Why am I still single??? Please help (Guys especially)!?

Question

Hello - I will be completely honest. I am almost 21, and I have never ever even been asked out buy any guy. I am currently in college. It is a private college with extremely high standards. I am not arrogant, but I am completely confident in who I am. People tell me (not just my family) that I am extremely pretty. I am not nor do I act ditzy or stupid. I was valedictorian of my high school, I have extensive knowledge of about 6 foreign languages, I am creative, and I have been educated in music (studied some of it in Europe already), as I am a classical singer. I am not anything close to a "nerd" either. I work extremely hard at everything I do and I do not back down to challenges. I am usually placed in/assume leadership positions in class projects, etc. I usually always take charge, even if there are guys in the group(I thought that this may be the problem - because I take action). I am outgoing. I dress well and I LOVE to shop. I wear makeup, and I know how to apply it, but I never overdo it. I am on a diet at the moment (losing freshman 15), but I was never overweight. I have an average body - I don't look like a Barbie doll. I am starting to think that "Barbies" are the only ones that guys want. I guess I am a bit picky about guys, but I feel that I shouldn't have to settle for someone that I am not attracted to. I am not insecure. I LOVE who I am. I am not mean at all; I am very kind and helpful to others.
I do not understand this - why am I single?? - Please help!

Answer 1

Im literally on the same boat as you. Look.. You said it all yourself, your pretty, smart, all around a good person. Its obviously not your time yet, so your going to have to be patient. Especially if you don't want to settle for less than you deserve, which you shouldn't. Just keep busy and hang with friends, have fun and it will happen when your time is here!

Answer 2

My dear friend, trust me, the moment you don't think about it, that someone will come into your life.



Trust me. Don't stress about it okay? Things always hapoen for a reason and trust me you seem perf! And that lucky guy will soon be in your life, just try maybe go out to clubs more or try and meet more people! Friends always turn out to be the best partner for life. Just stay positive! :)



Hope I've helped!

Answer 3

Not gonna lie, me being an average guy, I would be intimidated to ask you out. Not saying that you should change one bit, you're fine the way you are. Someone is gonna see you for what your are and scoop you up. I wouldn't say settle either, but trying something new or giving some people you normally wouldn't a shot might not be bad either. You'd be surprised who you can fall for when they open their mouth. Good luck! You'll make some guy lucky

Answer 4

Im literally on the same boat as you. Look.. You said it all yourself, your pretty, smart, all around a good person. Its obviously not your time yet, so your going to have to be patient. Especially if you don't want to settle for less than you deserve, which you shouldn't. Just keep busy and hang with friends, have fun and it will happen when your time is here!

Answer 5

You may be intimidating to guys? I say, don't worry about it. You've been spared trolls who are very hurtful and when you do meet your man, you'll be married before you're 30. Cheer up, it's all in timing, that's all. Good luck

Answer 6

You may be intimidating to guys? I say, don't worry about it. You've been spared trolls who are very hurtful and when you do meet your man, you'll be married before you're 30. Cheer up, it's all in timing, that's all. Good luck

Answer 7

You may be intimidating to guys? I say, don't worry about it. You've been spared trolls who are very hurtful and when you do meet your man, you'll be married before you're 30. Cheer up, it's all in timing, that's all. Good luck

Answer 8

No Worries...I'm 25M and still single(never been on a date). You'll find someone someday.I'm also trying to ask a girl out on date even if I don't know whether she likes me. :) Best of luck

Answer 9

Don't worry about man. Like these other people said, you are awesome!!!

Love comes in unexpected. Keep doing your goals and ambitions.

Then a special woman will be in your sights and you will be lucky.

Answer 10

Maybe you haven't given nice guys a chance!

Answer 11

Maybe you haven't given nice guys a chance!

Answer 12

Maybe you haven't given nice guys a chance!

Answer 13

Maybe you haven't given nice guys a chance!

Answer 14

Maybe you haven't given nice guys a chance!

Answer 15

They are intimidated, I read your little bio, I would have to learn 6 languages just to make out with you.. Just kidding, I don't know why, you're a diverse individual. Men are different in today's society, they are what I call shallow compared to in the past-in my opinion- maybe they think you too much. I personally didn't think you were but it was impressive enough to put on a resume.

Answer 16

You sound an awful lot like me. I'd love to meet you, and no, I'm not afraid of a woman like you. I can keep up.

Wanna go out?

Answer 17

I'm a dude. You just have to find the right guy. Most guys act like little girls and get all intimidated. You just happen to be super successful and driven, with a ton of self confidence. You just have to find a guy who is man enough to accept that and ask you out. There's a million fish in the sea girl, you just got to find the right one. Me personally, I'm not scared nor intimidated by you at all. I would definitely ask you out, so don't worry about it. Your good. Just go with the flow, keep doing you, and the right one will come along soon.

Answer 18

From a girls perspective, I think as other have already told you. That guys would be intimidated by dating you. You are not one of those girl who guys easily asks out and pretty much do whatever the guy asks. But Hun DO NOT change yourself over any man, one day you dream guy will come and he will respect and love you for you. I myself struggle with this also, although I am 18, but I have never had a boyfriend. But I am happy, and I do not like to surround myself with people whom do don't respect me for my choices in life, which is hard due to that every single one of my friends do think that my life is weird I am weird but they cannot live without me they say. So you just live your life an mr.knight in shining armour will come soon.

Answer 19

I only had to read your description once you know that YOU INTIMIDATE MEN. Oh yeah, big time if I do say so myself. But let me tell you something, DON'T CHANGE. Its not a bad thing as all. Keep being yourself, because clearly that person is awesome. Guys are just intimidated by you because you are extremely attractive (which is intimidating enough) because you are educated, you know a lot and are not afraid to be seem as really smart and you are a leader. Jason (the above answer) is right on the money in saying that sooner or later a guy will come along that is not afraid to take on your strong personality and who is also completely confident in themselves. I think once you find the right guy you'll have a really healthy and passionate relationship. Don't settle. Don't apologize. Don't change.



Sometimes it just takes longer for other people to find someone. My advice is keep an open mind because you might be surprised by a guy who you never knew anything about. My advice is try approaching the guys you are interested in yourself! If your confident and comfortable you should have no problem scooping up any guy you want, so if you meet or see a guy that tickles your fancy you should approach him! Good luck!!

Answer 20

if you are a Christian girl, we can talk and see whether we fit. I'm Christian and single.



i assume that will never happen but im writing to prove the feminist claim wrong that you would "intimidate" men : )

Answer 21

I have to be honest just by reading this I can tell your a pretty dominant woman, but that's not a bad thing just be yourself but try to take a less aggressive route, most of us guys like being the manly man but there are also guys who like a take charge kind of woman its all on preference. it just depends on who you meet

Answer 22

I don't mean this to be insulting, but be sure to check your breath!

There was a beautiful girl in our class and she had breath that could sour milk.

Answer 23

What do you look like! We can't tell anything from this!

Answer 24

What do you look like! We can't tell anything from this!

Answer 25

why couldn't u send me a picture :P i might want u :D if i'm not too old for you :P i'm 26

Answer 26

why couldn't u send me a picture :P i might want u :D if i'm not too old for you :P i'm 26

Answer 27

well some ppl are like that. they have a great social life and are really confident but has no romance in their lives. some ppl dont need romance in their life, they just are so confident and outgoing that they dont need.

Answer 28

When the right guy asks you out you will say "Yes I would love to go out with you first name added".

Answer 29

I knew a girl in the same boat your in, she was lovely, caring, intelligent had a good job as a driving instructor and communicated well with all comers, everything an average or above average guy should ever want: but like you something was missing ? I couldn't put my finger on what exactly it was, I was fond of her and we gelled with each other socially, we went everywhere together for a time, but the sex wasn't great and that got to me. I just didn't think she exuded sex appeal and I got the impression that she was just going through the motions of sex to please me. In the end it pained me to break up with her because of sex as she was so nice in every other department. She confided with me that she thought men weren't interested in her and looked for answers in me. Not wanting to hurt her feelings I left out her lack of sexual intimacy in my analysis. Some women/ girls like some men, just don't have that special something that attracts the opposite sex. But I think in your you'll eventually find your partner, someone possibly like yourself .

Answer 30

You gotta party with the lads---have a li'l wine, cocktails and watch concerts, go to clubs, the gym and try something new---you're pretty,OK--FLAUNT IT! Why do hot chicks in Facebook do selfies with pride and show their tush and thongs to thousands of males surfing the web??? Its cuz they FEEL pretty, want some LIKES and maybe just are excited by the male libido! Date guys--guys who think will really find you not only smart---but PRETTY---that's a BONUS and you just don't KNOW it. Unleash your sensuality!

Answer 31

Be my friend i m from india [e-mail]

Answer 32

Trust me you'll get someone, you seem so awesome, just be patient, trust me you'll find that one guy



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Answer 33

love will come unexpectedly :) trust me