okay I need help or i will never have a healthy relationship?

Question

I am only attracted sexually to guys I know are bad for me...when i sleep w/ them though i think i tone my sexuality down because i don't want them to think i've been around (which i havn't) i guess i think i can create a relationship w/ them. When it comes to nice guys that do show they care i am not sexually attracted to them...i suppose i feel they couldn't handle me. The bad ones are always better looking ne ways. Please don't tell me to stop paying attention to looks because honestly that is not going to happen and please don't diss me saying I'm shallow. Maybe I'm just scared to sleep w/ a nice guy cuz i dont want a relationship....but i always want one w/ the bad guys...it just never really works out as i planned. Is there a such thing as a hot, "bad" boy that can treat a girl right..?

Answer 1

Me! im a hot "good guy" tone yourself down a bit...

you would av trouble keeping up.

Answer 2

To be honest, I'm often told, on a daily basis by girls that I am smoking hot .... I have a good jaw line, and nice eyes and am what my friends would desribe as a "pretty boy" .... though I myself am modest, I'm only going by what people tell me, so don't give me thumbs down for saying that. I'm actually a really nice guy, and am very loving with my girlfriend, but am a joker too, definately not a bad boy, but when I'm in bed I am FILTHY in terms of what I say, and am (dare I say it) probably better and more controlling in bed than most of the "bad boys" you talk about. In fact, I'm probably better than them in every way, so give nice guys a chance, at the end of the day, they're a lot better!

Answer 3

It's not healthy. That is a lot of stress that you are putting each other through. yes every couple fights, yes make up sex is mostly amazing. maybe you should try talking to each other. Tell him why it makes you mad. have him tell you why he is mad. just make sure you talk AFTER the fighting has ended, and everything is calming down. You need to set up good communication and come to some sort of compromise on how to cut back on fighting with each other. but most of all what ever decision you come to try to make an effort to keep you word. If you agree to stop making a big deal over him not calling you, then really try to do that. It takes a lot of work to be in a relationship. but it is totally worth it.

Answer 4

Ok So i definately see where you are coming from and there is absolutely nothign wrong with liking bad boys, the reason you do it is because its exciting its a challenge, bad boys have this aura about them that draws you to them. The only way you are going to get past it is by evaluating what you want from a relationship, understand that bad boys are bad for a reason - they hurt you and throw you aside or get you into trouble. You need to decide where you are in your life. You are still quite young and have plenty of time to figure it out. Trust me the time will come when you are sick of the fun and games and you actually want that nice boy from next door who treats you like an angel.



But for now just enjoy yourself and have a good time......

Answer 5

If you're young then I think it is usual to like the bad guys, maybe because you don't want anything that lasts for a long time. If you go out with a nice guy there might be no reason to break up and then you're stuck with him, and this can be quite difficult to accept if you're young. And by the way, in my experience, if you go out with bad guys it also helps you recognise when you actually have a nice one and then you will appreciate him more and have a good relationship.

Don't be cruel to yourself

Wear a condom

End it if you are unhappy

Good luck - Naomi aka wizard bob

Answer 6

Hell yer there not bad guys lol. The few u have been with well they were charming funny good in bed but they couldnt commit. Thats the difference. Babe ur gonna meet a fxcking drop dead rough around the edges spunk and he will knock u off ur feet! Ur attracted to them because they are manly u see security as in the fact tht if anything was to ever happen thy cld protect u and theres nothing wrong with that is there?? if there is im a sucker to haha. Its true to they are spunky! Just there strong arms around u and they always have sex c traits about them. Listen up they do exist and u need to have confidence in urself for them to fall for u if it isnt there could u handle them???

Answer 7

I think you will learn it the hard way.... you will always fall for the same type, till it get so bad that you it occurs to you that you have to change.



Or you will start to enjoy the pain and find a way to accepted.



The chance you will find the right guy is 1 to 10000 or even more...



And the age will make you change, patience

Answer 8

i'm 10 years older than you and i'm still doing this! i meet nice guys but they don't exsite me, and i run for the hills..

god lifes complicated.. but if you find a hot bad boy that can treat you right.. find out if he has an older brother!!

good luck chick..

Answer 9

how about becoming friends with someone first, or not sleeping with them until, like it is something.

Answer 10

sounds like you have a very low self esteem

Answer 11

You need to fix you, for sure.

Answer 12

yes - me