Time to rip a stranger a new one?

Question

Question the guys in this room, those over lets say twenty-five. Lets say you were sexually casual with a woman for a few years. Everything was cool, because you both new the deal. HERE IS RIPPING TIME.
Lets say a five years ago the woman(ME) went back to her ex husband because he became terminally ill. The womans husband asked the woman never to see the BUDDY again and she never did, but continued to keep in verbal contact with the man via the phone and emails. Husband dies and woman decides its time to see the BUDDY meaning going to visit him a thousand miles away. HERE IS WHERE YOU CAN REALLY RIP. Guy has kept asking woman to visit, she takes him on it, then he tells her that he is coming up north to visit his parents for Christmas while he is up there he wants to see you? All of this is the same time the woman is suppose to come down there for a week. AM I MAKING SENSE. Is this guy getting back at me for all the years of me choosing my ex husband over him?
RIP AWAY GUYS.

Answer 1

YOu are not making sense

Answer 2

This doesn't make a lot of sense, but let's see if we can sort things out.



You were seeing a man, decided to go back to ex-husband, you keep in contact with man-friend, ex-husband dies, man- friend asks you to come visit, you say 'yes' but he tells you he is going to see family over Christmas, but wants to see you too, you want to go to his place and spend a week but you can't because he is going to be with the folks....OK?



No real big problem here. See him over Christmas and then visit him at his place next year. He hasn't said 'no' to your visit has he? It just sounds as if he has problems with dates and you should probably give him the benefit of the doubt. If not maybe he has a girlfriend living with him and thinks it would be a little awkward for a threesome.

Answer 3

I understand the cool and casual basis of the relationship you both had prior to the death of your husband. At your husbands request you gave up meeting your lover but kept in touch via email and phone, during that time did you inform your lover of the reasons you went back to hubby and why? If not you only have yourself to blame for not being open and honest. However, if you did mention it I cannot see a reason as to why your lover in waiting would want to mess you about, unless he has found someone else.

Answer 4

No, guys are pretty much "what you see is what you get".



If he didnt want to see you he would be direct, tell you that you are not worth the pain or effort again and would actually sleep just fine that night.



You need to stop worrying, the guy wants to see you because he wants to see if the flame is still there, I believe it IS for him but who knows about you, what you feel, so you need to just WAIT & SEE.



Dont worry yourself into failure. Get together and re-establish your friendship however deeply you want to...you are not bound by marriage anymore.



Your lost husband is not being fair if he requested that you dont see him(the old flame) after he is gone(deceased) .



That is not the way the world works.



Marriage and relationships the way they work as we know them is for all of us to comfort one another, this may go against the grain or the majority but from what I understand in Heaven marriage is not necessary.



The world is for the living and just as the living have no control over the afterlife the deceased are not to try to control what happens after they are gone.



Get back to your friend and take comfort in him, as much as he is willing to give.



I think you were a wonderful person to go back and faithfully take care of your husband and mend that fence and the other guy knows by your years of being duitiful to your husband that you are trustworthy. YOU ARE TRUSTWORTHY. So take it to heart, even if the guy is playing you, IN YOUR HEART you are innocent and faithful and good. You will get comfort for your honesty and dedication. Believe this. Take Care-Rachel.

Answer 5

I would suggest calming down a bit and resubmit the question in a more clear and understandable fashion. People want to help you out, but your question is simply incomprehensible.

Answer 6

I am very confused. I must have missed the point. Sorry

Answer 7

He is telling you that he has to travel anyway. Stay put and he will come to you.

Answer 8

your a confused cheater and liar

Answer 9

What are you going on about??

Answer 10

What?

Answer 11

Wait so are YOU she!?!

Answer 12

wtf?!