I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He has started to become distant.?

Question

We had a long talk and it seems if he is not sure if I am the one. He is confused and unsure of next steps. Now he says he thinks that he has to close an issue from a past relationship for us to move forward. He wants me to trust him and be patient. This is very hard for me. He tells me he loves me and cares about me.

Answer 1

found a new place to bury his bone.

Answer 2

Any hesitation he shows right now might be for a good reason. Keep your options open. If he can't commit after 3 years, theres obviously something there. Give him a little time, but not TOO much more. He's already taken 3 years to get this far with you. If he's just stringing you along, its time to say "I need a little break from us". Your not saying you want to see other people, but you'd like some time to yourself while he gets his head out of his ***. Maybe some time without you around can help him figure out whether or not your the best thing that ever happened to him, or just another girl in a long string of "close, but not quites"..

Answer 3

Many things could have happened:

- He found someone else

- He started dating you because he liked you, but never expected you to be "the one"

- The worst threat in a relationship is the monotony, and in long term relationships that happened a lot (I've experienced it) and maybe he got tired

- He's telling the truth, he has an issue he needs to close, but you deserve to know what's about.

- Some men hate commitment



My advice: tell him you need to know what's going on, because you can't be waiting for him forever. Without communication, a relationship is destined to failure.



Good luck!!!

Answer 4

The fact that he is asking you to trust him and be patient tells me he really cares about you. Sounds as though he does love you. The question is whether you want to wait and be patient and trust him. Of course, if you show him no patience and no trust then he will probably move on and you will lose him. What do you want?

Answer 5

If you truly love him, wait it out. He maybe trying to move forward with your relationship. He might be nervous, but if he loves you, he will work out whatever the issue is.

Answer 6

He will probably dump your so prepare yourself, give him all the space he wants and dont appear desperate, Guys hate that..........

Answer 7

i guess u just have to hope and trust him. and when a guy says sumthing do it

Answer 8

just give him more time

Answer 9

maybe it\'s something you did ,,, maybe he just found some1 else



==========================================================

If you are single and have the time, please visit my site:

http://www.**************/go3.php