girls please tell me what am i doing wrong?

Question

ok so according to girls i'm good looking like a lot of girls say i'm cute so i guess that means i'm good looking. (unless it doesn't... please explain) anyway they also say i'm "the nicest guy they ever met" or "oh you're so nice" but i NEVER get the girl in the end, or even hook up with girls period. what am i doing wrong?
here's an example, me and girl i'm friends with went to prom as friends, i probably had a chance to kiss her while slow dancing but we went as friends so i didn't take the risk. any way we decided to go as friends but i ended up liking her, but apparently she likes this other kid and like i'm far from conceited but looking at this guy i know if she likes him how could she not like me? or at least ever. she is also the party type of girl that always hooks up with guys but i couldn't even hook up with her! this is just one example but it has happened with many girls. why do i get put in the friend zone? and like i flirt with girls too and give them compliments and get some in return, or even get compliments first and with one girl, who actually did like me , she put me in the friend zone and then told me she used to like me but didn't say when she actually did. so girls please help me. any advice on how to not go into the friend zone, get out of it, and at least hook up with girls?

Answer 1

Cute=Good Looking

As for the friend zone, your most-likely looking in the wrong direction for a GF. Not every girl your going to date is going to be the most beautifulest amazing girl you know. Hell, there may be a not so pretty girl that likes you and you don't even know it. And she is probably in the friend zone. Have fun, flirt while you can because your single, enjoy it.

Answer 2

How old are you? If you are in high school the advice I can give you is that girls that age don't really like the excessive nice guys. Make sure you appear confident and that you have a good sense of humor. And don't make your intentions very clear...girls lose interest when the guy is too easy. Just do your own thing...have your own friends and get involved in school so you don't get too obsessed with getting girls. It should happen eventually. Good luck.

Answer 3

continue to be nice but dont be too nice, ya know still give out compliments but not too much, high school girls love butt holes, dont ask why they just do. but dont be a butt hole all the time, dress really well and how other people do and just like filrt a lot more and be more confident and if you meet a new girl and possibly see her as a potential girl friend then tell her right off the bat that you would like to talk to her and flirt with her a lot and give her a couple of compliments and you should be all good.

Answer 4

It's kinda weird, but it's because you're too nice. For some strange reason, a lot of girls don't like nice guys, even though they will complain about a guy being a jerk to them. For now, play a little hard-to-get so you give off the image that you don't care, but still get to ultimately be yourself. Someday, probably when you're much older, you will find a real woman that wants a man that will treat her right.

Answer 5

That.my friend,is part of us.She's obviously very pissed off at you.Sh expects you to know what you did wrong and then BAM she doesnt talk to you anymore.Think before you say anything that you may regret.Or probably it's that your too nice.It's all in the manual,compliment her when you think the date is going for the worst,it may get you closer to getting another date or if you do **** up just give something she likes, the next day.

Answer 6

First of all, there are different ways girls use the word cute. There is:

'Baby cute' as in "Aww, that baby is soo cute!" or "That kitten is so fluffy and cute!"

'Good-looking cute' as in "That boy is soo cute!" (mainly popular among 12-14 year olds and older immature girls)

'Hot Cute' as in "That cute thing he does with his lip when he's nervous is soo sexy!"

and finally 'Friend cute' as in "You're soo cute!" (Which girls use with both female and male friends, which I suspect is what they're using with you).

Perhaps intially they think you're good-looking but because you're so nice to them in a friendly way, they start to relate to you in a more 'guy-friend' way instead of in a 'potential-boyfriend' way, so maybe next time try and be a bit more flirtatious initially instead of when you're already in the friend zone and it's too late.

Hope it works out for you! Good luck :)

Answer 7

Its not that you are not hooking up, it is that you are trying to hard and it may come across as insecurity or "weirdness." Just be you without trying so hard and then someone will like you for who you are--friends and more to come. It should start as friends because with friendship you get the proper foundation to build on a meaningful, lasting relationship. Not just a hook up but a connection.

Answer 8

lol this sounds so familiar to me about a guy from high school. Honestly your too nice! What does that mean? You give in too easy, not saying that is a bad thing. If a girl knows she can rely on you at anytime for anything, you are in danger of falling into the friend zone. I know this sounds crazy, and as girls get older we look back and remember those guys and think "Why did I let him go?!" But in high school girls want that bad guy... the "dangerous" one. IDK why... I wish i did, but its the truth. My best advice to give you is dont change who you are for someone! The girls you go to school with now will not be in your life forever, and your most likely not going to meet your soul mate in high school. Just give it time, have fun for now and stay who you are. You will meet a girl who appreciates the nice guy, and who is thankful to have someone she can rely on at any time for anything!!

And as for hooking up.... its not all its cracked up to be! lol. Don't go out looking for just that! Maybe try to meet girls from different places, at the mall, or park.... someone not from school that doesnt know you as the "nice guy" Be nice, be who you are, but maybe bc she hasnt heard of your nice guy reputation, she wont put you in that category. Best of luck to you!

Answer 9

Make a move. Most girls won't do anything first, but if the guy does, they'll be willing to go with it. Actually, they're probably waiting for you to make the first move. And just because they like someone else that you consider yourself better than (in a non-prideful way) doesn't really mean anything against you. We can't help who we like. It's weird like that. But good luck.

Answer 10

What has completely worked for me for years is... I look like the most interesting person i can be, but i don't go to them, i let them come to me, a good chunk of women CANNOT ******* STAND a man who ignores them from the second they enter a room. To do this i simply talk to other women i'm friends with and they run right over and pull me away. It really helps if you have a sister. I have one and i use her all the time to meet girls.

Answer 11

You sound very likable. And yes, you can hook up with girls but I think that you are too shy… Next time you have the chance to make a move, do it!!!! it's worth a shot especially if you like the girl.

Good luck;)

Answer 12

not sure how old you are but you sound like a teenager cuz you havent figured this out yet.



but yeah, im like u. a nice guy, yet girls arent into me as a boyfriend. why? cuz we are NICE. Girls like nice, but they like bad boys more. they think nice guys are boring or something. being nice to a girl wont win her over. girls are used to people being nice to them, so your niceness wont get her attention any more than what other nice people have been. Understand? My advice is to not be a jerk, but be less 'bend over backwards' for her. If you dont give her everything she wants right away, then she'll start to wonder why and then go after you.

Answer 13

look im not a girl im a guy and i will teall you one of my stories..

theres a girl i like alot, we have been friends for 8 months.. she always told me she wantsed to be just friend with me and that she likes another guy and i was in the same situation than you.. a couple months later one of her friends told me she likes me the same way she likes the other guys just that she is very confused and dont want a relationship with none of us 2... so maybe she likes you.. give her time.. and never give up

good luck ;)

Answer 14

If the nice guy thing ain't working for you, maybe you need to take a walk on the dark side and be a little more confident.

Answer 15

by cute...do they mean baby cute? cuz itf its that, and your really nice to them, giving them compliments, and are the nicest guy theyv ever met, they probably think of you as their brother, or "bff". honestly, unless you change your image, which probably wont help, your just gonna have to wait for the right girl :S

Answer 16

Show her youre interested in her. Or they will just consider you as a friend. I mean how can they love you if you dont tell them you love them. Do sweet things, give presents, say nice things to her, hug her.. show her youre interested her by all kind of stuff, not necessarily by directly telling I love you.

Answer 17

when girls call i guy cute they meen baby cute and as a nice guy they'll treat you like a brother, just come straight out and tell them how u feel and things might change like if you like a gurl tell her :)

Answer 18

Simple as this, you can't always be her friend . Sometimes you just have to jump right in and be like date me. I dont mean be a freak. But y'know.... Be sexy and get in there. NO HOMO

Answer 19

cutee annd nicee aree never good signns theyy meean youu look lik my nephew annd youur not a jerk. hot and amazinng aree good signns.

Answer 20

You may not want to hear this and I hope that I'm not stepping on your toes, but my suggestion is that you put in the effort required to become the type of person that God wants you to date (a keeper) before dating anyone.



"You’ve probably heard the expression “He’s a keeper” or “She’s a keeper”, which means that a person has valuable qualities that a person would want in a boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife.



From a Christian perspective, may I suggest that a keeper is a strong Christian, someone who keeps:

- their Christian faith strong through daily prayer, and regular Bible study/church

attendance

- trusting in Christ alone for their salvation and for their daily needs

- trusting God when the storms of life hit (problems, tragedies, etc.)

- God in mind when making any important decision - In other words, they seek God’s will for their lives.

- trying to obey the two greatest commandments, “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” and “love your neighbor as yourself.” (Mark, chapter 12, verses 28-31)

- trying to grow throughout their life (spiritually, emotionally, relationally, and intellectually)

- trying to display the fruits of the Holy Spirit - love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control

- a group of Christian friends

- trying to control their tongue

- a positive attitude (cheerful, enthusiastic, looks on the bright side of things)

- themselves sexually pure from this day forward

- forgiving others

- in mind how much God loves them regardless of what they have done



If a keeper decides to get married, they are someone who keeps:



- trying to meet the needs of their spouse

- trying to communicate their needs to their spouse in a constructive positive

manner

- trying to treat their spouse with a high level of concern and respect in both words and actions - regardless of what they receive in return from their spouse

- their lifetime commitment to their spouse



In order to become a keeper, first of all, if you’re not already, you need to become a Christian.



Next you need to make a commitment to the goal of becoming the type of person that God wants you to date by developing a close relationship with Jesus Christ - not a halfhearted commitment, but an “I’m going to do whatever it takes, nothing is going to stop me” commitment.



Here are some suggestions of how to go about developing that relationship: 1. Get yourself a good Bible that is written for teens. 2. Read it every other day at the least - start out in John and move to other books that talk about daily living and love - such as Proverbs, 1 Corinthians, etc. 3. Spend time in prayer daily including praising God; thanking God for all of your blessings; confessing your sins of thought, word, and deed; asking God to forgive your sins; asking God for help forgiving other people; asking God for wisdom to make good decisions that are pleasing to Him; asking God for strength to live your life each day the way he wants you to; sharing things with Him that are bothering or worrying you; and praying for other people.



So the first step toward finding the type of person that God wants you to date and possibly marry is for you to take the time to become the type of person that God wants you to date.



The second step is to prepare yourself for dating and marriage by reading some good books from a Christian perspective about dating and marriage. The appendix of Straight Talk About Teen Dating contains a list of highly recommended books.



After the second step has been accomplished, the next step is to participate in as many activities as possible with other people who are strong Christians. Sunday School class, church youth group meetings and activities, church events, activities of a Christian organization, service projects, mission trips, Bible studies, etc., can all be great opportunities to get to know the type of people that God wants you to date without actually dating. (But be careful, some of the people that you will meet are simply masquerading as strong Christians.)



It’s not going to be easy, but patience, perseverance, prayer, and participation in activities with other strong Christians will make it more likely that you will eventually find a person with whom you can have a lifelong loving Christian marriage."



(Please remember that you want a 40, 50, or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)



Hope this helps!



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