How do I break up with my girlfriend? She's done nothing wrong to me but let me explain?

Question

I'm 20 years old and so is my gf. I met her a month ago when I ran into an old friend at Subway and she happened to be with her. The girl that is currently my gf seemed interested in me so I told her that we should hangout sometime. She said yes so I got her number and I called her the next day and i took her bowling. From there we just kept spending time with each other and in a week i asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. she's great... she loves me, i know she'll never cheat on me, and she's going to school to be a vet.

but here's why I want to break up with her and I know im gona get a lot of **** from you people ... so i apologize in advance. she's definately not a bad looking girl and my friends even tell me she's very pretty but she's not MY type. basically.. i am not comfortable with the way she looks and it's killing me knowing how stupid and shallow i am. but im NOT satisfied with her. now... what the **** am i supposed to tell this poor girl?

Answer 1

Listen--if you don't want to be dating this girl, just don't date her. It is totally legit to say "I don't want to be your boyfriend anymore," and let it go at that. You should be with someone you're attracted to, and she should be with someone who's attracted to her, so the sooner you end this the better for both of you. If she's a great girl and you're not into her looks, that's what friends are for, there's no rule that you have to date a girl just because you like her.

Answer 2

Wait a second you seem to have enough ego for half the male population in the world. What do you mean she "loved" you hell you just met so how is she supposed to be so in love with you, are you nuts?



What do you mean she is not your type? Is she too short,too tall, too fat too skinny,into the wrong religion, or she is the wrong race, or from Mars or what? How do you Mr. Ego know she will never cheat on you after only one month? Is she retarded or have BO or no teeth or hair all over her face or the most boring person on the planet? You saw enough in her to become her boyfriend so you think no one else will see what you did? What is she suppose to be a easy mark or disposable? Why do you feel so bad anyway since your royal phoniness took pity on this poor lowly creature and made her your girl for a month!



Or is it that once you got into her under-ware and scored you are now ready to hunt fresh game? Guys like you make me sick. You think you are God's gift to women and in reality you are nothing but loose rs and users! I'll bet I don't get any points for this and you can bet I sure as hell don't care, leave that nice girl alone!

Answer 3

You did no longer do something incorrect. From the 1st time she cheated on you, she became looking over her shoulder to be certain who else could seize her fancy. You in no way had her undivided interest - she had a wandering eye. i'm helpful she felt undesirable approximately hurting you and that i'm helpful she enjoyed you lots or perhaps enjoyed you, yet i'm additionally helpful she felt slightly awkward in a relationship. i think of what could have happened is that the reason she mentioned definite and stayed with you nevertheless became as a results of fact she felt as though she owed it to you. That because you positioned up together with her dishonest, the least she ought to do could be to stay with you and make you happy. of course, that variety of sacrifice does not stay continuously and that's the reason the two one among you broke up. She got here to her senses and found out that she could no longer save treating the relationship like some deal or good deal.

Answer 4

Uhh, looks should be the first thing any guy notices, was she just having a really good day when you first met or what?



Either way, dont tell her what youre thinking she will be crushed, you need to say that you want to be her friend or dont feel chemistry or some crap (which is sort of true), you definitely dont want to tell a girl the way she looks makes you not want to spend time with her, unless you are straight trying to get rid of a stalker, its very damaging to a girls self esteem.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong or shallow about wanting a prettier girl, provided you can get a prettier girl. All of us, men, women, boys, and girls, are attracted to good looking people.



Don't worry about the girl. She is a grown up; she can take it. However, be nice about it. She is just not your type, no explaination, that is all she needs to know. You can send her a card and tell it is not going to work out and don't explain. If she calls you. Just tell her it is not going to work, that she is perfect for lots of guys, but you just don't feel it and hang up.

Answer 6

Well of course you're not going to tell her you want to call it quits because of the way she looks..

Sit her down..and tell her you've been doing some thinking and you think you guys rushed into a relationship too fast..and you don't like second guessing your relationship with her..

Tell her you need a little more time to yourself to make sure a relationship with her is what you truly want..

She won't feel like you don't want anything to do with her..at least...she can still have a little hope..

(even you don't intend on getting back with her anyway)..and she won't be as broken-hearted.

And for future reference think about all the aspects of a relationship (one of them being attraction)..before you jump into another one.

Answer 7

Well why did you ask her out in the first place if you didn't find her attractive? she may be attractive in other peoples eyes but not urs (obviously). Just be honest to her she deserves to know the truth and what you are thinking. Don't go around it, you'll just make it more difficult on yourself.

Answer 8

dont worry

u get no crap from me , ive been in your position before ..not nice

anyways , tell her sorry its not working ,shell probably be all what what whats not working and just say how it dosnt feel right.



BUT WATEVER YOU DO DONT SAY ITS BECAUSE OF THE WAY SHE LOOKS!!!



lol or u can expect a slap or a punch ...in the balls.

good luck chim :) x

Answer 9

tell her you need space and you are in to your career.