ok im getting to the breaking point.?

Question

heres the deal. I met this guy on line were together but not as we live way to far apart. I have never seen him but have talked on the phone. now with that I would normally never find anyone online letalone talk on the phone or especially continue it with no photo. But he is amazing. he can make me laugh no matter what,he makes me soo happy when we talk. he knows I have a son and the situation with my soon to be ex husband and doesnt judge me. He has never talked dirty to me just with nothing but respect. He is like that guy you never think you will meet. he is everything I would have never gone for in my life and some how I fell for him. The thing is he is so so so far and we can barely talk on the phone due to its way expensive. I have never even seen him. but when i think of all this I remember when I have doubts he just tells me to fallow my heart. I honestly am ina stand still what the hell should I do. realistically am I just doing this because im dieing to be happy.

Answer 1

You are going to die alright. This guy may be jerking your chain so you let your guard down and meet up with him.



Stop being so foolish with your life. I find it pretty sad that you cannot connect with someone close to home. Don't depend on the Internet for a love connection. It rarely happens.



I sure don't want to read about you in the newspaper.

Answer 2

Reality is a harsh truth to swallow sometimes, I agree. The truth is, you already know that you are going to have to make changes. The fact that you are too aware of the troubles that the distance is causing is telling you that as much as this man is filling the void and giving you the emotional and spiritual uplifting you have been wanting, you are already realizing that it is nearly impossible for it to be more than an online fantasy. The net is an escape alot of people use, and some even lose themselves in, as they search for meaning and a way of filling the voids in their lives. A man shouldn't judge you for having a son, or having a life that includes a soon to be ex. Those are all parts of life that many of us contend with, and appreciate. So, you should follow your heart, and realize that you already know that happiness isn't created by someone else, just made more pronounced by the impact of someone else. You deserve, and will find, someone that is right for you.... and he may even live right next door.... not online. Good luck!!

Answer 3

That must be a difficult situation for you. Here's my advice: You must consider the fact that, first, you are unhappy in your present situation with your husband. Second, you mentioned that you are dying to be happy. That is a volatile mixture of emotions which can cause you to make hasty decisions and not really be focused.

With this in mind, there is the danger of creating something that is not really there. You could very well be painting a picture of your ideal man as you speak to him over the phone simply because you crave it to be so. You need to take a step back and really assess the situation. After doing so, you still may want to persue this relationship and take it to the next level--seeing each other in person. If one of you has the wherewithal to make the trip and you make contact, one, or both of you may find that either of you may not be the person that you "created" during your phone calls. What I'm saying is that you could be creating a fantasy based on what you want rather than what is real.

If you are not sure what I mean, let me know and I will elaborate further. Good luck!

Answer 4

How far are we talking? In the United States or outside of it? It sounds like you have a great friendship but hopes of having anything more might be hard. I have a friend i met online and we are very good friends and have been for four years, but we live 8 hours apart and that has been hard. Figure out what you want, how far are you willing to go? You have a child involved and a parent that will want to see that child. I would want to see a picture of the person, its always nice to have a face with the voice. Good Luck

Answer 5

Nothing wrong with having an outlet, someone to make you feel better while your going through this...But, Don't put too much stock in this guy. Maybe he is great, but he hasn't sent you a photo for a reason. Talking to him is fine, keep him as a friend, but you need some time on your own after the divorce. Build your strength, your confidence. Jumping from one relationship to another is never a good idea. Starting over is scary, but you WILL be fine. Good luck with this new phase of your life. Be excited!!

Answer 6

I understand your situation - I was almost in exactly the same boat, virtually ...



It's very difficult ... You Do have to follow your heart BUT you have to be EXTREMELY CAUTIOUS, too !!!! You need to get to know him by talking to him (you can buy prepaid phone cards very cheaply - I'm in France and the girl I 'knew' is in The US) - You need to see what he's like under all aspects - if he just makes you laugh ALL the time then it's not necessarily good ! You need to find out what makes him tick, and you MUST NOT let yourself IDOLIZE HIM !!! And you need to find out WHY you like him so much / AND What makes YOU tick ? It's all too easy to fill in the gaps we don't know about the other person ourselves ... And this will always lead to BIG PROBLEMS !!!

You can also use Yahoo to communicate (voice stuff and Webcam ) - I would advise this ! ;^)



If you are going to meet him, you need to do so in a public place, away from your home, but in a place that YOU know.

Wait before you let him into your house ... Some people have a strange why of changing ...



But then again, he's probably just as lonely and sincere as you ... In that case, seize the opportunity !!!!



Good luck to all three of you ;^)

Answer 7

It all sounds so romantic! But sad as it is, physical attraction plays a key role in a lasting relationship! At least for most people! If one or the other of you is willing to move and youve met in person and still like each other than there might be a slight chance of a happy ending to your romantic setup.

I would always rather meet someone in person before moving forward. You never know what your getting over the internet. It's usually just smoke and mirrors!

Answer 8

Well.....

This can go two ways.......

Yes he can sound really nice and all on my phone and u think u really like him but once u meet maybe there won't be an attraction there.

I talked to this one guy online and he was so NICE and I thoght WOW where has this guy been all my life ...me ade me laugh and everything we talked on the phone and everything was great....once Imet him it was a different story I wasn't attracted to him at all.nice guy yes but as a friend nothing more.



BUt I also met this one guy many years ago on here he was from Brazil we have been chatting for over 6 yers he even came to meet me and we totally hit it off.



So in other words.......



GO SEE HIM!

see where it goes.......cause u don't want to wonder what it could of been!



Good luck

Answer 9

Online dating is not such a bad thing. What's bad is not knowing what this person looks like. I mean, yes, it's nice to fall in love regardless what this person looks like, but why not even a picture? Why? There's something fishy there. It's not expensive to scan a picture and save it on a disk for you to see. Honestly, you might be falling in love with a fantasy. He knows your situation, and it's not that hard to tell someone everything they want to hear, so I would just think the situation through, and weigh out your options.

Answer 10

I think it is great that you are happy.

Your short blip tells me that it has been a long time since you were.

If you want a relationship out of this, more than a guy to talk to on the phone and chat, then you got'a talk to him.

He would be 50% of the relationship.

If you think he would just be a great guy to talk to off an on, that's cool but I would let him know before he thinks hes going to fly out to see you.

My last suggestion and I think it is the one that will help the most is pray about it! God works in mysterious ways!!

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 11

realistically yes.but that does not make it wrong.it just makes it a bad time in ur life 2 make life changing decisions.you really do not know this person.after being married you should have learned that u never really know someone.its hard he can tell u anything and what do u have 2 go on but what he is saying.its okay 2 have fun with this but do not open ur heart yet.get 2 know him a lot better cannot one of u plan a trip 2 visit the other?

Answer 12

Internet relationships are tricky, you can meet people from all over the world. If you really love him and you're meant to be with him, then I think you should stay with him. No photo of him? Ask him to show you a picture of him.

If you don't think that you could ever save up enough money to go see him (or the other way around) then maybe you should just look for a guy closer to your area.

Answer 13

I trust in your heart. I am in the Navy and was engaged to the same woman for 6 years. That is a long time apart and living in different countries was hard. Now we are married and have 4 kids together. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. Keep the faith, pray and God will help you out in all situations.

Answer 14

You have found someone who listens to you. Really listens. The unfortunate thing in life is that you are surrounded by men everywhere that would be happy to do the same, but we are caught up on the pretense of attraction( I'm no exception). You have found that fundamental flaw of attraction that beauty is only skin deep by finding out who a person is blindly. Follow your heart.

Answer 15

I am a guy and i would like to suggest you that don't beleive anyone easily over net...meet him first in real life then u can deceide about your future.

Answer 16

Forget it. Talkin is OK but if you are getting emotional over him you need to quit.. I wonder about your maturity, I mean fallin for a guy you don't know. Bad news.

Answer 17

i would not fall for it because what r the chances u would find a guy online who u love and if he loves u then he would have sent u a pic. already i think hes just another guy looking for some1 to love him.

Answer 18

if ur havin troble with callin cuz of the cost then use get skype, its free and u just need a mic

good luk!

Answer 19

it's time to exchange photos.

let's hope your wonderful man is not just a figment of your desperate need for a friendly voice.

Answer 20

hey actually these kind of things generally won't work....

n u r tellin he is far.u'r just lettin u'r self 2 b hurt..pls.don't develop things....b real close good friends...ok.

Answer 21

ONLY YOU KNOW AND IF ITS MEANT TO BE IT WILL WORK OUT

Answer 22

VISIT HIM!!!!