Is it okay to have sex on someone else's couch?

Question

So my roommate let her friend stay at our apartment because he works at the local bar here on the wkends. She gave him her key since she would be gone. Well this morning I got up for work and went down stairs to make breakfast and get ready to leave. Unfortunately when I stepped down the stairs I got an eyeful of my roommate's friend having sex with some girl on our futon! I didn't even know what to do because I needed to leave for work. (You have to walk through the living room to get out of the apt.) So I tried to make a lot of noise upstairs so that they would know I was there or whatever, and they finally stopped.

I just think its extremely rude to have sex on someone else's furniture. They didn't lay down a towel or a blanket or anything. It also created a pretty awkward situation for me, and I didn't get to eat breakfast so I was ticked! lol I understand its human nature, but I thought this was just plain rude. What do you think? Should I say anything to my roomie when she gets back?

Answer 1

Yes, that's very disrespectful.

Bring it up with the GUY. Your roommate is not responsible for his stupidity; he is.

Answer 2

What they did was really rude. It would be one thing if one of the people involved was your roommate and (s)he thought you weren't home, or was being discreet about it. Your roommate's friend should have insisted on having sex somewhere private, such as a bedroom, with a door that closes. However, I would not complain to your roomie when she gets home. If I were you, I would clean the couch and let it go, but if any of her other friends decide the couch is a good place for sex, let her know. You don't want people walking all over you, especially since the apartment is half yours.

Answer 3

Yes~and I double dated and my date in the front seat would be exposed

to people having sex in the back seat~~and it was not their car



My girlfriend won't let anyone smoke in her car let alone have a orgy

and they did not put down any towel or blanket either



I find this to be the worst kind of behavior~~next time set up some ground

rules



If I was you ~~I would have turned the TV UP and made a lot of noise



and cooked myself a great breakfast ~~all the while I would be opening



up the blinds or curtains and chatting the people up~~next time just



take out a camera and start flashing pictures~~

Answer 4

I'd mention it, in a oh wann hear something kinda akward and funny way. Don't be a ***** about it, since that can cause problems... I should know. My old roommate thought it was wrong to have sex in the shower since we shared it (Because you can't clean it or anything *rolls eyes*) Honestly look at this way, if thats a used couch I'm sure he wasn't the only person to do the nasty on it, and if its shared with you and you're roommate you're roommates probably done it. If it bothers you THAT much, wash it.

Answer 5

You need to talk to your roommate. It was totally rude of that guy to be having sex on your futon.



Speak with your roommate. If she wants to share the apartment, she should be giving up her room, not the area where you share.



Really, is it safe to have a random stranger screwing in your house when your friend is not even around? You have every right to be upset!!

Answer 6

I think it's one of those things that is very rude, when you're not the one having sex. Haha but you never know, that may have been a very romantic spontaneous thing for them. You may find yourself in a situation much like that one someday. I don't know of you should bring it up, but if you do i would do it with the guy, not your roommate.

Answer 7

Umm, Well I say that if you think that it wasn't right for him to do that then it wasn't. Its your home and even if it would be weird for him to tell you that he had a girl over he should of told you. At least a warning of some sort and you should tell your roomie, they have the right to know and might confront them in nice way.

Answer 8

Without your permission that was very inappropriate. He didn't even ask if you minded him having someone over let alone having sex with them. I don't think you should tell your roommate before you talk to him and if you can't reason with him about courtesy and respecting other people's things then you should talk with your roommate.

Answer 9

I think you definitely need to talk to your roommate. Having sex in someone else's house is one thing, but they have to be okay with it, and not in a public area like the living room. If he's so trustworthy as to have a key to her house, why didn't he sleep in her room with his "friend"?

Answer 10

i think it is really rude. but in the heat of the moment no one thinks of that.



just go ahead and tell your roommate in a joking way like hahaha what an awkward situation story and see how she reacts. Then take it from there

Answer 11

Okay, it might be a little rude but I've done that myself. Where should he have done it? I'm just curious...



People get caught having sex in all different types of places. I think it would be more rude if you blabbed about it, quite honestly. I'm sure they were embarrassed that you saw them if they had noticed.

Answer 12

i agree with you 100% that was very rude. of course you should bring it up with ur roomie but bring it up while ur roomie's friend is there so that he could know how u feel about the situation.



good luck hun!!!!!!!

Answer 13

ya you should say something to her because i agree it is rude. they couldve layed something down at least so their juices didnt get all over the futon. you shouldve just sat there and filmed them so u can maybe use it against him someday

Answer 14

Yea it's rude! Especially doing it someplace where anyone can catch you, let alone your furniture. And its up to you whether you tell her or not, if you care enough.

Answer 15

The only time you shouldn't say something is if you were part of it but you wasn't so you should mention it to your roomie.

Answer 16

Yes that was absolutely rude ! he has no respect for other people's property and not respecting the fact that he's being allowed to stay there. Although i'm sure he must be embarrassed about it all. mabye you should talk to him about it

Answer 17

Whose couch is it?

Yes, you should let your roomie know - if they are cool.

Otherwise, she should have told them to use her bed - since you both share the couch.



However, was it leather? Maybe he cleaned up afterwards.

Answer 18

it is rely rude! i mean if u do it with whoever on their couch then ok. but yeah tell her. but dont make it to be like ur a snitch. be like, so ur friend umm well never mind its kinda weird to talk about. n then shell be like wat. n then be like oh he was fine, pretty cool, but eiww! he had sex on the couch in the living room!

Answer 19

I think its rude to have sex in someone elses house especially when there are other people there

Answer 20

No, it's not okay. It's rude and disgusting. They can have sex on their own couch/bed/etc.

Answer 21

wow id be really mad if that happened to me id probably would of yelled at them made them buy me a new couch because it was respectful to do that and yelled at my friend who gave them the key

Answer 22

its really rude if someone has sex on your couch you have to seat there and all you would think about is them having sex

Answer 23

I think its fine, freinds should be happy to help improove their freinds sex lives, they shouldn't expect them to knock someone back just cause its not their couch.

Answer 24

I'd be angry if someone had sex on my couch, because it's not like there's sheets you can wash. If "stuff" gets on the couch, it's there forever.



Yikes, so unsanitary!!! Let them know that's not right.

Answer 25

its not okay. thats nassttyyy. i think you should confront them and kick that guy in the balls and make them buy you a new couch

Answer 26

well i think considering he didn't even no u that's kinda weird that he would do that



but i can't really talk cuz i have had sex on many peoples couches

Answer 27

No, that's croutons.

And yeah, they're toeing the line a bit.

Answer 28

If you got an opportunity for sex with a hot person, would you give a crap where you were?

Answer 29

yeah thats like fuked up

Answer 30

it depends if the couch is leather i checked the rule book and the only regulation was it cant be leather answer mine



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Answer 31

Yes, tell her to ask her house guests to be more considerate and then buy a new futon.

Answer 32

yes u should say something. that is just nasty I would be really pissed off. U need to say something to her

Answer 33

that's pretty rude in my opinion.

& gross

idk, i just wouldn't tell her, itd freak her out i bet.

Answer 34

that's just nasty man yes u should definitely say something that's so wrong

Answer 35

you shoulda video taped it then sent it to everyone they know. aint that fitting payback?

Answer 36

No, that is not okay.

They didn't even invite you to join first of all.

And secondly, you should have privelages to do it on their couch.

Answer 37

i see it as being rude

Answer 38

YEAH, GET HIM TO CLEAN AND DISINFECT YOUR CUSHIONS.

Answer 39

its okay to do it there as long as they clean up the mess

Answer 40

Futon? Aren't futons those bread crumb things?

Answer 41

You know what they say'' what you don't know can't hurt you''.

Answer 42

no its not ok, its disqusting just gross

Answer 43

yea

Answer 44

yea. its the only place too

Answer 45

been there done that

Answer 46

only if they watch