why do i attract guys i dont find attractive on online dating site?

Question

I've decided to give online dating a go because meeting a guy in a bar is hardly what I want to do and being in my 20s there's not that much opportunity to meet guys

But every message I get I am never attracted enough to the guy I am not an unattractive girl what is the problem here

Answer 1

Either you're too picky or you have bad luck. Just be patient.

Answer 2

The problem is that attractive guys don't need a dating site. Generally it's the less attractive ones that frequent it, whereas good looking girls don't mind looking on the net AND the real world. I joined a dating site once and didn't meet a single guy I was attracted to.



Better ways to meet guys: Hang out with new crowds. Meet friends of friends. Join groups - even if you don't meet a great guy in a group (say a dance class, or a course or some kind of club) you could meet someone who is friends with a great guy.

Answer 3

If you go to meet someone then tell someone where and when, keep your phone on you and get a friend to ring you half way through the date.....a man who is genuine won't mind this and will understand. Also if you get a friend to ring you and the date is going rubbish you can make out it's an emergancy and you have to leave. Meet in the day time in a public place. NEVER go anywhere where you will be totally alone with this person and leave yourself in a vunerable position - DON'T get drunk!!! Only when you have spend a lot of time with this person should you let your guard down a little. If you can arrange a double date then it's safer and sometimes more fun.

Answer 4

Well I think it doesn't matter whether you're meeting someone in person or someone online there are rules that needs to be followed if we're going to be successful in our search for love. I feel you can meet someone online which should eventually lead to meeting them in person if the two of you connect. The benefit in online dating is that you can check out someone before you actually meet them face to face and yes there are a lot of people on there so you'll need to spend a little time checking the various profiles to determine the one that meets your approval. Sounds like a job, I know, but it's worth it. There are rules to follow though to make your online dating experience a variable and safe one. There's lots of great online advice regarding online dating and I've referenced below one that's helped me.

Answer 5

Your description of yourself, and what you want in a man - this is what draws / repulses people! :-)



Be as descriptive as possible, this way you should be able to sift out the chaff...



For instance - I put in my profile:

..."guys using the expression -lol- will be considered no brainers..."



Whatever makes you tick... or not. And don't be afraid to change and tweak your descriptions all the time according to the responses that you are getting.



Another VERY GOOD TIP: Go look at other people's profiles, and see what DRAWS you, and what PUSHES YOU away in their personal essays about themselves and also about the type of person they are looking for. It doesn't matter to borrow ideas from others :-)))

Good luck, I am right there with ya!

Answer 6

Well, I’m feeling optimistic on this topic (for once!) There’s a fun dating video by Lisa Daily, author of HOW TO DATE LIKE A GROWN-UP here : http://lisadaily.com/datingexperttv/2008/11/the-man-shortage-is-over-by-lisa-daily/



Daily says that by 2010 there will actually be a million extra men in the US. Makes me feel hopeful after all….

Answer 7

Thing about dating sites is that there are too many people looking, one guy goes through thousands of girls a week, and girl goes through a thousand guys, when it everyone needs is one life partner



You will find a guy soon, don't worry :]



Don't rush it, theres still time



Good luck :]

Answer 8

That all guys are unattractive on dating sites?

Answer 9

Seriously, don't do online dating, it's pretty risky and you never know who is pleasuring themselves to your picture..but you have so much time ahead of you, and i think the healthiest way to date is in reality. good luck and be patient!

Answer 10

The good thing with online dating sites you can always filter out the nes you don't want, without being rude, and they will understand and move on.

Answer 11

you have no confidence in your self, get off the online dating, what you see ain't all ways what you get, befriend a gay transvestite they will give you that needed injection of confidence and then well ive been married 15 years now so .....

Answer 12

most super hot guys already have girls or have them throwing themselves at their feet otherwise normal looking guys are on there, so maybe you just might have to meet people in "real life"

Answer 13

who knows..i say just try being more patient http://tinyurl.com/5scp5f

Answer 14

u are unlucky like me.............

Answer 15

idk don't get discouraged just focus something else in life