Are girl's really atraccted to assholes?

Question

I am one of the "nice guys" out there...I believe that if you should treat girls with respect etc...But this mentality dosen't take me anywhere with girls...I am now starting to believe ...That the bigger of an asshole you are the more girls will like you..I don't like being an asshole...But being nice dosen't work so...Do I really have to become an asshole to get anywhere with a girl?? (I would preffer a female opinion but anyone can answer)

Answer 1

Yes, girls are attracted to assholes. Some will call them bad boys instead of assholes, or whatever. Many girls won't admit this, or perhaps some have a blind spot that keeps them from seeing it. I just had a girl come right out today and tell me (after I told her "go for the good guys"): "But the good guys just aren't any fun."



At least this girl is truthful and honest about it, as nauseating as her statement is. Many girls will tell you, no, I prefer a nice guy. They'll answer this question and say, don't become a jerk, be yourself, be nice and respectful. But I can tell you, doing this will probably get you nowhere.



I believe that the reason most girls are attracted to assholes, is that deep down, beneath their outer beauty, they themselves- the girls, that is- are ASSHOLES. Yes, I think I'm the first guy to come out and say this: Most girls in today's world are total assholes.



You basically have 2 choices. 1) You can try being an asshole, and you might get some girls, maybe, if you can pull off faking being an asshole. 2) You can be yourself (nice), and not get the girls.



But whichever you choose, don't let girls push you around. Don't make the mistakes I've made in the past, that is, letting girls use you, abuse you, and always get the short end of the stick. These girls have cost me a ton of time, money, energy, and pain. Don't let the same thing happen to you.



If you choose option 2 above, then let the girls have a blast of "fun" with their jerks. They can have their assholes, the drama and soap opera nonsense that goes along with it. Just whatever you do, don't let them come whining and crying to you when they get hurt. They made their bed, let them lie in it. Don't be the shmuck that gets no benefits but has to listen to the aftermath. Man up.



Yeah, I know, what I'm saying won't be popular. But I'm convinced it's the truth, sad to say.

Answer 2

I assume you are talking about girls in their teens and twenties. When women get older, they have very different objectives and are usually more mature in their choices. They usually aren't attracted to assholes because ...well, assholes are assholes.



However, that being said, the answer is "yes," some girls are attracted to assholes. Conversely, some guys are attracted only to girls with big racks. It is just as pernicious on both sides of the fence and just as stupid.



However, the good news is that some girls are not attracted to assholes. In fact, the very ones that you want are the very ones that are not - so it works out. You just have to find them.



Girls are just as confused and insecure as guys are. The plain truth is that most girls don't really know what they want any more than you do. They just don't have the experience yet. Successful dating is simply a numbers game. The first girl you approach is not likely to "be the one." You have to try out as many girls as you can to find the one that works for you.



So, I'll give you my best super-secret tip on meeting decent women - because you seem to need it. The best place to meet women is not church, or school, or a nightclub. The best place to meet them is....wait for it.... an arts and crafts store - preferably one of the big chain ones. Those places are usually crawling with good single women - and here's the point - who don't have their freaking defenses up like they do in a nightclub. Moreover, you'll be the only straight dude in the place. The odds are completely stacked in your favor.



What you do is go into one of those stores and go down any aisle. Pick one at random. Look confused and helpless. Make sure there is an attractive woman close by and then say to her "Hey, sorry to bother you but I have to buy some yarn (make something up if yarn doesn't work) for my sister's birthday and I have absolutely no clue what I am doing. Can you help me?" Etc, etc, etc. 9 times out of 10 they will - and you are off and running.



Trust me. It works. It has been field tested.

Answer 3

It's true that women are attracted to assholes. But this can be a confusing subject to some. Being and asshole is the lazy way to get women. Humor and romanticism will get you more women than you can shake a stick at. But, most men are not romantic or funny. They are actually un-intelligent. However, they can be mean, violent, and sarcastic really easily. Anyone can do it actually. You can do it right now. Go outside and the next guy that walks by you say, "You walk like a turtle." It's easy to say something like that.

But, try to be funny and romantic and you will come up short. It is the funny and romantic guys who bed the most attractive women. Yeah, jerks get laid, but not as often as you might think. The best seducers in history were romantic, charming, and witty. So, to answer your question, being a jerk is an easy way to get sub-par women, but to get hot attractive women you need something more.

Answer 4

NO! you dont have to be an asshole to get a girl sweety, u seem like a nice guy so dont ruin it, you just havent found the right girl yet, that doesnt mean u never will, dont turn into an asshole most girls hate that the only girl ull ever get by being an asshole is a whore and i doubt a cool guy like u wants to be with a whore.

Answer 5

From my perspective, you're right. Most girls do seem to go for the arrogant, self-centered, drama filled guy. Unfortunately, those girls realize too late what they got themselves in for.



I got myself one of the good guys. At least, he is most of the time.



It seems like the nicer you are as a guy, the more girls see you as the 'friend'. Well, that may be true. But, that's just because you're probably looking for girls in the wrong places. If you are in high school or even middle school, being nice doesn't get you anywhere. That's because of the varying maturity levels. Don't you worry though, because that will change; eventually.



Don't stop being nice. Don't stop treating girls with respect. Once you find the right girl, you'll be glad you waited. You'll also be pleased with yourself that you didn't turn into the typical arrogant bastard.



Good luck & be patient! Your time will come, believe me.

Answer 6

Go after a girl who just got dumped by an asshole, she'll appreciate you. Or maybe you're just too nice to the point that you are a doormat. Do you text her constantly and focus all of your thoughts and decisions on her? Because if so that could be a turn off for a girl. That can be "clingy".

Answer 7

the answer is yes and no.



Girls are not attracted to assholes per se, but assholes do have qualities that girls are attracted to.



The main ones being confidence and excitement (the two things that shy guys tend to lack).



Girls are attracted to confidence, they love a guy who is just sure of himself and can take charge, assholes are usually an extreme of this, they not just sure of themselves but full of themselves. They are practically in love with themselves and if it was possible they would date themselves. They have so much confidence it reeks.



Girls are attracted to excitement, they tend to like guys who can take them out of the norm, shake things up, hell for lack of a better word, guys who can entertain them, keep things interesting. Assholes are usually an extreme of this too, with an asshole a girl never knows what to expect he might bring her flowers or he might punch her in the face, non-stop excitement.



There are ways to become more interesting to girls without being an asshole but you have to at least look at what is it about the assholes that women like.

Answer 8

us girls like assholes only because they're hard to get, but in the long run, nice guys are the best, you cant have a good relationship with an asshole :)

Answer 9

Different girls like different types of guys and yes there is girls who love being with a guy that treats them like dirt but there's also so many others. There's a fair few girls that enjoy having a bad boy or two at certain times in their lives but usually they realise that you can't have anything serious or marry a bad boy because it'll only end in tears and isn't enough. Personally I wouldn't tolerate a bad guy in that sense because I wouldn't put up with being treated bad and spoken wrongly or meanly to.

Answer 10

the thing is with assholes is that they have the disgusting arrogance (confidence) to just walk up to a girl and put his arm around her and sweet talk her and flirt with her. This will attract the girls as the guy shows an immediate interest in her and is nice and upfront about it. She may know that he does it to all the other girls but her hormones betray her and as much as she may deny it, she likes the attention.



With lovely, respectful guys, they would not just walk up to a girl and sling his arm around her. they would be gently and polite (I hope) and it will take time for the girl to become attracted to him, not just because of hormones but because of who he is and is morals.



With assholes, they appeal to girls because of the immediate play on hormones. With respectful guys, it should develop into something much stronger and beautiful then a simple hormone attraction.



I would LOVE to meet a respectful guy who would properly look after me and say sweet things that he means... ahh the world works in strange ways... But dont change what you stand for, and dont change your attitude towards girls. Don't look at us as objects to be "got" and "sought after" like pirates looking for a treasure chest.



You will meet someone and have a beautiful relationship with them, just, please, dont become an utter pr**k <3

Answer 11

alright i am fellow nice guy, I started trying to date girls, and they would always see me as friends cause idk I guess I just didnt give them enough hints that I liked them so they just assumed that I wanted to be friends. Here is the thing still be a nice guy, but you have to take more risks.....like you cant respect them so much that you will never do anything to them you understand? its not that they like assholes, but there the only guys that take the risks.

Answer 12

Because assholes are humorous they usually make us chickidees chuckle. BUT you do not need to be an asshole to be humorous or to get a females awareness. Some ladies similar to the wannabe rebels

Answer 13

MOST do maybe even so much as all girls do however a few girls like nice guys too. Usually after enough failed relationships girls start considering nice guys.

Answer 14

we'll i don't know what kind of girls you are meeting,

but i would love if a nice guy liked me.



and sometimes girls like those asses. cause they think that they can change them. make them become nice. guess its a challenge.

or sometimes they might be extremely hot, and the girl just wants the boy as a boy toy.



no worries, you'll find that girl.

just don't turn into a ***

Answer 15

ah, okay the problem is girls notice the assholes more bcuz they are out there more. they wouldn't realize you quite as much but they'd prefer a guy like you

Answer 16

dont change! unfortunatley girls , usually young ones, are attracted to bad boys. its exciting. but every girl wants to settle down with a nice guy. your a rare breed!

Answer 17

haha, I'm 15, and i know we seem to be attracted to assholes, but really they are just a big joke. and duh, being nice works, just be yourself along with it and you'll be fine!

Answer 18

nah..we are attracted to the whole person not just that part hahahahahaha

Answer 19

no!!!!!!!!!!! please, do NOT turn into another asshole.