i need girl advice.?

Question

alright, ive been with this girl for almost a year we arent dating anymore, but we are still "together". i really love her and she loves me. we text and talk all the time, i go see her on her breaks at work. lately shes been getting more distant with me. i have talked to her about it on a couple occasions and she says she isnt, and she doesnt notice that shes doing it. she doesnt talk to me as much, and she doesnt try to see me as much. she still says she loves me and she wouldnt know what she would do without me. there isnt another guy or anything either. she says everythings good but she isnt acting normal. this has been happening for almost a month, one week she acts normal and she wants to see me all day long and the next she doesnt.. i really dont get what she wants from me. any ideas?
keep in mind that i know for sure she doesnt like someone else, and she still says she loves me everyday so i dont think she wants to be done with me.

Answer 1

My niece is doing this to her boyfriend right now, believe me you sound like him. She's (my niece) is doing it because she feels like she loves him, but not "in" love with him. She doesn't know how to tell him, because she cares to much to hurt him. Maybe your girlfriend is like that. She loves you and she honestly cares about you, but not in the way you feel about her, and that's why she can't tell you. Things will get better if you talk to her and don't make her feel bad for feeling the way she does! Tell her you care about her but you're willing to let her go if that's what she wants. It's better to end it soon than to wait until she hates you! Sorry about what's going on and I hope things work out for you!

Answer 2

Well if you know for sure she isnt cheating then i wont bring that up

My advice is it might not be her it might be you, you might be falling out of love with her and not no it, all you have to do really is just give her all your love and show her that you care and allways will. go on holiday together somewhere go to where you first met

in the end though you have just got to trust her and if you dont trust her then the relationship is not right and if it isnt then break up and see how she reacts if she reacts badly then she still loves you (but if you do break up with her dont go of with another women give it some time to calm down)



** I hope it works out**

Answer 3

What's new and different about _you_?



To remain interesting to other people, we ourselves have to develop. Putting in some work on yourself may have a two fold benefit. First, you expand your own horizons, and become a better person. Second, you take some pressure off your relationship with this girl.



This might take the form of reading 2 new books a week, on worthwhile topics (improve your mind). Or, learning juggling (improve your eye-hand coordination). Or, doing some volunteer work in your community (sign up to work youth sports league games as coach or official, etc. thereby improving your community).



Work at what ever you choose, diligently, and you might be pleasantly surprised at yourself, and at the response of this girl to your new side(s).

Answer 4

I don't really understand you are nor dating but you are "together", are you in a relationship or not? You need to make your feelings and expectations clear. If she is saying "I love you" every day but doesn't want to be in a relationship with you then there is something wrong, she may just be stringing you along or throwing thos 3 little words around without real feelings behind them. Either way you 2 need to communicate with each other.

Answer 5

Ermm i dont really understand:/ How can you be together but not dating? Isnt it the same thing? Maybe the complications in your relationship are getting your girl down. Try and make things as simple as you can, trust me, it will turn out better in the long run :)

Answer 6

maybe you are over thinking it too much and just because someone doesn't want to see you every second of the day doesn't mean that she doesn't like you, time apart makes the heart grow fonder.. It will be ok.. if she says there is nothing wrong then believe her because you will push her away if you keep asking to many questions all the time :)

Answer 7

She may just be growing apart from you, she doesnt want to give you up, but she probably doesnt really see a future with you. She doesnt want to hurt you either, if she still tells u she loves u.

Answer 8

Well i have to say that maybe she just needs some space. everyone likes to have some alone time, and theres no harm in that. Maybe she just needs some time.. and also commitment is a big factor in this kind of situation. and if u arent dating.. but your "together", she has the right to make some time for her self, and of course, you need that too.

Answer 9

Don't get too hung up on her just let things go the way they are and try not to force anything. Let nature take its course. If you act too desperate that can be a real turn off. Don't worry I am sure the right woman is out there for you and she may or may not be it.

Answer 10

Honestly, let her go. If she really wants you she'd get her act straight. If not why waste your time when she's giving you mixed signals. Let her know that you would love to still be with her, but not when she's acting sketchy. Good Luck.

Answer 11

Dont be naive, wake up she is taking you for a idiot. She is keeping you hanging just incase she does not get what she wants somewhere else.



No girl really likes to be alone, looks like she is having her cake and eating too..



Hope it works out for whatever you do...

Answer 12

It could be that she is young and confused about what she wants to do with herself in relationship I have been in that situation before with my boyfriend. I wasn't seeing anyone else either, I was just young. I loved him and I still do. What is her sign

Answer 13

Maybe she doesnt really know whats bugging her but she needs space. Thats all just give her space to think.

Answer 14

She most likely has some issues going on with family/work/school etc..... Ask her if somethings bothering her?

It hasn't been going on long enough to know she's not into you anymore.

Answer 15

ok just dont worry or freak! 1st tell her you love her and its good that you try to see her often. 2nd maybe just let her be, i know sometimes i need space and if people dont let me have it i get mad.................you dont want me mad. adn finally, maybe you two should just go have a fun night, go to a movie(if she likes romance your gonna have to live through it buddy) or maybe just walk in the park!(be careful how you use tip two, dotn ignore just when she needs space give it, and dont ask her about it too much)

Answer 16

Okay...do this the filmy style!! Tell her that you aint gonna stalk her or anything..but something is missing...so either you pack your bags and walk up to the great wall of China if she doesnt wish to notice what that it..or you kiss her there and then (see..filmy style i said!) and tell her that "WITHOUT THE FISS...YOU JUST AINT GONNA HAVE IT HAPPEN!!"

Answer 17

everyone in a relationship needs their own space, thats probably all shes doing. either that or shes scared of comitting in a deep relationship but dusnt want to hurt u

Answer 18

don't forget, shes a GIRL!!! there are things call mood swings and hormones and all girls have them, not just the pregnant ones. she might need to do some thinking about her life. if she feels the need to leave you, then let her go. but she could just be keeping herself from you to help your relastionship strive. good luck!

Answer 19

Maybe she wants to distance herself from you, maybe she feels like you are smoothering her.



Try backing off and see how she reacts, you never know she might take the bate and start coming after you!

Answer 20

probably just has something else on her mind. or she could just be having doubts about how she feels about things. chicks r wierd. the only thing i can tell u is that when she's ready to tell u whats bugging her, she will. until then, just continue to see he when u can

Answer 21

Let her relax and have time to herself.Maybe she's got a lot to think about if she's becoming distant from you.

Answer 22

You don't know anything for sure fool. Step up and have her choose the direction of your relationship.

Answer 23

maybe she's got something else on her mind, relax a bit, and dont chase her dude, she'll be back to normal soon.

Answer 24

Mood swings, or just plain boredom. Spice up your relationship.

Answer 25

How do you mean you are not dating anymore? Yet you are still together?

Answer 26

She's playing you.

Give her some space and see what's going on.

Answer 27

she doesn't want anything from you. the two of you are suffocating each other and not letting each other move on with your lives. i'm sure she's interested in dating other people, as should you.

Answer 28

Give her some space for a while.

Answer 29

i think something happen or maybe shes stressed about something...ask her if anythings wrong...and try to help out

Answer 30

Give her some space.

Answer 31

Maybe she's going through a tough time. Maybe somebody died or something.

Answer 32

wait and see what happens

Answer 33

Just let it be...if she seems distant, don't suffocate her!

Answer 34

She has another man Dude!! Get over her!!!

Answer 35

trust me the girl is playing you

Answer 36

shes pregnant.

yupp yupp, shes a pregger!

Answer 37

lol im bad in dating stuff i need help =P

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Answer 38

just let it be..she will come to u..

Answer 39

stop chasing her, let her chase you.