How should I talk with a friend who just broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years to show interest in her?

Question

My friend, a girl, just broke up with her boyfriend of almost 3 years after he cheated on her with a sophomore. They are both seniors and I am a junior. I have been interested in her since we met when I was a freshman in my Geometry Honors class. I just started liking her midway through last year but her boyfriend was always in the way. I really want to ask her to Prom in a few months and I would possibly like to go out with her before she goes off to college in the fall. I am afraid that she sees us as nothing more than a completely platonic thing. How and when do I make a move to show interest but without seeming too involved because she is a gorgeous girl and I am not really comparable and I still want to be friends regardless because she is one of my closest friends...

Answer 1

Be there for her and give her time to get over her boyfriend. As for when to make your move, I'd say go for it whenever you think she is over her ex. Unfortunately this might not happen by the time she graduates, relationships like that can take a LONG time to get over. So here's the thing. If you don't foresee her getting over her ex in time for you to get in a relationship with her before college, you have to make a decision. Go for it, knowing she might not be 100% emotionally available, or give her the rest of her time and wait and see what might happen in the future.

As for the perfect situation, I'd say when people start finding their prom dates sit down with her and talk to her. Tell her exactly how you feel. Get everything out on the table. I know it's tough and that it really puts your heart on the line, but if you do that and she doesn't see you as a boyfriend at least you know there is nothing you left out. If she does, then great! Just know even if she does see you as a potential boyfriend she will likely want to take things very slow at first since she just did get out of a long relationship which I'm sure she is extremely hurt by.

Answer 2

Giving her random compliments, if she tells you about another boy she is interested in pick out some fault (eg he has a big nose lol). Especially if she tells you more than one guy this will give her a clue. But after month or so the best thing to do is to admit that you like her and then if she has the same affections ask her out on a date. Girls like it when men are honest, if you clue all the time she might get annoyed.

Answer 3

awww. thats' so sweet of you, what you can possibly do is, first, talk with her if he needs help to overcome or is there anything ou could help with. show sympathy and care.

second, you can just make her realise that 'whatever happens, happens for a good'... take care of her and if she pays abit of heed then get on with the third and most crucial step...

make her feel that how bad her ex was, a big flirt or prove to her that her ex was gay!

this surely gona work....and the time come you'll know when to ask her out.





take care.

akki