Is this normal bartender behavior?

Question

I've been semi-regularly going to a local pub since January, and over the past 6 weeks, it's been every week. I go on my night off, so I always have the same bartender.

We started chatting casually, just small-talk probably the second week I was there. Since then, I haven't paid for one drink. I would understand an occasional free drink, but ALL of them? On top of that, we hung out one night after he got off work, and he walked me back to my place, gave me his coat and crooked out his arm for me to hold onto. That's it, nothing physical, just talk.

Since then, he makes it a point to give me a hug before I leave (like he says, "Hold on, I have to give you a hug, sweetheart), he's invited me to a couple of concerts that I haven't been able to go to, and we finally exchanged numbers and are watching a movie together soon.

So, should I "fall" more into this crush, assume "friendship" status or is this some, lol, crazy scheme to get good tips?

And yes, I'm very attracted to him.

Answer 1

Gotta say iv known quite a few bartenders in my life and that sounds like he does like you more than as just a friendly customer. and hes probably waiting to see your reactions by giving you hugs and little things like that to see how much farther he might be able to go - or to build courage to ask you out perhaps...



If you like him i would as him out,whats the worst that could happen? rejection? Thats ok! we all get rejected once in a while. Ask him to go for brunch with you or somethig. Im sure he'll jump at it.

Answer 2

i would stop accepting the free drinks, so he doesnt get fired. Unless hes the owner or something. Sounds to me like he wants to be friends for right now and then try to take things further. He definatly likes or, and has a crush on you. If hes a nice guy and your attracted to him then I say go for it.

Answer 3

It sounds like he might be interested, but he could also just be one of those guys who likes to hug and give pet names, etc....



I would say to just play it by ear, and have fun!! If it turns out you are just going to be friends who hang out, it sounds like he would be a hoot of a guy to have as a friend....and if there is something more there, it sounds like he is one of those guys who will make it known he wants to be more than friends.....just assume friendship right now, but be prepared if he decides to take it to the next level.....good luck!!

Answer 4

Sounds like the start of a Relationship to Me.

Answer 5

go for it u can drink free why not women have great powers over men use what u got

Answer 6

He's not looking for friendship unless he is gay. Time to get busy, he's the one who wants to give you a tip....

Answer 7

Ask him if he's single and what he's looking for. and in the interim just enjoy him! Sounds like a great guy.

Answer 8

Umm he LIKES YOU! I would fall more into the crush. Its clear that he does infact like you.

Answer 9

what a stupid question. Go on with ur usual relationship