How do u know when ur ready for sex ?

Question

I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 28 and our relationship is really private ,and he told me he won't have sex until I'm ready and he said hel wait ,but how do I know when I'm ready ? Like I'm scared if it will be sore and stuff but I don't want him to break up with me so I just wanna be ready faster ??

Answer 1

Wow, OK, well, I'm gonna tell you like it is. He wants to wait because he's waiting and grooming you for later. Of course, he's telling you what you think you need to hear, as if he cares. First of all, any 28 year old man, if we call this predator that, is no man at all. You are 16 yes, and all of a woman, however, the age difference is not right. Ask yourself, how much exposure do you get around his friends? Family? Have you met his mom? Dad? Have you introduced this dude to your family? Your high school friends? YOU do realize this fool can go to jail for dating you?

Let's get back to you. Yes, what you're feeling, thinking of how you would feel, what you would feel, that's all normal, sweetie. That's OK. But this relationship needs to end. And surely you don't let him take your 'love' before you break up w9ith this fool.

Him telling you that he's waiting, is BS. He's only telling you that so you feel like he cares about you. This is a common lie that boys, not men, tell you.

You will know when you're ready. YOU need to decide what a guy needs to be in order to be with you. It might not be this year, it might not be until your 21. It's all about you, and how special you are. There is no trust with this guy. He's a snake, lurking around a young woaman, because he can't deal with someone his own age. That's pathetic.

YOU are better than that. Dump this guy. Move on. Know that there's a guy out there who will be there for you, by you, all about you in the future. This guy has NOT proven to be a good guy for you. If he's not a good guy, he's not worthy of having any physical contact with you.

Good Luck honey.

Let us know how it goes.

Answer 2

You'll know you're ready for sex when you understand all the consequences that may come with it. You must be ready to accept the fact that you can get STDs, become pregnant, or that he could lose interst in you after he got what he wanted. It's good that he's not pressuring you but, I understand how that would mae you feel even more pressured into it. I won't tell you to break up with him or that it's not a good idea, you're old enough to figure it out on your own. Just be safe and know that if you do have sex, your decision will haunt you a nd leave you wondering if it was the right thing to do. And if it was then good for you, but if not you will regret it.So make sure you really want it and that he's the right guy to lose it to. As for pain and soreness that is all inevitable and something you must think wisely about. Be safe, use protection. <3

Answer 3

You are in a big mess... He's older and has power over u and that's why he's with u. Cuz look at how he's got u to write this question.. He wants u to feel like YOU NEED to have sex with him so u wont offend him. He's playing backwards psychology games with ur young mind... Let's say u do have sex with him, then what? A little sexual fun until the first experience and curiosity about it is gone and then what? How can u have a serious relationship? One day he'll get u pregnant if u allow it and he'll decide he's bored with u and become a nightmare in your life...Don't do stupid things and dont give in your feelings and sexual curiosity... You're still young so wait for someone special... Ask yourself how long have u been dating this man for? Imagine your future with him..do u see a future? But not the fairy tail future but maybe some drama too... He'll get old and ull be young with your life ahead of u, either you'll lose interest or he will....plus it's illegal at this time..16 and 28

Answer 4

First off, he's too old for you. If he (hopefully) waits until your 18 yrs old, he will be 30. Do you want to be with someone who is 30 when your 18?



I don't know how your laws work where you live, but in America, 16 is underage.



But to the more important parts.



Sex can be pleasurable, but the real issue comes in if you get pregnant. Do you have the finances to take care of a baby? What about your future? Are you trying to make something of your life or is this it? Raising a child takes a lot of work and money and if you don't have a good consistent job, then it won't end well for you. Lets say the worse case scenario happens and he leaves you when your pregnant. Well that is just going to leave stress and pain for you.

Answer 5

Ok so men, which is what you have here, are sweet talkers so they will say whatever it takes to have sex with you. The age difference puts you in a bad position for him to control you and also make you feel like every little problem you have is YOUR fault, but if you want to be miserable then go right ahead and have sex, have a baby and forget about having a life. STUPID KIDS THESE DAYS!!! What is all this sex talk? Jeeze...are you a virgin? Did you even think about having sex before he came along. If not then it's likely that is what HE wants and not you. You will regret giving up your virginity to the wrong man. Find the good man who treats you like a princess and makes you laugh and is clean neat and proper and has a future. Then get him and be good to him. This 28 year old is scum. I'm 26 and no way in hell am I going to go after a 16 year old for the simple fact that they are a child. So much changes between 16 and 24 and this guy is sick sick sick. He should go to jail. Sorry but he is about to ruin your life but only if you let him. THanks.I was 17 he was 28 he told me he loved me, would set a place up for us and trashed everybody and made me feel like the only person who made him happy....then...he just disappeared! Completely gone withouta care in the world. And I was left with my now 7 year old daughter who he disappeared so well because to avoid child support. He is a pervert. I now realize. He has no care for my feelings or for his daughter. He is complete scum and he would probably have sex with a pie if he could get his dick in it. That 's what type of guy you are looking at and I'm not the onlyone who believes so apparently. You have about twenty concerned adults who were once young and are basicaly giving youthe shirt off their back.good luck little lady. I know you will make the wrong decision because you are just another dumb kid like the rest.

Answer 6

Well that's not awakened. Make sure the you are spending time with your parents first. Are you a matured girl as per nature(Confirmed). If yes you will feel something which is odd when watching films with some romantic scenes. And your relationship is a big gap of something which is not at all suitable in the society. Do good things even if are made with bad environment. Be a woman with some morals. I respect the feelings but sex is way of art with two bodies with single heart, and do not assume the pleasure it gives for couple of minutes. If still have something you should get clarify then watch some erotic movies and confirm yourself about your readiness to have sex with aged more than 12 yrs person. Happy life comes only with maturity of making things with boldness and get the right track of living.

Answer 7

I'm 16 n my partner is 24, at first everything was great and stuff as it is at the start of any relationship, he's probably use to having sex I was a virgin when I started seeing my guy but he was 23 and obvs had experience, he sed the same thing, we did eventually do it, it wasn't planned it just happened, it did hurt the first time but we didn't use any lube we just went straight into it we were both high😂 it hurt so much I pushed him off and we stopped and he was fine with it he knew it was my first time. I had sex with him for the second time last week, it was the best feeling because i love him. The thing is after you have sex with I'm you'll have more feelings for him some hormone **** happens in us girls, it was a big deal for me and still is, another thing is people will judge you and him more for it for the age difference so I'd keep it quite, but the thing is when we argue I sometimes regret it, I thought our relationship would be stronger for me im more attached than him

Answer 8

hi you're 16. why are minors thinking about sex so casually nowadays, i mean doing it. and with a 28 year old? isn't that called a scandal? you wanna know when you're ready for sex? my answer: when you're married, to a responsible guy and both you and him are ready for commitment 'cuz you never know when you might be pregnant, whether you use condom or not, anything can happen, make sure you're actually prepared for the consequences, don't go saying "ok we made a mistake, let's abort this child, the earlier the better", that's why premarital sex is never encouraged.



One more thing, I don't how you met this 28 year old guy, ok putting the age aside, do you think he's actually taking you seriously? You sure he's not just playing with you? What if he's married and just looking for another girl to play around? Are you sure you wanna lose your virginity to that kind of man? And based on what you said, he'll wait until you're ready for sex, so sex is the only thing he wanted. I'm sorry for being harsh, but my advice for you is to end the relationship. You're still young honey, don't get into this kind of mess.

Answer 9

Age of consent in your country?



That's just weird, what does a 28 year old man have in common with a sixth-former or school leaver? What you going to talk about? Boybands and teen fashion? Is he incapable of having a conversation or forming relationships with a woman his own age? What a saddo.



" How do u know when ur ready for sex "



You have a strong attraction and urge to want to have sex. Heres a clue: there's no fear or anxiety involved

" he told me he won't have sex until I'm ready " - Yeah, classic player move right there btw.



Someone around your own age is far likely to have something in common and be having the same thoughts / insecurities as you. Use protection.

Answer 10

All these people critising the age difference! Love is love its doesn't matter about race, religion, culture and in this case age!!



This will sound weird but only you will know when your ready! If you feel comfortable says "sex" and other sexual things IN PERSON with him then personally I think you're ready, if you can't even just say "sex" in front of him you should probably wait!



Personally for me it did not hurt! It just feels like pressure on the inside, which at first can be a tad bit uncomfortable but it ends up getting better! The more you do it, the better and more comfortable it is!



Hope this helped :) x

Answer 11

It's a big age gap, so alarms should be ringing here he's being manipulative with a much a younger more vulnerable girl. The only way you can be sure he's for real is to make him wait several years. 18 may be old enough for sex, but considering the age gap I think you should wait till you're at least 21. If he's serious he'll wait. You need to mature more to be in a relationship with that sort of age gap. There's a huge likelihood he's going to disappear, so you have to make him wait. I'd tell him straight away you want to wait till you finish college at least (ie 21). He says he's ok now, but you tell him it's going to be at least 5 years and see what he says. A guy that old KNOWS it's a big deal for you to have sex. He also KNOWS it's wrong for a girl so much younger. So he shouldn't object to waiting IF he's serious.

Answer 12

Everybody is scared before their first time but you have to ask yourself one question. Are you mature enough to handle whatever consequences come your way. Sex is not porn, a movie, or like a book you've read. Sex is a mature, consensual act between two adults. You need to sincerely ask yourself whether you're mature enough to do this. I will be honest the age gap is extremely weird. While it may be legal it's still very odd that he's 28 and you're 16. I had a woman (my high school receptionist) who was 28 who was really into me when I was 17-18 and she wanted to date me and make love and all this stuff. At that time I thought it was awesome and hot and super sexy that this mature woman was into me but now that i'm in my 20's I realize that she was nuts and really pervy for even considering me as a proper candidate for a relationship. You're not a woman you're a child whether you want to admit that to yourself or not. Now I know teenagers because I was one not to long ago only by a couple years and I know you think you're an adult but you're not. I'm 21 and still not an adult there are tons of things i am not mature enough to do. You need to run from this "boyfriend" right away because he's a pervert and a child predator. He's a predator because you're one number away from being illegal. He's tricking the law because technically you're of legal age for consensual sex. You're not mature enough for this and this MAN is a pervert and a predator and I say run away as fast as you can because even if you say no he may end up raping and assaulting you. Please kid don't do this now I know you won't listen to me because it's the hand in the cookie jar phenomenon. I tell you not to stick your hand in the cookie jar which therefore makes that cookie even more enticing so you end up sticking your hand in the cookie jar because it's taboo. This man is a predator and if you lose your virginity to him 5-6 maybe even 10 years down the line it's going to hit you that you lost your virginity to a predator. Run darlin' just run.

Answer 13

First of all he waaaay too old for you, are you trying to send him to jail? I know its private but if anybody find out and that y'all had sex ... girl its going to be the end of that. But i mean i can't stop you , just know i warned you. But you ready, when you ready. Don't rush into it though because i wish i still saved my v card. But wait as long as you can but if your ready and just can't wait ... Go for it. But the thing is... You always wanna lose your virginity to the right person and ummm a 28 year old? Doesnt seem much of a right person to me. For somebody to be that old almost 30 to be hitting at somebody young... All he want is sex . So once you give it up , you out. Just think wisely. And if you dont know if you ready then you not ready. You have to be confident that you are with no questions ask. But this is coming from a 16 year old , a girl your age. You need to see the bigger picture. Dont think dumb. Good luck girly.

Answer 14

You're too young for sex anyway, unless you think you can handle a child. Plus, he is a man of almost 30. That's kind of creepy. Wondering why he cant find a woman his own age. As being a 16 year old myself, I don't think you should do it. It's illegal in the U.S., even where the age of consent is 16 without parental permission because someone has not reached the age of majority, which is the U.S., it's 18, England is 18, Canada, it's either 18 or 19. I think it's the same case with the latter countries, but I am not entirely sure.

Answer 15

When you get it?

Apparently I'm not ready because it's never been an option; I seem to be lacking something but no one will tell me what that is.

All the best.

PS. I dated an 18 year old for about a month when I was 31...I guess that makes me a bad guy. We never did anything intimate apart from a few hugs. At least I cut and split all of the firewood in her grandma's wood heap and a plethora of other jobs / chores. But all for nothing, because I'm an ugly and undesirable loser.

Answer 16

WOAH. First off, just consider the idea that he may be grooming you, making you feel safe etc. So you agree to sleep with him.



If the relationship is private on his terms, chances are he is trying to hide what is possibly an illegal or extremely predator ill relations hop.



What I recommend is find someone in your class or school of a closer age and try things with them first, that way you'll probably be on the same page, and they probably won't have any ulterior motives.



I'm also sixteen and I can say that many girls I know find it much more comfortable experience when they feel a stronger connection with someone with the same amount of experience as them.



He's probably been at it for much longer and I'm sure he's done this with other underage girls before him. Try to keep some distance and tell someone close to you about the relationship.", someone who can keep a secret and not judge you.



dont be that girl who ends up hurt and broken by a guy who didn't deserve her

Answer 17

You don't say where your are from but, in most states (if not all ) this kind of relationship is illegal ! Do your boyfriend a favor and forget about the sex. It'll be awful hard to have a relationship when he's in jail ! Besides if he wants to have sex with a 16 yr old what happens after he 'Nails" you? A 15,13 or 12 yr old?You better run as fast as you can

Answer 18

You have to accept your feelings and the person first. Sleep with a person that you wouldn't regret in the future (that is if you think it might emotionally affect you, and it may). You shouldn't just sleep with someone because you don't want them to leave. The age gap is huge and do you really think you're going to be able to fully accept that. I assume you don't because you wouldn't have even told us both of you guys' age. If you want to give your virginity to someone (and it's meaningful to YOU) then maybe you should take time to check if you're with the right person from the get go. Also, do you think you're prepared for having a child because that is a risk. Is he the type of person that would stand up and take care of his child? Is he willing to put a lot of his time towards a child? This guy might not even want to take care of this "child" because he is a full adult with a job, bills to pay, etc. and yet your still a child in school. To answer your question, you know when you're ready for sex when you are aware of the outcomes and how it would affect you. Would you regret it or would it be something that your okay with?

Answer 19

Your body will tell you....it will release a liquid which will make penetration more comfortable but.....like others here if you were my daughter I would be worried. He is a fully grown adult at 28.....has he had other very young girlfriends is a question you should ask and has had a serious sexual re'ship before. Has he been married before? Is he controlling? Did his former wife not obey him? Is he choosing a very young impressionable girl so he can "train" you to treat him as the leader. Do you have a father? If not, ask yourself if you are looking for a father figure.....lots of questions that should be answered. Take care, my friend, there are some odd people out there and a 28 yr-old being attracted to 16 yr-old is not quite right...



Good luck, sweetheart.



Maureen Mother and grandmother....

Answer 20

It's not the age that's the problem, it's the maturity. You shouldn't be worried about him breaking up with you for not wanting to have sex and if he did then you'll know he just wasn't worth your time. Once you're comfortable with him you'll know when you're ready to have sex with him. Just a tip, make sure he loves you and wants a long term relationship as in marry you some day because no 28 year old man would put himself in jeopardy of getting caught dating a minor unless he was either a pedo or actually in love with you and willing to do what it takes to be with you despite your age.

Answer 21

Ok... you're 16... realize you gotta wait (at least I would if I were you) till you're like 20 or something. How long have you been dating this guy? The age gap isn't really an issue to me, I mean, my parents are 13 years apart and they're fine. But can you trust this guy? Like you CAN get pregnant, it's a possibility. And there's no way to "get ready" really. Yes, it will hurt VERY much since it's your first time, but you can't change that. Listen, do what you want, ok? But personally for me, I would have trust issues, and I would wait at least 4 more years.

Answer 22

Hun, I know you don't know me and I don't know you, but this man does not love you. The fact that he's keeping his relationship PRIVATE is a red flag. How are u so sure he's who he says he is. Have u met his parents or his friends? Has he met yours. Him claiming he will wait is his way of saying I am messing with other women or girls on the side while I wait for you. The fact you have to ask this question says you are not ready and should not be having sex. Something ppl don't seem to talk about once you start having sex with this guy you have to start seeing a GYN earlier than you usually will who will then have to do a Pap smear which is don't with a brush or a small blade to collect samples of your cervix. You should not be dating this man. The fact he never introduced you to anyone and never met anyone he knows is a red flag. He could even be married. It sounds like he's grooming you. Have you not heard of Jared Foogle and what he did to his victims? Whatever is going on in your life he's sensing it and targeting you.



You need to drop this guy and quick. How are you so sure he won't take your virginity and run after having sex with you? The relationship is "private" so he could easily deny ever knowing you. How did u meet this guy? Your not ready to have sex with this man and shouldn't. He holds all the cards in this game. Please don't be naive enough to play it. Walk away and you could still save what's left. He could have an STD. this man exhibits all the signs of pedophila. I'm pretty sure you aren't the only one. Somewhere he has a girl or girls who he's telling the same lies or worse to. You can't rush yourself to have sex quickly. It's either your ready or your not. When it happens there won't be others around to ask this question. Please, please don't do it. This man DOES NOT LOVE YOU!!!! He's a pedophile/ sex offender I'm sure of it. He fits the description to a "T".

Answer 23

It's all a bunch of doubletalk. Nature wants you pregnant. It's that simple. It's all programmed into you. Your heart pumps without your knowledge and permission, and keeps your blood oxygenated perfectly. All your organs operate by the programming in your brain. You are not consciously involved! One day a penis will be inside you. I guess that's when you're ready. A 16 year old female is as much a biological adult as a 28 year old male. The law, is just an attempt at social order (control). The fact that there is more than one religion, shows that there isn't just one religion. You can believe in whatever set of rules that you want. I believe in nature.

Answer 24

There are pros and cons of dating someone over 10 years older than you. Pros: maturity

cons: grooming

It's normal to take a while to understad what grooming is. All young people under 18 are gullible. To best understand this try to imagine a 16 year old being with a 6 year old. Try to imagine the 6 year old saying his 16 year old lover is in love with him. What is the 16 year old doing to get the 6 year old thinking that their relationship is love??



The pesuasive skills of someone over 10 years older than you or more are way too high to be detected by the younger person. But the older you get the easier it is to detect it no matter how old people are. I understood this when I was 25 years old.





Within time you will understand that the good thing about having a relationship with someone the exact same age as you is that you both are learning together, this is fun and very special, I wish all young people under the age of 25 knew that :)



I wish you the best and that you wise up asap

Answer 25

If someone likes I mean really likes you they stay with you regardless of when you have sex they are with you for who you are not to have sex

Don't try to force yourself wanting sex is how you feel

While you wait why not find out some more about you about the law

Find out what the age of consent is where you live (dont assume its 18 even in the US the majority of states have 16 as the age) read up on female arousal and foreplay sex should never hurt look at birth control

Answer 26

Its actually considered statutory rape And he can go to prison and be charged with a sex offender for the rest of his life's through out when he's gets caught with this so call relationship.

I was there once. Its not really cute to brag about sex or even telling it on the internet for millions of people to see. On tops of it you can't even be sent to child protective services nd being the get of 16. See I started out young I had a bf who took my virginity at the age of 14 he was 27 and I tell , people that when I tell them about my life story and people say that is rape it is even if your not even saying no. Its because of a law. Its because of your age. When your 20 or 19 it be a whole different matter. Because you can say age ain't a nothing but a number. But for you in your sistuation its straight sick

To let you comprehend on what I'm saying because you may be still 16 and your mind won't let you think what you need to because you still young to be even having sex for one. And the truly reason why your relationship is private is because your a minor. OK so that example I'm bout to give you its kike you having a sexual relationship with your father think about it !?!?! And one more thing I got to let you know were are the **** are your parents I kick your *** if u was my kid

And **** my kid but I don't have none. I never will only when I'm stable enough with money wise and get married I will. But only because I got a heart and care for you and others just giving you a answer ' because you wanted one you got it. And don't be all but hurt if you hear the truth you need to you a kid for christ sake

Answer 27

You're 16 and he's 28. That's how you know he's ready for prison. If he's talking about it, even if it's to tell you that he can wait, he's doing so because he knows you'll get these ideas into your head and will end up taking your clothes off for him before you turn 18. Glad you posted this. The FBI should be investigating him soon enough.

Answer 28

What's a 28 year old doing with a 16 year old ?? We don't know the guy but like one of the others answers. Look at how are things going and take a step back. Analyze the relationship objectively. If you see it's good for you and that's he not talking advantage of you then go for it. By the way he might get in trouble for sleeping with you depending on where you're from !

Answer 29

You know when you are ready fo sex. You have sex because you want to, now because of what you believe will happen if you don't. Take your time and if he really is in love with you and cares for you then he won't have a problem. But if you feel pressured at any time or uncomfortable with him, talk to him or leave him. To have sex with someone you have to care for them and they have to care for you and most importantly you both have to trust each other, in this situation you have to trust him completely, not a maybe, not a little, not even a lot with just 1% of a doubt. You have to trust him 100 percent. If things go bad then you learned, if things go great then great. You have to TRUST him. that's the main thing. If this relationship is serious, and the law of consent is 16 and over, I suggest you both begin to think about presenting him to family or friends, and you to his family or friends. It might be awkward but that's how it is. If this is your fist time please be sure he cares for you and you trust him, because if things don't work out, at least, you know that losing it to him was not in vain or you won't feel used up. To me, my virginity doesn't mean a lot, but to you, it does. I wish you the best.

Answer 30

When you are married you can have sex whenever. But I am surprised to know that you are dating someone almost 10 years older than you and you are a minor. You shouldn't be ready.



I'm 14 btw and I am definitely not ready yet.

Answer 31

When you are ready to have sex with someone it comes naturally you never plan it. The person you end up having sex with will not talk about you guys having sex. You'll know when you are ready to have it but make sure it's the right guy. If it's your first time it has to be special and with someone who won't dump you because you finally gave him your special gift. If i was you I wouldn't have sex yet you are 16 after you have sex and he wasn't the right guy you might want to experience other people like every teenager does some get pregnant others don't. Just don't have sex yet wait till you are older I know you might be curious I'm curious I won't lie I'm barely 18 and I'm still a virgin my boyfriend has not asked me to have sex with him after he ask me 3 years ago his 22 and we are still together if he brakes up with you because you haven't done it than he isn't the one you should lose it with and like he told me it happens when it feels like the right time when you are not scared or having doubts about having it with that person. If you decide you are going to do it always protect yourself you don't want to get pregnant or a disease and tell him to get check because condoms are not 100% save and wont protect you 100% from any disease just the 99.99%

Answer 32

You'll know when you're ready. And if you don't know for sure, then for sure you're not ready.



Get away from that boyfriend, sweetie. He's not a boyfriend. Your relationship is secret for a reason, and the reason is he's a child predator. The only thing you and he have in common is your firm little teenage body, nothing else. That's the only possible reason a guy his age would date a girl your age, no exceptions.



Trust me, this guy isn't who you think he is.

Answer 33

Your relationship with him shouldn't be depend on whether or not you are ready to have sex with him. There is also a big age gap between the two of you. In my opinion it is a little weird that a 28 year old MAN is dating a 16 year old GIRL. Why is your relationship private? did he want this? there is also something to be id about your virginity. it is a very precious thing and you should strongly consider that this is the man you'd give it to.

Answer 34

this summer I was dating a guy name Josef and hes 20 I dated him and he wanted have sex too and I wasn't ready but he knew that I wasn't a virgin anymore so he wanted sex he said he was a virgin But I honestly don't know it was a long distance relationship so we never got to see each other but I sometimes go the doctors where he lives so I almost got to see him and he knew but I couldn't and that's where everything started changing we continued talking for about a month then the next month we stopped because he was to busy'working' but he just didn't want to talk to me then a month after that happened he texted me back staying sorry then a month after that he texted me again now we haven't talked at all!! Don't have sex with him.. he probably just wants young pussy!:3 and why would he be talking to girls your age? Think about it maybe he talks to other girls your age? (Maybe he isn't really28? What if he's lying about his age??) The parenthesis are if you don't know him in person yet.

Answer 35

i think what you're really asking is should I sleep with him? Well the answers no. This guy isn't about to get engaged to you let alone stay with you once he's taken your virginity. i can tell you for free that he's manipulating your every emotion because he has experience and most likely has done this before. I really hope that I'm wrong, but as you've mentioned, you don't want him to breakup with you, so you're contemplating sleeping with this guy. That day will end up be the worst day of your life so far because soon after he'll come up with some lame excuse and break your heart. Sorry.

Answer 36

I do not agree with the age difference but that,is besides the point and none of my business. All I want to say is when you are ready you will know, you won't be asking on yahoo, you won't be worried about the pain because you know he will be there to comfort you, and you should feel comfortable taking your time and waiting until you feel this way without worrying he wI'll breakwon up wit you. If any of these are not true then you are not ready. If all of them are not true then he is not the one for you.

Answer 37

You should never have sex out of fear of someone breaking up with you. Relationships are about so much more than sex. You can't get ready faster or speed it up, if you're questioning it you aren't ready. And just a little non-judgemental advice, your relationship is illegal. It doesn't matter if it's concentual he could go to prison if someone found out and told the police. Statitory Rape is a real thing. Just be careful, your relationship could ruin his life.

Answer 38

Well i know everyone has been going on about the age gap, and it is quite substantial. Their concerns are right and im not going to repeat them as im sure youve read them all too many times.



If youre in the UK then legally you are old enough however you just know when youre ready, not by age but by what you want.



Do you *want* a man *inside* of your body pumping you with what could be infection and babies? Do you feel needs atm, do you masturbate to get rid of a craving. When these have been ticked off, id say youre ready. until then, talk to your family about your thoughts. You dont want to regret your first ;)

Answer 39

Let's start with the basics. Sex is an adult activity with adult consequences. If you are not adult enough to accept accountability and responsibility for the adult consequences of your chosen adult actions, then you should not be having sex. There are advantages/benefits to sex within the confines of a marital relationship.



There are always consequences. Wait at the very least until it is legal for you to make such a decision. If you aren't ready to be a parent, then you also are not ready to have sex. That doesn't include risks of infection/disease.

Answer 40

When you know you just know, it's going to happen naturally although having sex with a man that's 28 can be very dangerous, there can be some serious legal issues that can come in hand with that. He can get in serious trouble for having second with a minor and could face time in prison

Answer 41

Honey, time to come in out of the rain, as they say. If you are afraid he'll break up with you if you don't have sex with him, then it isn't what I'd call a genuinely loving relationship you're having. Never allow yourself to be pressured into having sex , if you are hesitant for any reason. In this case, it sounds as if you are pressuring yourself ?



At sixteen, you are not ready to begin having sex, even if your body might ready. Are you also ready for:

* Getting pregnant? I think not...;

* Contracting an STD, some of which are permanent, incurable, or even life threatening? I think not

* Assuming responsibility for having a child, supporting and rearing it, changing your entire life, drop ping out of school and staying home while your friends are dating and having fun? I think not.



*The majority of teen romances do not last, which strongly suggests that yours won't either, whether or not you have sex with Mr. 28 year-old. Do you want to surrender your virginity and begin a sexual relationship with someone whom you most likely will never see again at some point? I think not.



*You are, at sixteen, jail bait. Do you want to participate in something that,if found out (and it WILL be!), could land him in prison, with a lifelong label as a sexual predator, including permanent restrictions and supervision? I think not. (I should also wonder that he doesn't think about this, as well.)



*Your age difference means that he is more mature, in a different life style and stage of life, should have different interests, goals, etc. Which makes me wonder what the heck he's doing with you , (and you with him!) in the first place. Could it be that despite whatever he says, he's looking at you as someone to have sex with? Why is your relationship "really private"? Could it be that your parents would raise hell if they knew about this? What is it that either one or both of you want to hide? If you feel you have to hide it, then what is it you already know others would think? Especially your parents?



So.......honey, you need to get some backbone here. Work on gaining some maturity of your own and learn how to say no, be assertive about it, and to value your own integrity, self worth, and not allow yourself to be pushed into anything (however sweetly he does it). Please rethink whether the entire relationship is one you should be in, in the first place. Good luck and good wishes,



P.S. : Him telling you he's "waiting" is bull. He may be waiting on you, but you can be sure that he's fooling around with other women wherever he can get sex, in the meantime. Another reason to consider risking contracting an STD. Once you have had sex with him and he has made his "conquest", and moves on, imagine how abandoned and sad you would feel. I like answer number one, please re-read it.

Answer 42

Like everyone else has said it's a big age gape and you don't want to rush into anything you will regret. It does seem a little weird that a 30 yr old is dating a teenager and he might have a family of his own and even a daughter and just looking for someone younger to have a fling with.

Answer 43

I hate to have to tell you, but you should NEVER have sex with this man! In fact, I think you should run away from him as fast as you can.

You are 16 and he is 28 - that's 12 years' difference; and that's a VAST age difference for your respective age differences at this time. Ask yourself: What could a 28-year-old grown man possibly have in common, intellectually, with a 16-year-old child? (And a child is what you are to him, at his age). There's is something WRONG with this guy.



Get away from him - he only wants one thing, and that is to get into your pants, and he HOPES your parents won't call the law on him afterward. OF COURSE your relationship is "really private" - he doesn't want anyone to know about it, because he doesn't want to get in trouble with the law.



If you have sex with him, all his words of "love" will go out the window, and he will disappear so fast it will make your head swim.

Answer 44

If you are only 16 in some states it would be statutory rape so he might be willing to wait until you are of age before having sex with you. You will know when you are ready and it might hurt at first but will get better the more you do it. You can get sore if you do it to much so give it a rest when you feel sore.

Answer 45

I don't think that you are not ready. You are still young. Don't do it right away. I did it when I was 15 with a guy that was 20. I loved him a lot that I lost it with him he was my first. So I went for it since we did it he stopped looking for me and he wouldn't talk to me at all. I know they tell you sweet things in your ears but it was all fake. Now I am 21 and I haven't heard a word out of him at all. Don't do a mistake that you will regret later on.

Answer 46

Well actions speak louder than words, that tells me that you are a little naaive for your age to be doing that. And believe anything that people say. That's normal your young and innocent and your going to be looking back with knowledge and say wow I was stupid. Mark my words. The real world requires you to know what's right and what's wrong. The brain develops until your 25 so me even I will be saying the same years from now. It's life and how we learn.



From a 19 year old guy

Answer 47

He's waiting for you to turn 18 so he can get more agressive with and have sex with you and control you more . In his mind he know you can move in with him at 18-19 and he can kinda groom you and have control and he's going to be like a father figure telling you what to do etc and getting sex and you'll think it's a good relationship but he'll think he's his the jackpot .the day you turn 18 you'll see that he isn't so nice ,mhe'll start treating you like he would a women his age .

Answer 48

I will chime in and also say you are too young. However, I say this because I was you once. I dated a guy at 15 that was 21. I got pregnant within 6 months. He turned out to be a user. Learn from my experience.



Guys that old are only interested in young girls because of how gullible and malleable they can be. It is extremely rare to find someone honest that you will spend your life with that has that big of an age gap. Don't assume you're going to be that rare couple.

Answer 49

Hello,



The Bible tells us that sex was made for married couples. So you having second thoughts and not being sure is good. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you ,don't rush into anything.

1 Thessalonians 4:3

3 For this is the will of God, that you should be holy and abstain from sexual immorality.



Hebrews 13:4

4 Let marriage be honorable among all, and let the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge sexually immoral people and adulterers.

Answer 50

Your boyfriend is a pedophile and can go to jail for having sex with you. Don't you ever wonder why he can't find a nice woman his own age, that isn't a teenager? He is seriously mentally ill and you need to get out of that relationship ASAP. He's probably having sex with 14 year old girls when he's not with you.

Answer 51

First of all, DO NOT push yourself to BE ready to have sex. You have to naturally want to do it. Its a commitment. Dont force it upon yourself just because you're afraid your boyfriend will dump you. Let him dump you, its totally worth it especially if you feel that you have to have sex with him just to be together. Nobody should be pressured in a relationship like that. Its not worth it. Plus, (and im not usually like this) you are 16. You dont need to be worrying about a stupid 28 year old and he shouldnt be messing with you either. You need to focas on school and he needs to go do whatever 28 year olds do. Not pressure a minor into having sex with them. Dafuqq

Answer 52

If you really love him you will marry him before having sex because sex is an act of covenant love. It isn't just something you do left right and centre because you feel ready. There isnt a way to hurry things up.

Answer 53

When you feel it and when you know the time is right you will do it and probably you would even forget all these answers. My point is just go out their and live your life don't let anyone influence you or minipulate you for their desires, for a guy born in the 80's a girl at 16 should be more concerned on education and goals in life. All the best!

Answer 54

If he really likes you he'll wait when you're ready, like you said. Whenever you're ready, tell him and go for it.

But I advice you to have sex when you're 18. NOT because of the law as many people say he will be charged for rape, which is false because rape/abuse happens when there is no consent of one of the parts. So if both of you consent, it will not be considered rape or abuse. Make sure that both of you don't have any diseases

Answer 55

you will know when you stop asking if you are ready. plus his age might be throwing you off too, because he is too old for you to be having sex with him. why don't he get someone closer to his age? if the age of consent is not 18 then if you have sex with him he will be raping you and could go to jail. are you in the USA in a state with a consenting age lower than 18?

Answer 56

Don't have sex in fear of abandonment. If he can't wait until you are ready, he does not love you.Please wait until you are comfortable and he has proved his love.You don't want to be pressured, The first time is sacred. You are worth more than being pressured and rushed into something that beautiful. I cried after my first time, and regretted it. You should date someone closer to your age. Experience, and live. Sex is much better when you wait for the right person.

Answer 57

There's no age or time that you'll be ready, when your ready you won't be asking yourself if your ready you'll just know. Don't rush yourself. And for all the people saying he's too old for you, I lost my v card when I was 13 to a 32 year old man it was better because he was experienced and older❤

Answer 58

Okay let me just break the news to you since you seem to not know. This is illegal in every form and fashion. You should have no "illegal and technically rape" sex with a 28 year old man. With a WAY younger guy..... Wait until your not afraid and that's when you know your ready. You shouldn't fear if your ready and in love.

Answer 59

When you really want to do it. It's in the heat of the moment when your in a private place but I didn't loose my virginity until this year after I turned18 it was nice yes but I regretted it.. he was 38 and it was a threesome with my ex Friend.. anyways I felt really used a few days later. He wasn't my first (he was the last) he's the example though. Plus we did it raw and he.. ahem.. ya in me.. and I got scared for the longest because I have irregular periods so I wasn't sure. Anyways I personally don't think you should do it at all because your 16 and if he's hitting on you, he might have an STD and he's going to you because he thinks your not smart enough to idk.. man something not right because I have a bad feeling and my feelings are always right about guy's.just please be careful....... Please.

Answer 60

Honey stop right there. You don't need to move faster at all. If you truly trust this much older man with your love then be assured that he WILL move at your pace with these things. If he breaks up with you for keeping at your own pace for readiness then guess what? You just saved your vagina from having a scum douche enter it and that is an absolutely good thing. I don't exactly agree with the age range myself..but that isn't my business to poke my nose into when you are asking a different question. I'm telling you exactly what I tell my best friend, don't move for him, you might regret it if you come to realize you weren't ready, just keep at your own pace and if he really loves you and wants to be with you, then he'll follow right beside you at that pace. I wish you the best! <3

Answer 61

First off, the age difference is WAAY off. Thats 12 years we are talking about here. He graduated high school when you were only 6. He is going to be 50 when you are 38!! 2nd, if you ever have sex with him before you turn 18, you're going to jail for breaking the law.

Answer 62

Damn that's waaay too old for you. But I know you won't listen so I'll put it this way.



Do you still like playing with Barbies?, if not, they why? Well because interest changes as you age.I don't care for the interest I had at sixteen, so no. Don't make such a big decision yet and technically.... His *** could go to prison if you have sex with Him, EVEN... If it's consesual

Answer 63

1. You're underage

2. If you were to get pregnant would you be ready for that?

3. Think about it this way if you feel responsible enough to have sex then you are responsible enough to move out and pay all of your own bills

4. If he is ok with waiting then WAIT

Answer 64

If he leave you because you don't want to have sex, than it's not the right guy for your first sexual experience. But I don't think that he wants to leave you. Listen to me... You will never be enough ready for sex! You will always be scared, that's just normal. So, you will have sex one day. You need that. So, you are going to be scared always, but do it when you think it's time. Maybe next year... That's the good way to discover is that guy right for you.

p.s. I have to say that he is much older than you... Trust me, he just wants fun with you, nothing serious. If I am you, I would have my first sex with someone much younger than that guy.

Answer 65

He's a little bit old for you so any relationship you have shouldn't be physical anyway because I'm pretty sure it's not exactly legal. Anyway you'll know when you're ready and I can tell that it's not yet.

Answer 66

Don't listen to know body but yourself, you are in control of your life. You'll know when your ready. And if your happy with who your with then stay with that person. Don't let anybody push you into anything just take your time and live day by day

Answer 67

Going to keep this short and sweet. You know you're ready when you want him sexually without feeling regretful or like it's sinful. If that idea makes you feel dirty then you aren't. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything. If he leaves you because you aren't 'ready' quickly enough then that's his problem. You're beautiful. :)

Answer 68

I say, run as fast as you can. You are a child and should be enjoying life at the moment. You are not ready for sex until you can handle the consequences of sex. Consequences are: pregnancy, std's, etc. Besides, run this man away, he is an adult.

Answer 69

You ain't ready.



NB. No man aged 28 who is honourable would even think about dating a 16'year old.

You'll understand why when you are older.

Answer 70

You're ready for sex when you know all the consequences that come when you involve yourself in unprotected sex, stds, herpes, etc. When your recognize your value and what you deserve. Making sure you're doing it with someone who truly loves you and not someone who loves you for your body. When you're comfortable in your skin. Having the right knowledge about condoms, birth control, etc. And lastly, you're truly ready for sex when you don't have to think and stress about if you're ready for sex. When you stop questioning youself, "am I ready?"

Answer 71

YOu are ready for sex when you are 100 percent sure the man won't break up with you just because you won't have sex with him. And when he and you have vowed to lifelong fidelity in marriage before God and witnesses. Then you are ready.

Answer 72

Sex With U

Answer 73

im 16 and i lost my virginity this halloween. I dont know how you view sex but to me it isnt a big deal but these are the 3 questions I asked myself.

1) Am I REALLY READY for sex?

2) Would I regret having sex?

3) Would I regret having sex with this person?

Answer 74

When your education and finances tell you that your are fully prepared to support the consequences, ranging from a child to a sexually transmitted disease. And, in most places I know of 28-year-old having sex with a 16-year-old is rape. That is illegal, ready or not. Be careful.

Answer 75

Your not ready because if you were you wouldn't be asking this question. You will know when you are ready and he is too old to be dating a sixteen yr old. Old enough to be your older brother let him go and find a boy your own age. Not trying to sound mean but it is the truth

Answer 76

First: Why are you losing your virginity? For me I simply wanted to cross it off my list of things to do and experience it.

Second: Are you emotionally ready? I knew that losing my virginity would open up emotions and feelings and I determined if I was happy and excited to lose it or scared, nervous and feeling pressured.

Third: Are you physically ready? I ensured I masturbated a lot and did exercises to open myself up there. I also brought lube with me to ensure no discomfort was there. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. I was not at all scared or nervous I knew what was happening and was comfortable with the slight pain.

Fourth: Who do you want to do it with? I chose a complete stranger to lose my virginity with but ensured that he respected me as a person and was attentive to my needs. You may choose to lose it to someone you feel emotionally connected with.



At the end of the day the actual act of sex was boring the first time round and I remember thinking, "Wow, this is it?" but AFTER it was so nice to have a guy that was comforting but also one I didn't have to talk to the next day because it was emotionally exhausting.



Hope I helped!

Answer 77

I know a lot of girls like you. Who go out with a guy 25+. Shall I tell you how it will end? Ok let's do this. First you will be all in lovey dovey. He's going to act all sweet whatever he has to do to get his fresh innocent hot bait. Y'all will end up having sex over and over. You will end up being pregnant. He's gonna be like "oh ****" yeah yeah he's going to act like he's going to care for the kid since he doesn't want to get untroubled. That's when he realises "she's a ******* kid wtf" he will want a real woman his age. He will only use you trust me. You think he wants a young thing for life? No. If he does he will end up controlling you because he had a more mature mindset. He won't let you go out, have fun, he will control what you wear. Find a guy your age. Oh and to answer your question: no one is ever ready. Think with your head not your vagina and hot raging hormones.

Answer 78

If he is 28 and your only 16 years old then he is way to old anyway. Your not mature enough for a relationship with an adult that age let alone a sexual one. Break it off and find someone closer to your age. It may seem great that you are dating someone that age but it's not a good thing.

Answer 79

You're too young to be sexually active with a 28 year old. Don't have sex with him until you're 18. If you have sex with him now, he may get in legal trouble. Don't put him and yourself at risk.

Answer 80

uum im gonna leave it up to you to decide whether or not that boy is too old for you or whatever ... but if your asking then your not ready this is feeling you cant deny when you want to be with someone at that kind of level !! when you feel it you'll know it trust me !! and from what ive read I don't think youre ready !

Answer 81

You'd know when you was ready.

He's 28 - way too old for you.

End this relationship now - that's why you don't feel ready, cos this MAN is too old for you

Answer 82

You are ready for sex when you have completed high school; when you know a lot about contraceptives and how to delay a pregnancy until you really want a pregnancy; when you know how to prevent sexually transmitted diseases; when you know more about a man other than what he says to you (some are fervent liars); when your parent(s) have been introduced.....It has nothing to do with "nice" feeling.

Answer 83

wow most really wont u be some one like him but this relationship u have is secret they come at a cost if u have sex there is no turning back they lot problem s family relationship, friends, and more that if family agrees with it and his so there no family drama then yeah and he promise to protect u ,care for,kind then u done u cango kong go butif not there will anger thrust upon u both and there will be jail time be careful

Answer 84

Please don't do it, regardless of whether you feel ready or not. You are a minor, and he is an adult. If your parents find out, he will get into BIG TIME legal trouble, will be tried, jailed, will have to register as a sex offender for life, and you and your boyfriend will ruin his life. Please wait until you come of age. I am surprised he doesn't seem to be aware of this.

Answer 85

You'll know when you're ready when you don't feel the need to ask.

Personally, I feel that you have doubts because your boyfriend is 28.

So you're thinking straight.

Answer 86

You know your ready when your 18. If he can't wait that long he's a thirsty man who can't control his desires and you should then break up with him :) lmao good luck

Answer 87

Well you shouldn't be worried about him breaking up with you. You should have sex if you want to have sex and don't worry about his schedule. If he is really a quality guy he won't pressure you or make you feel guilty about not wanting to.

Answer 88

you boyfriend don't love you. he just want to have sex with you. the age are completely different. guy 28 years old never going to marry young girl. they no it won't last long . good girl never talk about sex until the day they marry but if you are one of the girl who want to have sex early then it not that he is bad. you are the bad girl in this relationship not him. if he talk about sex first then he is the baster and you should move on. you will find a good guy someday. i am 23 and i never talk about sex with my girlfriend.

Answer 89

Wen ur ready is wen u feel confident about ur self n u now what u want n now whats gonna happen

Answer 90

If you hve to think about it, then chances are your not ready. If this guy really likes you then he will respect that you aren't ready and won't break up with you over it

Answer 91

Yea... Be careful with that. If he is 28 and wants to bang a 16 year old that's just wrong. He's the wrong dude. Wait

Answer 92

You're 16 and he's 28?? Disgusting smh. Get a younger non pedophile bf

Answer 93

Do you want him inside you? If so just take it slow like let him get to 1 base at a time. In some states this would be statutory rape. In my case my boyfriend was the same age I was so it was legal. I was in love with him, so for a few weeks I would just give him a hand job.

Answer 94

No sweetheart!! A princess like u nvr ended up with such a dick,losing virginty is not the only prob but he will break up with u any how whether u do sex with him or not, so be smart enough to make a decision

Answer 95

You will just know, and it will just happen. But that's a big age gap, at 16 it would be better for your first time with someone your age to around 18.

Answer 96

When you feel something in your nether regions when you look at him, that means you're ready for sex.



Don't worry about being sore, for most girls that doesn't happen.

Answer 97

You do not have to be ready for sex. If you have developed love for him then just kiss him once and you will find the answer to your question.

Answer 98

Weather you consent or not it's statutory rape and when he get caught he'll be having sex in jail with men. For the next 20 yrs. or so.by then you'll be old enough.

Answer 99

He is way too old for you, why would he want to be with a 16 year old unless he was a pedophile and even if he was not he is messing with your life, no one which common sense would be okay with that kind of relationship. the relationship is private because it is wrong in so many ways no normal 28 year old would want to hang out with a 16 year old unless they could get something in return.

Answer 100

Lmfao! I'm 22 and I wouldn't date a 16 years old. This dude needs help.

Answer 101

If he was smart enough to tell you that he should be smart enough not to go out with you but anyways you wont know you're ready till your ready.

Answer 102

Well hes over 10 years older than you and your a minor so it would be statuary rape and thats 25 years to life if he has sex with you

Answer 103

Whats important is to know when yr ready for intimate touching, cuddling, sex, or other body contact. Let no one harass you to do something yr not confident in, or havnt practiced on yr one. You will be weaker for giving them what they want if you give in to their intimidation and comply with their wishes

Answer 104

He to old you should wait for 18 you get him in jail if ur parents and friends know trust they will find out you can never hide the truth

Answer 105

HE'S WAY TOO OLD HE COULD BE YOUR DAD! Is he that desperate that he's going for a 16 year old while he's 28 I'd say 20-16 is barely ok

Answer 106

Wait to be married. If you have an physical relationship with him now, and you end up not marrying him, then you will never b e able to erase the deed or the memory for the rest of your LIFE!! Don't do that to yourself. You are more precious than giving yourself away to a moment of - passion.

Answer 107

In views of the age gap, it could well be that you are being groomed so that he can get better sex sessions when you are prepared.

It is not compulsory; you would be wise to wait until you are in a committed stable relationship

Answer 108

I'll be blunt. He's taking advantage of you because you are young and stupid, tons of older guys do it, if it weren't a prison sentance even more guys would do it too. Yeah, even the 'decent' ones would. Who doesn't like a young tight box? If a man says he's never imagined boning a dumb 16yo he is lying.

Answer 109

you know your ready to have sex, when YOU are comfortable with it, don't let him force you into anything, sex is a beautiful experience but you have to be careful

Answer 110

You are ready for sex when you get married.

Answer 111

That is considered statutory rape. Even if you consent, he is still considered a rapist. You two should wait until you're 18 or split up. He's 12 years older than you.

Answer 112

IF YOU ARE UNDER 18 THIS IS CONCIDERED RAPE!! Please do not do it (with this guy atleast) until you are 18. You do NOT want anything to go wrong or anyone to find out and him getting in trouble. I do think he may be a little too old For you but it's your life and you can live it how you want. Best of luck :)

Answer 113

Wow the age is scary first off. Second your ready when you KNOW your ready not when you think or feel ready. HUGE difference

Answer 114

When you start asking questions like these, you're ready.

Answer 115

If your older self were able to weigh in here, you would say that you are sexually acting out to please your crush. He is a loser that is preying on young girls. So in your mind you think he likes you for sex and you desire to please him so he will not get tired of you. Well honey this is sic and sad. Losers like he is stay losers, they can not get real women to respond to them, so they hook the immature. You need to join a church youth group and meet friends and have fun. The old man stuff will lead no where.

Answer 116

If you have to ask, you're not ready.

The guy said he'll wait. Guys say what they mean. Don't stress.

Answer 117

When you're not afraid and you don't feel forced into it. When you know all the risks of having sex and you know the preventions of pregnancy and diseases. Your boyfriend is a wierdo/pedo btw. I don't know any grown man in his right mind who would date a child.

Answer 118

well, dear friend, the age gap is not at all ok. Imagine, when he will turn up 50+ and you will be around 30+. What you will do, when your sex urge will not be satisfied your aged husband? You will cheat him or separate from him.

Answer 119

first off your a minor and he is a grown man if. he goes through with having sex with you that would make him a sex offender! take it from someone who had a 28 yr old sex offender take advantage of me when I was 15 you may think this is what you want but it's not! you are not ready sweetie I really hope your gonna take this to heart ! I am 31 now and now I know what that man did to my brain! I know I'm a stranger but please trust me on this one!

Answer 120

UR STILL baby ,just hold his penny in ur hand and tell him that ur ready ,,see his reaction ,,can he wait for more ,,if he dont react ,,,let see he may have some problem

Answer 121

Trolololololololo

Answer 122

Your too young...if he really loves you he will wait and won't preshure you to do anything so just wait until your a bit older trust me I know what I'm talking about

Answer 123

In the UK, the age of consent is 16, though it is illegal for someone above the age of 25 to have sex with someone under the age of 18

Answer 124

When a person is ready for sex, the body will give signal.

Answer 125

Only YOU know when you are ready for sex please do not play attention to any of these answers do it when you are ready!!! no one else should have a say!!

Answer 126

In the uk it's legal at 16 but if you were my daughter I'd have wrenched his teeth out one by one and smashed his jaw clean off his face leave him lovey enjoy young life .

Answer 127

WHOA ! Are you crazy ?! You're 16, and he's 28 ! Hell no ! That's called grooming and he shouldnt even be doing that ! Alert the authorities , I say

Answer 128

What are you doing with a 28 yearold in the first place hes nasty then i wouldnt touch him with a 10 ft poll

Answer 129

You are ready when you are mature enough to understand the consequences of having sex you have to protect yourself

Answer 130

Your ready when you double check if 16 is your countries legal consent age.

Nah JK but you should not if your under the legal age, he could get arrested.

Answer 131

Only ever have sex if you want to. Never have sex just to stop someone breaking up with you. If he deserves you, then he will want to be with you whether or not you have sex.

Answer 132

Um. I am all for dating older men.. But seriously 28? I don't think this will work out.

Answer 133

If he is even thinking of having sex with a minor he is an immoral person and also if he does it he is a criminal. So for your sake and his you should get out of this relationship.

Answer 134

Well in my opinion, Especially the first time, you should do it with someone who you're in love with and someone who treats you right. You also know when you want to buy your protection (condoms, birth control, and anything else you might need)

Answer 135

When it's legal and there is a ring on your finger, a birth control plan, and job that can support a child if indeed it comes to that.

Answer 136

You say your boyfriend is 28 well if you were to have sex and your parents were to find out and they pressed charges it would be considered statutory rape and your boyfriend would be responsible even if you had agreed to have sex with him

Answer 137

Well everyones saying hes a perv but i was 17 when I lost my virginity to my 25 y/o partner xx

Answer 138

When you have no second thoughts of 'should I wait?' and when you know you can trust the person you are with 100%

Answer 139

Break up with him. Be with someone your age. A girl I loved was abused by a older guy. She was 16 he was 25. All he wants is sex and he will abuse you. Dont be stupid and fk up your life. Please find someone you're own age.

Answer 140

You're too freaking young to be having sex. Don't be a hoe!

Answer 141

You'll be able to tell because your body want let it happen I'd your not ready

Answer 142

Mental maturity also is needed for having sex. You will know the ideal time as you grow

Answer 143

You're 16 and he's 28? Find a guy who isn't a lowlife pedophile.

Answer 144

All of a sudden you want to have sex with someone. It s like you suddenly feel hungry.

Answer 145

You're ready when u don't have to ask that question

Answer 146

Simply put youre too young. Why are you with a 28 year old? date someone your own age

Answer 147

When I was ur age I used to watch cartoon m 19 nw nd still watching it ;_;

Answer 148

In most states, you screwing him right now, or until you are 17, will get him thrown in jail. In a handful of states, you must be 18.

Answer 149

I am not going to harp on the age difference because you are jail bait. He needs to wait for you to become 18 to be legal. Enough said.

Answer 150

People are criticizing your age difference but love is love. My only advice is wait till your 18. If this man really cares about you he will wait for you.

Answer 151

No 28 year old should date a 16 year old!! What are you thinking?!

Answer 152

You said you are 16. That means you will most probably be all fit physiologically. Just be prepared emotionally as well. Then you can do it at any time.

Answer 153

Once you're an adult (at least 18-years of age), mature and married.

Answer 154

Once you have graduated high school, married and can handle, "emotionaly and physicly" having a baby then and not until then you are ready !

Answer 155

If you have to ask, then you're not ready.

Answer 156

Neither a troll or he's a pedophile

Answer 157

aw seems like he cares about you/likes u alot.

I'm celibate and i'm fine without having sex. if you guys do oral whats the rush?

Answer 158

Our teacher gave us a good example in middle school. When you won't be embarrassed to buy a condom.

Answer 159

How about you wait til your 18 the n*gga is 28

Answer 160

When you're married

Answer 161

You'll be ready on your honeymoon night ...not before.

Answer 162

You're not ready. Don't do it

Answer 163

2 more years for you sweetheart. your boyfriend does not want to get into legal troubles. after ure 18 he will **** you all night every night.

Answer 164

Just do not, after you having sex, you will break up very soon

Answer 165

no matter what DON'T have sex until you're at least 18 years old. he could go to jail for rape

Answer 166

You just know, if you are asking this question to strangers, then you are not ready.

Answer 167

Mmm

Answer 168

What the heck?!! He is 28?!! Seriously you need to break up with him. I'm pretty sure that's illegal

Answer 169

He won't break up if he really LOVES YOU.. He will wait untill you are ready...

Answer 170

Any 28 year old trying on a 16 year old is a loser, predator, scumbag.



You have been warned, child.

Answer 171

You'll know when you are 21 or over.

Answer 172

When you're married

Answer 173

When you get that funny little twinge in you crotch when you kiss the opposite sex.(or the same sex if your gay) For guys its an erection for girls is getting all wet.

Answer 174

You're 16...you're a minor. That's illegal. He could go to jail

Answer 175

youre always ready. if youre female just do it when a guy is ready.

Answer 176

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Answer 177

If you think he would leave you because of sex, then he doesn't deserve you.

Answer 178

He's way too old for you. Find someone your own age

Answer 179

28? Wtf?! Pedophile alert! He's just saying he wants to wait so he can sound sweet and have sex with you straight away. Eww! I wish the sex law was 18+, 16 year olds are so dumb!

Answer 180

When you are old enough to type correctly. Or when you turn 18 and it is legal for you to do so, whichever comes last.

Answer 181

As a 16 year old myself, my question to you is...why the f**k are you dating a 28 year old?

Answer 182

When you turn 18.

Answer 183

He's a pedophile run

Answer 184

You're underage and he's a lot older than you, he's using you.

Answer 185

If you're male, your weiner will be hard. If you're a female, your cooch will be wet.





GET AWAY FROM THIS DOUCHEBAG!

Answer 186

When ur married to the person u love.

Answer 187

Ask your dad. He knows about cars, and when you need to check the oil in the car you use a dipstick. See if he has a spare one lying around, and see if he will use it to check your levels.

Answer 188

Not to be harsh but it sounds like your easy manipulated..I mean why would you think dating someone that old or that age is ok? I would never even think of doing that & he is doing you dirty point blank..

Answer 189

You know when your BF tells you you are ready.

Answer 190

If you have sex now it's against the law so....

Answer 191

when you don't feel the need to ask "when are you ready for sex"

Answer 192

When masturbation just won't cut it anymore

Answer 193

When your ready

Answer 194

I guess when your pedophile boyfriend decides he can't wait anymore.

Answer 195

When you are married, sex before marriage is wrong.

Answer 196

when u Is 18 boo

Answer 197

You're way too young for him and he could go to jail for statutory rape

Answer 198

You will know it when u r ready.

Answer 199

he is using you..

he is a pervert

pedophile

28

pffff

he should be dating 25 year olds

not 16

he is sick!!!

Answer 200

I'd say you are "ready" whenever you turn legal age wherever you are.

Answer 201

You got some good advice here girl. Listen to it.

Answer 202

When your ready to have babies remember u could have twins :)

Answer 203

When you were in kindergarten he was in his senior year of high school. You should get someone closer to your age.

Answer 204

You will just know, but don't do it with him it would be rape

Answer 205

He s paedophile stay away from him and go out with someone your own age!

Answer 206

wow congratulation for becoming a s!ut right when you turned 16

Answer 207

16 ?? ohh u can wait upto a ... 26? u shd .. or u shd go by 21

Answer 208

If you are old enough to get a job and take care of yourself if you get pregnant and he decides to leave you.

Answer 209

What! His too old for you but i suggest u wait until your old enough your still young

Answer 210

You better start putting out

Answer 211

Uhmm.. Your boyfriend is a pedo lolol

Answer 212

You will feel it when you are ready, Its called sexual urge

Answer 213

You should not have sex with your boyfriend till after marriage. Sex is a sacred gift from God which must be preserved for marriage. There are many unintended consequences that occur as a result of sex before marriage.



Here’s some information about sex before marriage from the books True Love Lasts, Straight Talk About Teen Dating, and Straight Talk About Dating:



Having sex before marriage can be harmful to you and to your future. This harm could include:



- not feeling good about yourself



- finding out that having sex causes people to become emotionally attached way too quickly



- sex becoming the main focus of your relationship



- finding out that having sex makes people ignore serious problems in the person they’re dating - serious problems that could destroy a marriage



- failing to realize that dating relationships which have sex as their main focus usually don’t last - until the relationship falls apart



- not learning to have real communication with each other, to be in touch with the your positive and negative feelings and the feelings of your significant other, to resolve conflicts in a calm constructive manner, to really get to know what your significant other is like in all situations because you’re spending too much time having sex



- not feeling good about choosing to have sex after your boyfriend or girlfriend says “I love you” and then later finding out he or she was lying to you just to get sex or he or she just has the feeling of being “in love” instead of true love (true love is supposed to be a lifelong commitment)



- feeling that you need to keep having sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend or else they’ll break up with you - even though you don’t feel good about it



- finding out that having sex makes people stay in dating relationships much longer than they should



- making the bad choice to stay in a relationship that you know isn’t good for you because you’re having sex



- being broken hearted after your boyfriend or girlfriend breaks up with you



- becoming an angry person after having your heart broken



- becoming depressed or possibly even suicidal after having your heart broken (please see a professional counselor immediately if you feel depressed or suicidal)



- feeling that you can’t trust anyone anymore after you’ve had your heart broken



- feeling horrible that you broke your boyfriend or girlfriend’s heart when you broke up with them



- getting into the habit of jumping from one sexual relationship to another looking for true love and sadly never finding it



- getting a sexually transmitted disease



- getting pregnant



- becoming a single mother (guys often don’t marry their pregnant girlfriends)



- having a child who doesn’t have a stable male role model in their life



- becoming more hesitant about making a lifelong marriage commitment to another person after having your heart broken



- ending up having problems relating sexually to your husband or wife in marriage because of the sex you had with them (and possibly with others) before marriage



- becoming divorced (statistics show that couples who have sex before marriage are more likely to get divorced than couples who don’t have sex before marriage)



(Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)



Also, pray to Lord Jesus and invite him into your life. He will give you the strength, wisdom, and guidance you need in order to overcome any challenge or addiction in life. He will also bring the right people into your life as long as you have faith

Answer 214

Wow he's too old for you

Don't do it :)

Answer 215

your boyfriend is TOO old for you, find a boy your own age and grow your feelings together

Answer 216

First of all....illegal. That's it. It's illegal

Answer 217

When you can talk about it comfortably with your parents and Doctor

Answer 218

The body will tel you. You only need to observe the changes

Answer 219

Whic?

Answer 220

I'm awake.

Answer 221

u must be 18 for this to happen

or he can be arrested for

statutory rape

even if u consented to it!!

Answer 222

When you feel like his penis isn't scary anymore.

Answer 223

How about waiting until he is not being charged with statutory rape?

Answer 224

The older man who you think in your boyfriend should be in jail.

Answer 225

I dont know. When u trust i guess

Answer 226

Stay away from him

Answer 227

well you would have this feeling i guess. this feeling i had was weird. well what do i know im 16

Answer 228

When you can afford a baby

Answer 229

If you have to hide your realationship,its not right to begin with.

Answer 230

If you are a girl, when you are wet, warm and runny

Answer 231

I bet you anything this is a troll

Answer 232

Trial & error

Answer 233

get out of that relationship. he is pressuring you without you knowing it.

Answer 234

Don't do it! Your case is illegal

Answer 235

UR HORNY JUST DO İT AND FEEL THE PLEASURE :)) SEX İS GREAT LOVE İT TO THE FULLEST

Answer 236

28? ._. Too old for you

Answer 237

this is a big age gap

Answer 238

you just know. and that guy is too old for you flipping break up with him

Answer 239

Your not or u wood not be asking

Answer 240

when in pop a bone

Answer 241

When my eyes open in the morning.

Answer 242

You actually get wet and horny around him

Answer 243

When you love that perosn

Answer 244

You will know

Answer 245

When u maka de milk

Answer 246

You get super horny and wet

Answer 247

🐓

Answer 248

This is INSANE!! The age difference is a NUCLEAR RED FLAG!!!!!!!!

Answer 249

You will just know.

Answer 250

just know u feel it in your gut

Answer 251

he's too old girl

Answer 252

wow

Answer 253

when you cant go without doing it

Answer 254

YOU'RE TOO YOUNG FOR HIM! YOU ARE JAIL BAIT!!!!!!

Answer 255

ugh

Answer 256

This is a retarded af question.

Answer 257

Your parts will tell you.

Answer 258

ur being used~!

Answer 259

When u get a *****

Answer 260

Go for it!

Answer 261

you just know

Answer 262

when you realize his too old for you

Answer 263

You know.

Answer 264

U should **** his friends

Answer 265

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PgAyRCK9y9A

Answer 266

I love to have sex..........

Answer 267

Never be a criminal.

Answer 268

When you want it

Answer 269

its when you get too horniness

Answer 270

you will never know

Answer 271

When your pecker becomes fully erect.

Answer 272

tell your man that you want cunnilingus before penetration.

Answer 273

All I can say is, ask him what the future is for the both of you?



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Answer 274

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Answer 275

Don't do it it's a trap please don't do it

Answer 276

this is rape

Answer 277

Please tell me this is a troll.

Answer 278

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Answer 279

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Answer 280

please wait