alot of people. but in the end its just greed. you can fall in love with more then one woman but you already dedicated yourself to someone. what if you do break up with the girl your with and it doesnt work with the new girl? then your single and girls look at you loo a cheater. or what if you get with this new girl and your struggling becasue you still have feelings for your old girlfriend? or mabey youll fall in love with ANOTHER girl. in the long run your best bet is to stay loyal to your girlfriend and stop leting yourself get in situations like when you cuddled with that girl. tell her that you like her alot but your a loyal man to your girlfriend. lets say you do break up with your irl in the future...the new girl will already respect you alot more for the decision you made earlier. think about it this way...how would you feel if your girl found some new guy and just left you for him? it will mae you feel your not good enough. take all these things into consideration. sometimes you can love a friend and thats not a problem. just leave it as being friends.
viperguy10
2008-03-09 13:43:33 UTC
Damn, you're in a really though position. One hand you already have a GF that loves you and you love and care for her. On the other hand, you have a hot girl that likes you and she's hot. I think what you should do is to make a list of all the things you love about your GF and all the things you like about the other girl. I would suggest that you stay with your GF because you already know her well enough and don't cheat on her because she's going to kill you!!!!!Hope this helps!!!
Emiii
2008-03-09 13:38:59 UTC
i know you are sure this isnt lust, but how do you know how long you will feel this way about the "new girl". im not saying dont make a go of it, but seriously think about your feelings for your gf before you rush into a relationship with this girl. you say you love your gf, so could you really do without her? perhaps you need to take a break from your gf and get your head around this, as it is a pretty big prob. good luck - both of them sound amazing. however dont fall into the trap of cheating on your gf - neither girl will thankyou for it.
ominousbleak
2008-03-09 13:42:52 UTC
You should think about who you really want.

Give it some time before you make your decision because if you decide you soon you may regret it.

It sounds like you really care about your girlfriend, so do anything you can to avoid hurting her. If you start to have a crush on another girl, that is a sign that your relationship is beginning to dull. Maybe you and your girlfriend could just be really good friends because it sounds like this new girl is right for you. Absolutely do not make your choice based on who is hotter.
easter bunny!
2008-03-09 13:40:54 UTC
Ok, a boy has helped my with my own question like this before.

He told me that automatically, our mind & body is attracted to a new person, because that someone is fresh,a nd you are dying to find out about them. You may even have desires to leave the one you love now for them. But you can't do this. You may think, so hard, that deep down it isnt not just lust-but I believe it is. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, leave the one you love for the one you like, for the one you like will leave you for the one they love. If you love your girlfriend now, stay with her. If something should happen and you and your girlfriend just dont work out anymore, then you can go for the new girl. However, dont hurt your current girlfriend just because someone new and fresh has caught your eye. Try doing something fun and exciting now with your GF to keep the romance alive.
drummerx94
2008-03-09 13:39:02 UTC
Tough situation. The term 'love' is a common term and many people see it differently. Some people say that in order to love someone, you cannot have a feeling of anything more than physical attraction to anyone else. I would say to continue spending time with this new girl to get to know her more before you make any drastic changes. Become friends first, then if you are positive that you have more feeling for her than your current girlfriend, take action.
Lisa
2008-03-09 13:40:45 UTC
If you're asking, you know. You need to seriously think if you want in this relationship or not. If you don't, then let her go and don't hurt her more than you have to. Also, could it have been just the proximity. And the novelty of a new person. If i was your girl I'd be major hurt you cuddled with another girl.
anonymous
2008-03-09 13:39:07 UTC
Well If you heart is telling you that you like this other girl more than your girlfriend there must be a reason for it. Nobody can really tell you what to do in this kind of situation, only you, you need to look deep deep down in your heart and decied what you want to do. It's a tuff decision to make bt you have to face the facts.
2008-03-09 13:38:50 UTC
I think you should get to know this girl better then really think about who youd rather be with. You should think a lot before you act because you might just regret something. People need to be happy when they are relationships or to jump into a relationship, but they need to make the choice of what they rightfully think for them and their bf/gf. Hopefully you'll make the good decision when it comes to you.

good luck!
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anonymous
2008-03-09 13:37:35 UTC
You can't help it if you fall for someone else dude. Maybe its time to move on to someone else. It might not be easy but you have to decide who you're going to take. Although you might want to know the new girl a little better before doing anything.
Lola H
2008-03-09 13:41:17 UTC
right now, my eyes are watering up!

u should never had cheated on her! youare a user!

and that girl you snuggled with is a girl that has nnoooo respect! what you did was a sin! if you hang out with your girlfriend any longer you will be using her even more! that is just so horrible! why did you alllow her in your bed! she is just trying to get you as her bf! omg!ahhhh! uyou are using her!
Erica Walk-It-Out
2008-03-09 13:36:27 UTC
it's high school lust. either tell your girlfriend you want some space away from her and just talk. and then date the girl. if that doesn't work out, dump the girl and go back with your current girlfriend. but don't make it look like your girlfriend is your backup.
Somebody XD
2008-03-09 13:40:46 UTC
well its been 2 years so you should tell how you feel to your girlfriend. If you like the other girl you should try asking her out. Tell your girlfriend your true feeling!
Linda D
2008-03-09 13:37:30 UTC
You are going to like a lot of girls. Be honest with yourself and your girlfriend. Break up or stop looking around.
Daydreamer
2008-03-09 13:39:30 UTC
If you believe you can stay in a longer and more stable and loyal relationship with your next gf, go for it. You are young, don't know what do you really need now
anonymous
2008-03-09 13:47:05 UTC
don't cheat we all know it is wrong. just try and i know u aren't married... my mom says don't get stuck with the same person in your life, try to have fun with your friends see who fits you. by what i read the other girl wants u and u want her. email me if you want more help
anonymous
2008-03-09 13:37:58 UTC
well if you "love" your girl friend you would not even look at this new girl.I mean if you have the nerve to look at this new girl its your willing to cheat or you just dont love your girlfriend.
MissG
2008-03-09 13:39:42 UTC
this is very different to answer but i think you should tell the girl to not be close to you because you aready have a girlfriend please dont cheat on your girlfriend. you cant already fall in love with that girl just because one night
aQuA~liTchiS
2008-03-09 13:40:02 UTC
well it seems that u are still immature+ very young aand it's clear that uv already been cheating on ur GF. im sure u got the answer already.
Jason M
2008-03-09 13:36:04 UTC
Too long to read



My advise: Convert to Mormonism?
Mike
2008-03-09 13:37:09 UTC
all i can say is, think with ur heart and not with ur dick, we have all been there pal
anonymous
2008-03-09 13:36:24 UTC
dump a rump.


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