Question:
Big Blowout with My Girlfriend. Does it sound like we might get back on track?
Lostandfound
2012-03-20 15:13:01 UTC
My gf stopped talking to me for quite a while and said it was over. I was devastated and am still in love with her. For about 8 weeks she basically had very little contact with me. Sometimes she'd answer when I called, sometimes not. Sometimes when we talked, I could tell she was really emotional and feeling just as sad as me. Sometimes she was really harsh and really mean. She was giving me the silent treatment and it really really hurt. There were times when I called her and she was silent on the other end of the line and would say nothing but "I'm listening". I didn't feel that was right, but I'm completely in love with her and couldn't walk away. This past weekend I called her and we talked for over an hour. It was a really difficult conversation. Wasn't going well. At one point, I said "Ok, I will let you go" and was going to hang up then she said "please don't" so we talked longer. A couple of days later she was emailing me at work for the first time in months. It was "Just about work" and was a simple question that could have been asked in one shot, but she kind of dragged it on. I'd say "thanks", then she'd say "k". I'd say "K" and she'd say "K" again. this was a lot like old times. I felt like maybe things might get better. I just let it happen and left it at that. Later that night my phone actually rang and it was her. The first time she called me in months. She said "I got a message that you called and wanted to talk for 2 minutes".........I had actually left her that message in tears weeks before but she ever call. I let it happen and said "ok" and we talked for 11 minutes where she was actually willing to talk to me a little more normally like about just regular stuff.

I felt so relieved........I don't know if we will get back on track but it sounds like she might want to? Should I just go with the flow............I wrote her a really really long emotional email with a lot of heavy subjects but don't know if i should send it. SHould I just go with the flow now? Is there any hope here?
Five answers:
thegirlnextdoor
2012-03-20 15:27:52 UTC
I don't think sending the email is a good idea. I'm not sure what happened to your relationship in the first place but bringing up 'heavy' issues in an email could make things work.



I would suggest trying to get together with her and just chilling. Don't try and 'fix' things, which normally does the opposite, driving the other person away. Just have a nice time with her, and if you think she is able to talk about certain issues, talk about them in a neutral way, without trying to solve it right away. So yes, I think hanging out with her casually just to spend time with her & reconnect would be really good for you two.



Hope that helps.
Mo
2012-03-20 22:20:55 UTC
Flow
?
2012-03-20 22:15:53 UTC
50/50 shot
?
2012-03-20 22:17:26 UTC
remember this motto when dating girls:



HAVE YOUR 'FUN'

THEN YOUR DONE

IF SHE FINDS OUT...

YOU F*CKING RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hello dog
2012-03-20 22:14:23 UTC
it's possible...


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