What should I do about this? Sorry this is so long please read it! Is that love or is he obsessed?

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Does this sound like he was in love or just infatuated with her? I need other people's point of view before I drive myself crazy! I'm going to explain briefly about the situation not trying to make this too long, but I kinda need to go into details so you can analyze this better. Ok I'm in a long distance relationship and it has been a while since we had been around each other physically, but we talked on the phone EVERY single day and we have been having alot of problems about me not being there he started talking to me less and less acting irritated with me not answering my phone calls for days. He deleted me off his friends list on facebook and he never put us up as in a relationship on his facebook status. I know we were having problems and I was doing my best to fix it. I check his facebook everyday just spying making sure no females was leaving him comments and stuff.

I'm just going to list some stuff that I don't understand what happened and do you think he was in love with her.

1. I checked his facebook one morning he did a quiz about sex, his results we're low a female replied " damn baby step your game up" lmafo. I was suspicious but I let it go just thinking she was a friend

2. I left that morning and went to the post office mailing him a valentine's day card and a picture of me and a long letter trying to make plans to come stay with him trying to repair our relationship, got home called him numerous times he didn't answer his phone. I got on his facebook and it had he was in a relationship with the girl who left that comment on his page.

3. I went straight to her sent her a message on facebook and gave her my number and she told me that they had been together for about a month and they were trying to have a baby and had big plans with each other.

4. She called me back with him on the phone we were all on three-way, he cussed me out like no other called me all kinds of bitches and telling her I'm lying and so on. I was SO shocked because he never talked to me like that and I was shocked because it was another female

5. He took her to meet his mother

6. He was giving her money

7. He let her friend deposit her income tax check into his account and something happened and it took all his money and left him broke

8. Gave her his facebook password

9. Had me call her and tell her he wasn't talking to me anymore( i did it like a fool).

10. She told me that he had oral sex with her on her period(GROSS)!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Days went by after I found out and I called him 3 days later he told me he was sorry and he didn't want her like that he was just tired of being lonely. He said he loved me and he just wanted someone to be with until I got there. He said that she was someone he used to date when he was younger and would never have sex with him and one day he just happened to bump into her and she was willing to then. Why would he go through all that for someone he doesn't love. Can a man be infatuated with a women and love another or how would you analyze this? I am so confused!!! It's so much more to it but just so far what do you think?

Answer 1

I'm sorry that this happened to you, but I suggest you forget about this guy, who is clearly a sex hungry asshole and you need to move on and find someone who you can physically be with.



I would be so fricken crushed if my long distance boyfriend did this to me, and to another person. I don't have words to describe how upset I'd be.



Don't tolerate this, find someone better.



good luck xx

Answer 2

I believe the complete "he has to do the whole thing for you" factor may be very foolish. A courting includes two persons! Not just a few ***** who controls a slave (no longer announcing you are a ***** or something, that is simply how I see that rule lol). Anyways again to my factor - you must suppose loose to do stuff for him. So name him! And watch out being hooked up and so younger to a boy can result in harm..And I was once precisely the identical as you, I took a whilst to return out of my shell round a few persons. But I've learnt from enjoy that it is fine simply to mention what you suppose like! Be your self! If he does not adore it. I'm certain an extra boy will :)

Answer 3

He was lonely and he made bad decisions. I don't think you can trust him enough to have a long distance relationship with him right now. Maybe if you guys suddenly find that you're living cloeby then you can try but not while you're away.



He was just lonely and thought he was in love with her. He was trying to fill in the gaps.